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I have a high sex drive but have this query going round in my thoughts.Why is it that so many people put such stock on the use of sex toys? I have nothing personally against the use of them,it is just that these days more importance seems to be put on the use of them than in the sensual beautiful act of making love making . I find this rather sad as I far prefer to have the real thing. Am just trying to understand a bit more the need for sex toys! Men with erectile disfunction can be prescribed Viagra which by all accounts can really help them.I enjoy my orgasms and find that the use of Lube helps me as I am older so sometimes need extra lubrication.I know that we all need a little extra help as we get older. I know im older and a bit old fashioned still so prefer the real deal. Yes I do play solo but prefer my fingers to toys. Comments please
I think it's like anything else, some people find the toys themselves to be a source of erotic delight. They aren't using them because they can't get off other ways, but because they find it enhances the experience for them. If they don't work for you, that's cool. But clearly some find them an enhancement. Who are we to say their kink is wrong?

Personally, I have never used toys, but am intrigued by them. Not so much the Fleshlight masturbator types as anal ones that might enhance my solo play in some new ways.
Not all men can take Viagra. Because of the meds I am on (age 67) I have ED, and because of those meds I cant take Viagra or the other one, so I am (not) screwed. I have learned to masturbate pretty good with a limp willy though so no toys needed either.
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Not all men can take Viagra.


That's a very good point. I'd probably be iffy to take it (hypertension and type 2 diabetes, both requiring meds). At present I do not need it, but with those two conditions that may change.
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That's a very good point. I'd probably be iffy to take it (hypertension and type 2 diabetes, both requiring meds). At present I do not need it, but with those two conditions that may change.

Throw in a bit of A-Fib and that's me.
I find masturbation to be visually exciting and highly arousing, when my partner uses a toy, or allows me to use one on her it just adds to the excitment. For me it is not an alternative to lovemaking but a supplement or even addtion.
There are all sorts of ways to pleasure yourself as well as to have partnered sex, toys are merely an extra source of pleasure and satisfaction
It's about personal preference. It's about trying something different - something new. Have you tried a toy?
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Throw in a bit of A-Fib and that's me.


There's some of that in my family but, oddly, I seem to have missed out. Not that I'm complaining.
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I have a high sex drive but have this query going round in my thoughts.Why is it that so many people put such stock on the use of sex toys? I have nothing personally against the use of them,it is just that these days more importance seems to be put on the use of them than in the sensual beautiful act of making love making . I find this rather sad as I far prefer to have the real thing. Am just trying to understand a bit more the need for sex toys! Men with erectile disfunction can be prescribed Viagra which by all accounts can really help them.I enjoy my orgasms and find that the use of Lube helps me as I am older so sometimes need extra lubrication.I know that we all need a little extra help as we get older. I know im older and a bit old fashioned still so prefer the real deal. Yes I do play solo but prefer my fingers to toys. Comments please


Same reason there are entire categories of stories on this site that I do not read. Different strokes for different folks.
Our use of sex toys, dildos and vibrators, began when I was traveling a lot for work, leaving my wife home alone. The toys gave her options other than fingers to pleasure herself. I had her use them during one of sex sessions, and it turned both of us on. Sex toys are a frequent part of foreplay for us. They don't replace fingers, mouth, tongue, or penis, but they add a different dimension to our love-making.