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What's the hardest thing about being in a relationship with you?
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"What's the hardest thing about being in a relationship with you?"
I'm always forgetting stuff.....all the time.
I'm always forgetting stuff.....all the time.
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A determined person with perseverance can overcome many obstacles. They can, many times, perform better than those who are more intelligent, stronger and with better finances by determination and perseverance
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I am opinionated and stubborn and an old fart (per some friends and family) but I am also loyal to a fault with friends and family and my country! I have a really kinky mind and always have since I found old girlie mags in my Dad's closet as a young boy. I am not a good money handler personally but did great for companies I worked for as Finance Officer. I love my wife and family very much which includes the grandchildren and in the appropriate way. I would probably kill anyone that ever physically or sexually abused them. I was in the USA Army Reserves for 21 years as an MP and as an Artillery NCO serving in two units - 8" Towed Howitzers initially and my last 8 years in 155mm self-propelled howitzer unit. Also I am very involved in Sacred Harp Singings wherein most weekends we meet at little country churches and sing out of a song book dating back to the 1800's but updated in the 1990's the notes (FA SO LA MI) in the 4 parts (Bass, Tenor, Treble, ALto) then the words. We also occasionally sing from two other types (one 4 shaped notes the other seven shape notes) both updated in recent years.
A determined person with perseverance can overcome many obstacles. They can, many times, perform better than those who are more intelligent, stronger and with better finances by determination and perseverance
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I've never been in a relationship that lasted more than a few months. I like to party. I stay out late. I'm a terrible cook and not much of a housekeeper. I like lots of sex. More than any man I've been with can maintain longterm. I have never remained faithful.
There's more but that should be sufficient.
There's more but that should be sufficient.
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I either love too much or not at all. Either way, it's proven to be a mess.
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Being able to share me as I enjoy sharing with my FWB and not become possessive.
Satisfying me.
Satisfying me.
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Helping me avoid or overcome my tendency to withdraw into my own head. Some patience is required.
"insensitive prick!" – Danielle Algo
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That turns out to be the relation with my best friend, who also happens to be an ex.
=== Not ALL LIVES MATTER until BLACK LIVES MATTER ===
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I'm extremely stubborn. So, once we get into an argument, I will not be the one to back down... even if I know I'm in the wrong.
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Realising the way I am normally is completely different to how I am and how I wanted to be treated sexually.
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I don't do relationships any longer, I'M Jaded. Many people that think they know me, Think it's because of my X wife. Their wrong. She was as they say, " Just the tip of the iceberg. " The fact is after over half A century of being lied to,cheated,used & manipulated by people. I have learned you can trust everybody A little & no one completely. My favorite quote " A wise man believes only in lies, Trusts only in the absurd, And learns to expect the unexpected." ( Ronald Dahl ) ( Tales of the unexpected ) Getting back to the thread at hand. My longest L.T.R. my marriage of 23 yrs.. The biggest problem wasn't about eccentricities or faithfulness or mental cruelty As my wife claimed. Irreconcilable Differences, Perhaps I never could get used to the idea of pissing money away. I guess that's an issue that could be considered beyond reconciliation. But no I believe it was about Trust. As mentioned by so many others in this thread. It's hard to believe you can love someone you can't trust,but it happens.It doesn't matter if it's about sex or money or secrets told in confidence. The outcome is the same. Heart break.
After my divorce the Union I belonged to for 25 yrs.S.M.W.I.A. suspended me for non payment of dues. My feelings F/U & good riddance. (Another bunch of lying bastards) I went back to what I did before I joined them. Driving A truck. I got an apartment put A desk in the living room for my comp. above it A plaque "To rely on others is to be disappointed " Don't know the person that made that quote,but I'd like to thank him. In summation, Trust no one, Rely only on yourself & believe only in you. One more quote " Love Kills Slowly "
After my divorce the Union I belonged to for 25 yrs.S.M.W.I.A. suspended me for non payment of dues. My feelings F/U & good riddance. (Another bunch of lying bastards) I went back to what I did before I joined them. Driving A truck. I got an apartment put A desk in the living room for my comp. above it A plaque "To rely on others is to be disappointed " Don't know the person that made that quote,but I'd like to thank him. In summation, Trust no one, Rely only on yourself & believe only in you. One more quote " Love Kills Slowly "
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I'm very observant, maybe too much at times.
I know when things are out of place and tend to get more "particular" when I have been on a business trip. Call it OCD if you will. I work hard to keep things clean and everything in their place, it gets to me when they aren't.
