I've seen the word "cheat" bandied about in many threads. It always refers to sex outside a relationship without the knowledge or consent of your partner. I've often read in profiles or in the forums about people whose partners have gone off sex and the relationship has become sexless.
So the question is: In a sexual relationship is denying sex for a long period cheating if it isn't for medical reasons?
In a relationship context, I would say that "cheating" is pretty much established as meaning "getting some outside the rules of the relationship". So if it is a strict monogamous relationship, then any extra-relationship sex = cheating. Open relationships have a bit more tolerance but often still have rules (must be someone I know and approve or only with the same sex or whatever) and going outside those rules would still be "cheating".
Denying sex is arguable. It can be a power game (trying to force someone's hand) or it can just be a genuine lack of interest in either the sex or the partner. I'm not sure that it really constitutes "cheating" in either case though, unless sex is being denied because the person gets, or wants to get, it somewhere else. I mean, the commitment to monogamy (or at least the rules of openness) is generally fairly explicit. Sex in the relationship is generally assumed and there generally isn't some kind of "we must do this 2x per week 3 weeks out of every 4" type of rule in a marriage so it is hard to pin down that a rule is being broken by the denial.
I will say that it certainly signals a certain level of dysfunction in the relationship, though, unless the celibacy is by mutual agreement.
No, cheating is going with someone who isn't the main partner. Your partner not wanting sex is their right, and it's your job to respect their boundaries. If it's really a problem, you should sit them down at a time when you're both calm, and talk to them about it directly. If it's not sorted out just by that, you might want to explore some different options like opening up the relationship or breaking it off entirely. Make sure whatever conclusion you come to is one that BOTH partners can comfortably agree on, and that neither of you is feeling pressured into a solution.
cheating? no. heartless? yes. i couldn't see denying someone i love such intimacy without having to do so because of medical/health restraints.
Have been denied sex in my marriage..it is a passive aggressive way to get back at your spouse
And I am not talking about exhausted moms or people who are ill
Partners who turn you down day after day week..month...years...
Just because..they don't want it with you..are beyond cruel..yet they play the victim when u tell them you will find another
In marriage vowing to love means sex...not roommates
Cheating the love you vowed maybe dpw...maybe
Are u married felix
Have u been in this position? ?
Years of sex being denied..from the man you adored...
Being told u were over sexed because you wanted sex with your husband
That u quoted me and read me the riot act after the decades of pain I went through is unbelievable
Why u are allowed to hurt people on here I don't know why
How dare you judge me or anyone else unless u have been in this position
U attack people...u have no idea the hell I went through
And when anyone calls you out on your mean comments u attack again
I wanted my husband whom I adored to have sex with me
Pity sex felix..look at me..I sincerely doubt anyone man would consider having sex with me a pity thing
Sad told a lot of people u were a smart funny man who just got carried away sometimes
Am crying that you would take my personal hell and attack me with it..is beyond awful
No!
And neither is masturbation cheating.
Cheating involves another person!
I guess if you're using the word "cheating" as avoiding .... My answer is yes.
I don't personally think of it as cheating. If I didn't want to be with that person physically or emotionally any longer, I would end the relationship.
If it was just physical, and I wanted it elsewhere and NOT with my present partner ... I would end it before CHEATING on them.
