Is it just me?

Or is the Lounge just a tad cliquey and unwelcoming?

Is there something I should be doing that I'm not?

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Or is the Lounge just a tad cliquey and unwelcoming?

Is there something I should be doing that I'm not?

I don't know, but perhaps give it time. You've only been here a week.😊

On the plus side, you have a most interesting profile, have registered eighty forum posts and made twenty-five friends.

I don't know where you find the time.

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I don't know, but perhaps give it time. You've only been here a week.😊

On the plus side, you have a most interesting profile, have registered eighty forum posts and made twenty-five friends.

I don't know where you find the time.

AND she has not had a friend request from me yet, Jayne.

I hope that you are well and that your group is thriving. x

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Or is the Lounge just a tad cliquey and unwelcoming?

Is there something I should be doing that I'm not?

Think of it as a social event... it takes time to mingle, blend in and make friends. Oh and tea and biscuits help.

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Think of it as a social event... it takes time to mingle, blend in and make friends. Oh and tea and biscuits help.

I completely agree with this. Like any real life social setting, just give it time.

A lot of the occupants in the chatrooms already know eachother and have done so for some years, in certain cases.
People will be trying to work you out, at the same time you are doing the same.

Feel free to @ me and chat anytime - I am (usually) welcoming, chatty and approachable :)

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Feel free to @ me and chat anytime - I am (usually) welcoming, chatty and approachable

Sorry who are you talking about? 😇

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Sorry who are you talking about? 😇

Hey, I said "usually" so I am clearly talking about myself... :)

I've been here on the site for years, and I still find the chat rooms a bit alienating, too. So, it's not just you.

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I've been here on the site for years, and I still find the chat rooms a bit alienating, too. So, it's not just you.

Quote by AliRegretsNothing

Or is the Lounge just a tad cliquey and unwelcoming?

Is there something I should be doing that I'm not?

Come in and say hi to anyone with a star. We'll welcome you with open arms and chat to break the ice in the rooms. The Lounge is for everyone. I felt the same way for a long time and then you get to know a few peeps and then a few more and so on. Come on in and join the fun!

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I've been here on the site for years, and I still find the chat rooms a bit alienating, too. So, it's not just you.

I'm just not comfortable with online chat in general. I find having to type out my thoughts in real time rather challenging compared to a forum where it's more asynchronous (i.e. I can take time to respond and still not miss much in between). I've done one-on-one chat but every time I try a chatroom somewhere, I just get overwhelmed.

As for cliqueiness, I have seen that happen in forums, too, so not shocked that it would happen in chatrooms. Mods can deal with it up to a point, but there needs to be awareness on the part of members in the room, too, which is not always the case. People can be cliquey without really being aware of it if they are not mindful of how they interact outside their personal circle.

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Or is the Lounge just a tad cliquey and unwelcoming?

Is there something I should be doing that I'm not?

as a long time denizen of the Lounge and older Lush 1.0 chatrooms, I think you're pretty correct about cliquishness of the Lounge. As stated by some, the Lounge has some longterm groups of friends, who cluster in there at the same time and may dominate the open chat especially if they can't create private rooms for their group of friends. But I hope that you aren't being intentionally ignored or pushed aside. I look forward to running into you in the Lounge and striking up a convo!

I don't notice it but then again, I call the Lounge Room the Elderly Room.

I don't know about clique stuff, I often don't understand what's going on.

and when I do pop up with something, it seem stupid.

it's personal interaction chat that I'm interested in, and what I've found is just plain boring.

all the guys want is what can I do for them now stuff.

nothing interesting.

they like to chat the way the stories they write - some random interaction, sexy looks - and she's a sex zombie.

real life doesn't work that way - and I'm a real slut.

I'm looking for playful light fun interaction - what does the guy do, what do I do, what's fun in our lives, work, hobbies etc. where we're from, kids.

the guys will give their name, then jump to - what do I do for them.

I'll tell them that I don't want to chat about that stuff, and they come right back and ask what I'd like to chat about.

another what can I do for them.

basically - ya gotta be interesting.

like my last interpersonal real life pickup bar guy was really fun - he was a hs art teacher and wannabe cartoonist.

so cool - I went to his house to see his works, fun and funny. and he came twice

anyway, that's what I think of the chatters on here.