WHEN depends on my decision-2 years ago--no problem
Recently- Call me long distance
Also SPOUSE-(WIFE)--NO
Partner-girlfriend=NO ring -- ok
I forgave it twice..... third time I got revenge and done it myself.
no issues at all...they are always replaceable.
I could not forgive. And I would want to know. Ignorance isn't bliss. Ignorance is ignorance.
No, I will never forgive him for cheating. Yes. I would want to know.
Yes I would and I want to know
Too much self respect to allow myself to stay....
My husband is much older than I am and his health precludes us having sex.
I was an Escort and he was a client when I met him. So he knows me pretty well.
I liked the money, but just loved the sex. You see I have cheated on him since the earliest days of our marriage.
There have been times that I tried to tell him about it and he refused to hear so now I just keep my mouth shut.
I do not make a great effort to hide my activities, so he must know.
None the less, he still treats me like I am the Sun Rising in the East.
Cheat, under my definition would be having sex, once or multiple times, and then hiding it, or lying about it. She doesn't need my permission to fuck anyone she wants. But if she broke my trust, or I broke hers, It would be over immediately. 18 years of marriage, and I trust everything that comes out of her mouth. I refuse to lie to her, or anyone else for that matter. I believe with every fiber of my being she has never lied to me.
The trust we have for each other could never be repaired if it were broken.
I did back in 1990, but I haven't forgotten and never will.
It's not an automatic deal breaker.
My first response would be to find out why it happened, if it was only casual experimenting, it would not bother me that much.
The Miriam-Webster definition of forgive is:
"to stop feeling anger toward someone who has done something wrong"
To hold onto anger is like a festering sore that will eventually turn septic.
It might not happen right away, but, I would eventually have to forgive for my own peace of mind and well being.
That being said, if my partner cheats, that would be the end of the relationship.
One of the key components of a healthy relationship is trust.
Cheating destroys the trust. If you would not do it with your partner's eyes on you and/or without the partner knowing, than doing it is cheating (obviously that is within common sense, not talking about taking a crap or something).
Let say you stay with a cheating partner. How could you ever keep from thinking that the next time they are 45 minutes late, the next time they end a phone call as you enter the room, the next time a conversation between partner and someone else ended just as you got there, etc etc , that they aren't fucking around. The doubt will always be in the back of your head.
How do you keep from that? You could have them account for every minute of the day you are apart. Phone them every hour and they must answer after 2 rings. Check the car mileage after every trip. Always keep an eye on them constantly at a party. Check and smell their clothes and body every time they come back. And so on, and so on. Neither party can continue like that.
I wouldn't be able to live like that and who would want to.
The relationship will turn toxic and full of resentment for the cheater and cheatee.
One of the hardest issues that I had when I was married was finding out that the Woman that I was married to had cheated. I had a hard time forgiving her because she did it with multiple men while I was out building electrical power lines and she was laying by the pool blowing and fucking someone while I was working my ass off to supply an income for a life of togetherness for us. I couldn't forgive her because our life of togetherness had become a lie.. And yes, I would want to know and am happy that I did find out and allowed us to move on in different directions.
If we had discussed having an open relationship and we both agreed that it was tolerable for us to enjoy being with others, then it would not have been a problem. It would not have been a life of lies and ill integrity. I have had relationships where the Lady in my life did not wish to have open relationship, so we stayed monogamous. But we both agree that if we were to try openness, then it would be a discussion that we would have with sincerity.
Would you forgive your partner/spouse for cheating? Would you rather they did not tell you?
its hard to forgive bt not impossible, everyone messes in lyf n we ar 4gven tats y we ar human beings
Being completely honest, I consider myself to be a very forgiving person so there is a good chance that I would forgive them, assuming they were apologetic, but I couldn't say for sure. Ultimately I think I would rather just not know and let the relationship continue to go well or fizzle out on it's own.
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Nope...it happens alot in relationships and no one is the wiser. It seems like people expect it and accept it
Nope...it happens alot in relationships and no one is the wiser. It seems like people expect it and accept it
Nope...it happens alot in relationships and no one is the wiser. It seems like people expect it and accept it
Nope...it happens alot in relationships and no one is the wiser. It seems like people expect it and accept it
Best advice on this is: don't ask and don't tell!!
I'd want to know what she did, who she did it with, and how often. No way I'm letting my imagination play with that shit.
Of course I could forgive her. That doesn't necessarily mean we'd stay together, though.
I would thank him for cheating, would be an easy way out for me....
I would forgive my wife for cheating , as long as she wanted to be forgiven ! Love and trust are paramount features of a marriage ; physical , sexual needs are another matter .
In the end, I would hope I would. However, the reality is that how and when I would see my way to forgiveness would depend on a lot of factors. Whether it was a one night stand or an ongoing affair. Whether she was willing to end it and work with me on our relationship. Whether there had been previous history (the first would be easier to forgive than the fourth). And probably others. Now, forgiveness is not the same thing as keeping the relationship. If it was clear from history or the circumstances of the cheating that something was awry in our relationship to start with, then I would still forgive but also suggest an amicable parting of the ways.
I certainly cheated before my husband passed and he knew I cheated when I wanted to. In the early part of our marriage, I would not be so naive as to think he did not cheat also.
Friends remember it is only sex and I we still love each other why not have some fun.
Yes, I would forgive her, but I'd prefer not to know.
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