Kind of want to throw this out there. What are your thoughts on kissing while drunk?
The other night my fuck buddy and I were getting it on at a public rest room after a few glasses of alcohol and out of no where my fuck buddy kissed me. Not once but a few times.
At the start of our sexual relationship he said "No kissing."
Which was fair as I just wanted to get off without the emotional affection. Having split from my former ex of 8 years so I don't want any emotional attachments when it comes to sex. He on the other hand is a sparated married man (been spearated for almost 2 years) so he has his own issues.
So yeah the other night he drunk kissed me and he hasn't done it sense.
What is the go here?
Kissing is natural and when drunk people tend to do what they want to do normally but don't.
Also, in spite of what most would like to claim, sex and hearts often mix. It is why having fuck buddies or friends with benefits often ends badly.
It doesn't necessarily mean anything - it's just part of being drunk sometimes. My female friends often grab me or randomly make out with me in bar or club bathrooms when we're drunk. It doesn't mean anything, nor do we feel emotionally or romantically attached to each other the next day. I wouldn't read too much into it.
If you do have the 'no kissing' rule, it might have just been relaxed or felt like something that worked in the moment since you were already fooling around and not thinking clearly. If he starts sober-kissing you, then you might have to have a talk about where things stand.
For me - I've never had a no-kissing rule with fuckbuddies - but it's usually relegated to sex-kissing or drunk-kissing rather than affectionate 'just because' kissing. I do agree that kissing can be very intimate but it can also be benign and playful or hard and intense and just part of two bodies colliding.
It means nothing, simply got caught up in the moment and forgot the agreement. He hasn't tried it since he is back on track even thou its thrown you out of sync.
Thanks for the input. Went out again the other night with him and he got drunk again maybe more tipsy is the accurate discription and he kissed me again.
Spent time again today and there was no affection between us we just hung out. Don't get me wrong I enjoy what we did but he said no kissing and when we have had sober sex there is no kissing during it.
A bit confused.
... or better yet, since it is clear by the answers given here that there can be any number of reasons for it, as well as how he might actually feel or not; just ask him. It amazes me how many times people run to the internet and ask questions of people who are not even involved or know anything of any real importance concerning the people/issues being asked about. Yet they don't simply ask the person they should really be asking or talking to the person they should be talking to. ASK HIM. lol
Communication is a wonderful thing, use it. No amount of guessing on any of our parts can beat simply turning to your friend and asking HIM about it.
Never kissed while intoxicated as I've never consumed alcohol and couldn't careless to. I don't like kissing men who are drinking alcohol or are drunk.
I don't want alcohol to touch my lips.
I'll pass.
