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What is your specific reason(s) for not visiting the Chat Rooms ?

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homealone71
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I feel like I'm in a shark tank..and I'm not a shark
Nikki703
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When I first joined Lush I would go in chat rooms often. I made a few good friends in them but after a while it began to get to crazy and hard to keep up. And I was constantly getting "whispers" and hit on by people I really didn't not want to chat with. I moved to the forums after that and found it to be more fun and better way to meet people with similar interests. You can learn a lot about someone from the way they post and answer questions!
ChuckEPoo
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Quote by BethanyFrasier
I'm not here to cyber with guys, or even other girls, and if anyone wants to chat with me one-on-one, they can just send me an online message. Chatrooms are too confusing and distract my attention from other things I'd rather be doing here.


I agree with this. Plus for me it is hard to understand how it's suppose to work. If people want to chat with me on the private message, I'm open to responding to most anyone that wants to talk about substantive issues. Don't feel the need to cyber with anyone and I with just my best friends or family.

I also type slow and I'm spelling deficient.
Stormdog
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It sounds like a number of these posts are similar to my own reasons. In real life I'm most comfortable and happy with a friend, or perhaps a small group of friends; I'm not at ease or particularly happy in a room full of strangers, especially if I just feel like a wallflower listening in on their conversations.

Here I love to do the black box or chat window with friends, or pm or whatever; haven't done a private multi-person "invitation only" chat yet, but there are some friends I would love to get together for one. But to go to an open chat room with a bunch of people I don't know...it's just not me. But by all means, all blessings on you more social types - have fun!!
Nightbreaker011
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Because of the problems when I was first here that happened and when returned after a year away I stay away
I define nothing. Not beauty, not patriotism. I take each thing as it is, without prior rules about what it should be.
- Bob Dylan

Consistent, Persistent and Bullshit Resistant!
- Trinket
sillyjenny
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Chat rooms are just not for me. I don't see the appeal..
vjlegbabe
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Too chatty too many nosy people
JimB01
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you try and chat with people and they don't tell you what they want to chat about or ignore you all together
MarinaC
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I prefer the try till you buy method. You become friends then see if they are a good fit to your desires and can string together a sentence and then maybe move to chat. I agree you feel surrounded when you go in and I usually find the unimaginative guy that you have to throw back.
CharlotteRusse1
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I'm here to read stories and occasionally post in forums. I like forums because you can take your time to decide what to say.
An old favorite story of mine: The Chaise Lounge
Guest
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Ive been in chat rooms maybe six times over a year and a half . Ive found them to be boring overall .


They dont draw much a crowd during my overnight hours Maybe 30 people scattered about during my overnight hours. AS someone already posted , 23 guys fighting over 2 woman is pretty unimpressive/ uninspiring lmao.
ParMach
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Ahhh they get a bit to competitive for my liking.
To boldly Lush where no one has Lushed before
Guest
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Oh thank fuck for that! Just read through all the above and its not just me then!
Guest
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One-on-one messaging is sooo much more effective!
onelongtongue65
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Feel like an outsider butting in on others conversations . One on one more relaxing and can have chats about any topic. Topics that involve using head on my shoulders, not in my pants.
TheUprightMan
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Quote by Escape
What is your specific reason(s) for not visiting the Chat Rooms ?

Comparing to the number of people who're members of lush, the count of people who visit the public chatrooms are very less.


Actually, I love them. More personal than stories or the forum; they're an opportunity to "meet" people, whether for sexyfuntimes or otherwise.

Doesn't always work out well, of course. I recall one lady who said to me "I hope you die" after I explained (and defended) my somewhat-unconventional marriage. Literally, "I hope you die." I will, of course, but I think she was a bit impatient for it to happen.
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They are festered with the forgotten souls of society and left at the depot, as the world has passed them by. It isn't a cakewalk with the majority,
Mysteria27
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When I first joined Lush I used to frequent the chat rooms. I met most of my friends there.

I did find that most people just wanted to cyber. I also found that I did all the work and people were just getting off by my words.

Eventually, I left the chat rooms, found a wonderful man on this site and have been cyber lovers for the past year.

