In regards to myself no.
I write stories to brush up on my writing skills and write out fantasy stories which I know will never happen. I can read what others think or feel about sex in general.
I also have made some great friends on Lush and enjoy talking to them when I am on line. I can say things to them without being judged and I can't say some things to my husband.
I honestly don't know, I have thought about it a lot.. and I just don't know. I think it depends on your marriage and the person.
I think it depends on the situation. I say no...
All about boundaries you establish with communication.... Not talking about something is not permission, it's avoidance...
if you are asking the question... the answer is yes.
No, I do not believe this is even close to cheating, It's like reading a dirty book, or talking to your friend about sex. My wife would not like me to do any of this as she thinks it's nasty to talk or anything about sex, without it being your spouse. but long ago she was open to many things, which has changed since she has gotten older. So I don't tell her or let her know what I do or visit on the internet.
Since all the new, foul, and delicious interactions inspired by Lush readings are bestowed directly on her person and her person only; I would say no. Of course I haven't asked and neither has she so I haven't told. Nor would I deny because her preference is reading material in paper form, DVD's, and toys. We remain blissfully complimentary in formats. :-)
No. In my opinion cheating is when you actually have physical contact with someone.
When I opened my profile I had broken off with a serious BF and we've since reunited. Made one attachment here during that 'single' interim period and it stuck with me past the reunion, but libido is its own twisted logic and I could rationalize all ways to continue that 'fix.' Now that it's over, all I can do is learn from it and redouble my efforts in my own relationship.
So I agree that the reading and casual convos are of no significance, but the verbal intimacy and resulting emotional involvement definitely cross the line, whether it happens on Lush or anywhere.
well if you don't ever let the two cross over i dont see how it could...but if You are spending way too much time on lush at the expense of your real life responsibilities then you need to take a look at that.
Not if she knows about it. Not really a big deal for me. But could be to a jealous type.
I don't think it's cheating at all. I don't come here for cyber or anything. I like to post in the forums and make some cool friends. And reading the stories is almost like watching porn!
Yes, because if you have a long term lover, they should know about it.
Some long term lovers permit their bf/ gfs to cybe.
I feel that being on Lush is not cheating.
Being on lush is not cheating.
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My other half knows about me being on Lush. He reads my stories and watches me write them sometimes.
Reading and some areas of the forum - In my marriage, no.
My husband knows I publish a bit of erotica on here and that's fine in our marriage. Chat and flirting would be cheating to us though. It depends on your relationship and what has been defined as a boundary. For some it is physical contact only. It's different for everyone.
