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I am not remotely interested in finding out my partners sexual history. All I need to know is that he has been proactive with protection and monitoring sexual health.
I don't ask him because I feel like its none of my damn business.
I don't ask him because I feel like its none of my damn business.
"A dirty book is rarely dusty"
Fancy Schmancy
My gut reaction would be: "dear god, NO!" To my surprise, though, I have found myself discussing and hearing about "pasts" in subsequent relationships, and have not been troubled by it. It really depends upon the discussion and how it is handled, which is so true regarding so many topics. Any time it has been discussed, it is almost more of how we responded to certain activities, versus being critical or unkind. I think if someone had said something about their past sexual experiences in a way that was disparaging or critical (or, on the other hand said: "she was WAYYY hotter than you!!), I think my feelings would be very different.
Gravelly-Voiced Fucker
I am so frikkin nosy, so I always want to hear about a partner's past sexual/emotional history (and, like, everything else too). Not because it's a turn-on (though it can be sometimes), but because it's so interesting. I love hearing abut what makes relationships tick, and when it's your partner, it deepens your understanding and appreciation of them. I usually have to hold back a little, lest I sound a little too curious.
Madam Carol
Yeah. He really gets going over my story of my one and only infidelity. (Beginnings 2) I was completely wasted and took on five equally drunk marines. Initially when I confessed it to him that led to a years separation but now we are back together, he gets crazy horny thinking about it.
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I will say if you ask, be prepared for the answer and don't be defensive and jealous of things that happened before there was the two of you..... I will also add, if you break up with someone over their honest sexual history, then you did a bad job finding a person you can build with. When one issue can void all the good that a relationship has to offer, then you lose....
Active Ink Slinger
Oh - I absolutely love every tiny detail I am given!
I love my woman - and I love being able to share everything I can with her. Having her share her sexual history.... yum.... that is intellectual caviar! Personal history is sometimes difficult for people to share as it has both negative and positive emotions attached to it, though. As such, I just enjoy these tasty bits of past liasons as they come up. I never press for them, although there are few things hotter than hearing every joyous detail
Sharing her with another lover - male or female - we are green-lighting a "yes" to that as well, as long as it is the right person for both of us... so even that is also on our list! We are very open to new experiences as long as they are about LOVE.
I love my woman - and I love being able to share everything I can with her. Having her share her sexual history.... yum.... that is intellectual caviar! Personal history is sometimes difficult for people to share as it has both negative and positive emotions attached to it, though. As such, I just enjoy these tasty bits of past liasons as they come up. I never press for them, although there are few things hotter than hearing every joyous detail
Sharing her with another lover - male or female - we are green-lighting a "yes" to that as well, as long as it is the right person for both of us... so even that is also on our list! We are very open to new experiences as long as they are about LOVE.
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I don't think I could ever share my partner with another person however hearing her explain to me in detail about being with other men before me is such a huge turn on and makes me cum so quickly.
She's not into hearing about my sexual history as much however ever so often during foreplay or sex, she'll whisper in my ear "Tell me about the time you fucked that girl in her car..." etc.
Does anybody else enjoy this kink?
Not the same for me...
However much I'd love to hear about my husband's past - simply because it's part of his life and I feel like I've never really known him very well as an overall person - he doesn't share the slightest bit of interest.
In fact, when we first met 'we will not talk about or ask questions about past relationships' was a rule he established.
Looking back . . . I wished I questioned what the hell his problem was. It's actually become A HUGE issue in our marriage.
But, you know, I was trying to be respectful of his wishes . . . too bad it's not a mutual respect.
Active Ink Slinger
My wife and I have never discussed our sex lives before we were married. We both had children coming into our marriage so it was a given that we had both had sex before. The subject has never really even come up. My ex on the other hand was tormented by my previous sex life before her. I was her second, so she didn't have much to talk about.
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I am not remotely interested in finding out my partners sexual history. All I need to know is that he has been proactive with protection and monitoring sexual health.
I don't ask him because I feel like its none of my damn business.
What she said. I prefer the present. How we can satisfy both of our needs, that is what more important. Otherwise, if you aren't both open to what you want to explore... then you're missing the whole point of being with her/him.
I could show you INCREDIBLE things...
My present wife was a slut after her first husband died. I knew her for four years before we began a relationship. During that time, she revealed a large number of affairs that didn't bother me. I think she revealed them as a lure. After, our almost five year affair began, we married. Obviously, her past was not a problem. However, at the strangest time, I remember many of her comments. I feel a little jealous, but she is the love of my live, and her past has no influence on our marriage.
Gravelly-Voiced Fucker
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I think if someone had said something about their past sexual experiences in a way that was disparaging or critical (or, on the other hand said: "she was WAYYY hotter than you!!), I think my feelings would be very different.
No one is hotter than you. Which is why you've never been told that.
Fancy Schmancy
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No one is hotter than you. Which is why you've never been told that.
This is so very sweet. Now I need to find a way to bronze it . . .
"insensitive prick!" – Danielle Algo
Quote by Verbal
No one is hotter than you. Which is why you've never been told that.
Get a room!
=== Not ALL LIVES MATTER until BLACK LIVES MATTER ===
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I don't mind hearing about Milik history, because I am his present! I know I'm the best!, ?
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Just me
I don't mind hearing about Milik history, because I am his present! I know I'm the best!, ?
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"insensitive prick!" – Danielle Algo
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We have a room. We prefer it out here.
I'm not trying to kink shame anyone here, but you seriously prefer to hang out in the forum while you're in a room with your partner, who's the hottest woman you know?
=== Not ALL LIVES MATTER until BLACK LIVES MATTER ===
Gravelly-Voiced Fucker
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I'm not trying to kink shame anyone here, but you seriously prefer to hang out in the forum while you're in a room with your partner, who's the hottest woman you know?
We like it when people watch.
Ungovernable
Because we're both from the same very traditional background, I did tell him about some of the things that happened while I was waiting for him to ask me out, not because I was trying to turn him on or make him jealous, but because I didn't want any landmines popping up after we decided to get serious.
I would rather not know about his, and he's considerate not to share that part of his past.
I would rather not know about his, and he's considerate not to share that part of his past.
Active Ink Slinger
My wife doesn't have any "exes" and she could care less about mine. Not a turn on for her.
Active Ink Slinger
I'm not really interested in a partners previous experiences. Also not really into telling him about mine. I don't find that sexy in any way.
I would rather that we make our own intimate memories.
I would rather that we make our own intimate memories.
English Gentleman
im not interested about my partners sexual history. all i really want to know is that she is clean and that she lives in the moment with me.
Active Ink Slinger
I really get off on 'hot talk', so yes, I want to hear it, but especially stuff like, "I was so hot I fucked him right there in the parking lot," or "I wasn't wearing any panties and he was finger-fucking me while we were dancing." But not about his cock being bigger than mine or him being a better lover. While that may have been true, I don't want to hear about it. But, if it's about how turned on she got, or what she did to turn him, (or her or them), on, the more descriptive she gets, the more turned on I get, especially when it excites her to talk about it. (Some of my stories include little snippets of this - a couple of them even have it as a major component.)
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