I know when things are out of place and tend to get more "particular" when I have been on a business trip. Call it OCD if you will. I work hard to keep things clean and everything in their place, it gets to me when they aren't.
The night that changed my life, a four part series of a married man lusting after his co-worker
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Being 'let-in', apparently. People tell me I'm the most closed-off open person they've ever known. While I appear gregarious and outgoing, and will freely share any detail about myself that anyone may care to know, according to several friends who are close to me, my inner walls are unbreachable. They feel I'm concealing some secret pain that I don't allow anyone privy to. I've been told this by so many different people that it must be obvious, even if I'm unaware that I'm doing it.
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Putting up with my sarcasm.
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Tantrums when I can't get my own way.
In the world's harsh wear and tear many a very sincere attachment is slowly obliterated.
Είμαι ταξιδιώτης τόσο στο χρόνο όσο και στο διάστημα
Είμαι ταξιδιώτης τόσο στο χρόνο όσο και στο διάστημα
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I am permanently skeptical and rational. Scientist in me I suppose. I think it can come across as self righteous and annoying if I find something illogical or irrational I don't display any interest or can't support it. My SO for instance went on some low wheat detox bullshit diet and everything the 'personal trainer' told her about 'chemicals' and 'toxins' and gluten etc I didn't say "that's nice dear", I said "that doesn't make any sense. That doesn't either. What does she mean by 'toxins'? Everything is a 'chemical'. What's wrong with caffeine? No, it's not a 'toxin', that doesn't even mean anything. 'Detox' doesn't mean anything either. That doesn't make any sense. You don't have an intolerance to gluten so there's nothing wrong with you eating it. No, gluten isn't fatty because it's a protein. I can't believe I'm paying for this. What are this supposed 'nutritionists' supposed 'qualifications'. She probably bought them online..." etc etc etc etc.
TL;DR, I can't entertain the idea of anything illogical and it irritates me when an SO has/believes in ideas that don't make any sense.
TL;DR, I can't entertain the idea of anything illogical and it irritates me when an SO has/believes in ideas that don't make any sense.
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Just started to make my very first story in to a series about 3 years later. Here's where it began!
Just started to make my very first story in to a series about 3 years later. Here's where it began!
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I hold nothing back.
I'm intense.
I'm not the most rational person either.
Lmao
I'm intense.
I'm not the most rational person either.
Lmao
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I either love too much or not at all. Either way, it's proven to be a mess.
I know what you mean.
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I'm moody, and given to outbursts of anger if I can't have what I want, when I want it.
In the world's harsh wear and tear many a very sincere attachment is slowly obliterated.
Είμαι ταξιδιώτης τόσο στο χρόνο όσο και στο διάστημα
Είμαι ταξιδιώτης τόσο στο χρόνο όσο και στο διάστημα
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Putting up with my OCD. Drives my GF nuts, but she loves me anyway.
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My intensity
“To be nobody but
yourself in a world
which is doing its best day and night to make you like
everybody else means to fight the hardest battle
which any human being can fight and never stop fighting.”
yourself in a world
which is doing its best day and night to make you like
everybody else means to fight the hardest battle
which any human being can fight and never stop fighting.”
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My rules drive most people(men) away. BethanyFrasier and my ideas, sounds a lot alike.
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I am emotionally driven, now don't confuse that with highly emotional. Drama gets you the cold shoulder.
I love hard, feel deeply and have an extremely curious nature. I listen to you, even when you are not speaking.
And, I don't forget. You might, I won't. Although I am generally very happy, open, affectionate and social, because of
these things people can wrongly assume a high level of familiarity with me. I have strong and thick barriers. They are subtly in place.
It causes me to compartmentalize. I realize that it is a defense mechanism, but earned by experience and for me
a necessary one for preservation of self. Realizing you are not as close to me as you thought you may have been
can be frustrating. I understand that, doesn't change anything though. Trying to force it will generally have the
opposite effect. Experience has sharpened me, but I won't let it or you harden me. So I'm not shy with the word NO.
Patience does pay off though when it comes to having my heart envelope you. It is a warm safe place.
Patience can be a problem for some people.
I get bored easily and can tend to disappear.
Like most military brats, I have wonderlust (fernweh). I'm working on that though.
I love hard, feel deeply and have an extremely curious nature. I listen to you, even when you are not speaking.
