Do you think a safe word is still necessary in an online D/s relationship?
Safe words are meant for when things go to far or one partner is uncomfortable, can that still happen online?
Share your thoughts please.
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I agree Sprite, whether it be online or in person it is a must to have a safe word. Emotions can run high and its easy to get lost in the moment, there needs to always be a safe word to make it all stop.
Online, in real always there should be safe words. I think more so online because the other person doesn't know or can’t see you or sometimes even hear you. I can see and hear my pet but can’t be there with him. I am always telling him he needs to tell me his limits so I don’t hurt him. The last thing I want is to hurt him. Not in the bad sense of hurt, the good kind of course! ;) I don’t want to ever see or hear someone being hurt because there was no safe words or feeling comfortable or safe enough to say it’s going too far for me, I need this to stop. Please never be afraid to tell your Master/Mistress the truth when it comes to this, a good proper true Master/Mistress WON’T be mad, they’ll respect you all the more.
......Can't you just close the window?
I completely agree with Sprite, Ravyn, and Poppet....things get heated in RL and online...safe words are just that...keep us safe and secure from ourselves sometimes.
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Safe words online are a must if you are doing serious play. Because the mind is a very fragile thing and you can damage it psychologically with play that you can't stop. As for closing the window of course you can. But then you have to avoid Online Messages and all the other possible ways you have let that person get in touch with you. Just set up a safe word. It is "SAFER"
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While it is true that in a good and proper D/s relationship, the Dom should know the sub well enough not to have to use the safeword - online or in real life. HOWEVER, being as safety is our number 1 concern here, you should still have a safeword/safesignal, just in case. Things can get heated and you could lose yourself in the moment and not even be aware of what is going on. It is never a bad idea to have a backup just in case. You may never use it, but it's there - like the spare key for your car or house - just in case.
Safewords always, always, ALWAYS have a place in any D/s relationship - online or real life. Period.
Safe and sane sex (like fireworks) is tantamount to good, satisfying sex or scenes. Safe words, if that's what it takes, should be arranged, but what I question here is an obvious lack of communication before you get to that point. Most adept practitioners of BDSM behavior openly communicate about what is going to happen, what might happen, safety concerns, experience, practice runs, talking it through, etc. etc. You do not just spring something on someone and expect them to know their own level of comfort at the time, so that a safe word is so vital. I know of no real Master/Dom/Mistress/Domme who purposefully or even accidentally leads their slave/sub into a danger point without super deep communication about it beforehand. It's just not done. It is always, always, always the responsibility of the one in charge to handle things like this. That said, yes, there are times when a safe word may be the best resolution, but consider how and why you are bringing the sub/slave to that point.