I think it's a great way to meet people but also you need to weed out the people that are just looking to get off.

There is nothing wrong with getting off, but if that's your only reason why you want to chat, then you should tell people up front.

I also found the chat rooms were very cliquey.

I haven't been in one in over a year. I won't be going back to them.

Now, I'm just here to share my naughty pen. My main purpose is to write here and to talk to my lover and chit chat with friends.

Hugs and Kisses,
Mysteria
xo
Nightbreaker011
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not real nice places and most are asses in them with lot of boredom
I define nothing. Not beauty, not patriotism. I take each thing as it is, without prior rules about what it should be.
- Bob Dylan

Consistent, Persistent and Bullshit Resistant!
- Trinket
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I like hanging out in the chatroom - I just don't have time to do it, much.

Though I do get worn tired of being shark bait - I tend to step away when I get too many hit-ups for a private chat.

Also, the way Lush chat works isn't 'chat' where everyone feels there's a conversation to have - it's more like communal Twittering with the directness toward individuals. Multiple convos happen at the same time. When there's a room set up for handle-free chat I usually jump in.
Robert1959
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Haven't really been there. On other sites I have tried they seem more like scat rooms and I have just come to stay clear of them
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Quote by adagio_sabadicus
They are festered with the forgotten souls of society and left at the depot, as the world has passed them by. It isn't a cakewalk with the majority,



So in other words,,, they're just broken beyond repair is what ur sayin .
AudriNichols
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When I first came to Lush, I tried to meet people by going to the chat rooms and talking.
I quickly learned it was basically an online orgy. People seem to think that the only reason a person is there is to cyber.
I was told:

"Why are you here if you don't want to fuck?" (Implying that anyone who doesn't cyber isn't welcome in the chat rooms.)
"Why are you here if you aren't a lesbian?" (In the Ladies chat room, because apparently it's only for Lesbians.)

and other intrusive, rude questions like:

"What are you wearing/what color is your underwear?"
"How big are your tits?"
"Will you send me a picture?"
"What is your favorite position?"
"What is your favorite way to cum?"
"You ever been with a black man?"
"Wanna fuck?"
"Are you any good at blow jobs?"
"Do you spit or swallow?"
"Does your man know you're cheating on him?"
Implying:
1. He doesn't know I'm on Lush. (He does.)
2. He doesn't know I'm in a chat room. (He's aware they exist.)
3. That wanting to talk to other people is cheating. (He encourages me to talk to people more.)
4. That I am only on Lush to cheat. (As if there is no other reason to be here.)
All of which are completely arrogant and incorrect assumptions. I say right on my profile I will not cheat in any way.

People seem incapable of having a real conversation in the chat rooms. I prefer one on one. If someone wants to talk, they can email me or send an online message.
reddeville18
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@ the Uprightman....thats the real deal....gave me a much needed smile....I dont frequent the chats.....either...prefer to work one on one....just saying.....
buzzbomber52
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They smell of desperation.
Red is the color of sex and signs that say Do Not Enter

The best thing to hear in the middle of the night - Lick Me
kitty40
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I either feel completely ignored or like I'm running through a men's locker room naked. There is no in between. Also, that has been where I have meet the most different people. Nothing wrong with being different, be yourself, but if I tell you it's not my thing, I expect you to accept and move on to someone else who might like it.
sprite
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My awesomeness is too overwhelming - i'm concerned that people might actually die of rapture in my presence or a new cult will rise up around me and i'll have to be continually plagued by awe struck worshipers and minions.

You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
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My awesomeness is too overwhelming - i'm concerned that people might actually die of rapture in my presence or a new cult will rise up around me and i'll have to be continually plagued by awe struck worshipers and minions.


Yes I agree you must be commended on the restraints you place upon yourself. Given the awesomeness you have and the devastating power you could potential cast down on us fragile beings.
To boldly Lush where no one has Lushed before
ChuckEPoo
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Too many people at once. I love to chat one on one. Can't make sense of a huge group of people.
vbbond
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Agree with ChuckEPoo - pretty much the same I've seen. That said, I have made a few connections via the Chat Rooms.