And, I don't forget. You might, I won't. Although I am generally very happy, open, affectionate and social, because of
these things people can wrongly assume a high level of familiarity with me. I have strong and thick barriers. They are subtly in place.
It causes me to compartmentalize. I realize that it is a defense mechanism, but earned by experience and for me
a necessary one for preservation of self. Realizing you are not as close to me as you thought you may have been
can be frustrating. I understand that, doesn't change anything though. Trying to force it will generally have the
opposite effect. Experience has sharpened me, but I won't let it or you harden me. So I'm not shy with the word NO.
Patience does pay off though when it comes to having my heart envelope you. It is a warm safe place.
Patience can be a problem for some people.
I get bored easily and can tend to disappear.
Like most military brats, I have wonderlust (fernweh). I'm working on that though.
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- I tend to approach things with a certain sense of naivete. You either enjoy it or think I'm completely bonkers.
- If I love you enough, I can be incredibly transparent with you, but sometimes what I reveal might not be what you want to hear or know. But I will show you at least once what's really going on, all the convoluted little secrets; so I can use how you react and how I feel about that as a medium to figure things out.
- I have a lot of love for a lot of people and sometimes that gets confused as an invitation to be more and take more from me. More often that not, I will oblige, but up to a point. More often than not, that point is marked by respect for myself and for you, sometimes for the situation. It surprises me that only very few can understand that.
- While I can give of myself almost unconditionally, there is a part of me (innate, perhaps) that I entrust to someone higher. Exclusively. It drives people crazy sometimes that I surrender that kind of 'control' and devotion to a greater power that they don't believe in. Call it naivete, but I think it is what keeps me anchored.
- I can adopt a vibrant personality sometimes, but if I'm really honest, "Boring" is my middle name. Once people figure that out, only the ones who genuinely enjoy being boring with me tend to stay. (The most brilliant idea of a weekend that I've ever been pitched? A continuous study-fuck cycle. Boring, but genius. Someone gets me
)
- Not so much of a workaholic these days, but I do have my moments.
- If I love you enough, I can be incredibly transparent with you, but sometimes what I reveal might not be what you want to hear or know. But I will show you at least once what's really going on, all the convoluted little secrets; so I can use how you react and how I feel about that as a medium to figure things out.
- I have a lot of love for a lot of people and sometimes that gets confused as an invitation to be more and take more from me. More often that not, I will oblige, but up to a point. More often than not, that point is marked by respect for myself and for you, sometimes for the situation. It surprises me that only very few can understand that.
- While I can give of myself almost unconditionally, there is a part of me (innate, perhaps) that I entrust to someone higher. Exclusively. It drives people crazy sometimes that I surrender that kind of 'control' and devotion to a greater power that they don't believe in. Call it naivete, but I think it is what keeps me anchored.
- I can adopt a vibrant personality sometimes, but if I'm really honest, "Boring" is my middle name. Once people figure that out, only the ones who genuinely enjoy being boring with me tend to stay. (The most brilliant idea of a weekend that I've ever been pitched? A continuous study-fuck cycle. Boring, but genius. Someone gets me
) - Not so much of a workaholic these days, but I do have my moments.
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Oh there's a list as long as my arm...
The thing that used to really irritate my ex was my constant need for affection. Not in the sense of needing to be told I'm pretty or look good, just a nice squeeze here and there or an arm round my waste or shoulder.
The only way I can describe it is it's like having a neurotic dog that only really calms down when you sit and rub it's chest.
I just compared myself to a neurotic dog.
The thing that used to really irritate my ex was my constant need for affection. Not in the sense of needing to be told I'm pretty or look good, just a nice squeeze here and there or an arm round my waste or shoulder.
The only way I can describe it is it's like having a neurotic dog that only really calms down when you sit and rub it's chest.
I just compared myself to a neurotic dog.
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Uh...the fact that I think relationships are stupid and just a tedious job? 
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The fact I'm not monogamous. I get bored very quickly so long standing relationships are no good for me
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I have trust issues, on here and with complete strangers I can be open and honest about sex, sexual fantasies and things that aren't an emotion, but with people I'm close to I cannot open up. I think it's a fear of being judged and left. I'm also too organised and love a schedule, that often takes spontaneity out of a relationship, which is also a double edged sword as I love surprises. I'm argumentative and can hold a massive grudge. I also cry a lot, whether I'm upset or annoyed I cry, which is bloody annoying to me, let alone anyone else.
I could probably go on, but I shall stop before I make myself sound insufferable
I could probably go on, but I shall stop before I make myself sound insufferable