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Whenever a couple is trying out role playing, bondage, public sex, or brining in other people, they need to have a safe word. This word tells the other(s) that a line has been crossed. For example, if you and your partner are into domination, the one being dominated would have a safe word that he/she would say if they ever felt like things were going too far, they were uncomfortable, or in real pain. A safe word is only a valid as the turst between partners. If I didn't trust the person I was with to honor that word then I wouldn't play games with him/her where one was needed. Hope that helps!
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Whenever a couple is trying out role playing, bondage, public sex, or brining in other people, they need to have a safe word. This word tells the other(s) that a line has been crossed. For example, if you and your partner are into domination, the one being dominated would have a safe word that he/she would say if they ever felt like things were going too far, they were uncomfortable, or in real pain. A safe word is only a valid as the turst between partners. If I didn't trust the person I was with to honor that word then I wouldn't play games with him/her where one was needed. Hope that helps!
Just a little edit... BOTH partners, the Dom and the sub should have a safe word - yes, it is possible for subs to cross lines as well, and go to places that make their partners uncomfortable - the Dom/me needs a way of expressing this without putting a halt to things.
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
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Taking Sprite's post a step further, it also applies to couples and people in the lifestyle or swinging and swapping parties...
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Is it better to devise & implement a safe word which can be moaned, groaned or sputtered (with a mouth full of panties or a lodged cue-ball) etc...
How many syllables should the word be, for instance?
Would 'No' be too ambiguous?
Would 'more' be unwise?
How about: 'Ouch Motherfucker!' ?
How many syllables should the word be, for instance?
Would 'No' be too ambiguous?
Would 'more' be unwise?
How about: 'Ouch Motherfucker!' ?
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Is it better to devise & implement a safe word which can be moaned, groaned or sputtered (with a mouth full of panties or a lodged cue-ball) etc...
How many syllables should the word be, for instance?
Would 'No' be too ambiguous?
Would 'more' be unwise?
How about: 'Ouch Motherfucker!' ?
First off, always have a safe word that is unmistakably a safe word. "God' is not a good safe word, cause most likely it's getting used a lot for other reasons. Madagascar, for example , is - it's easily reconizable and it stands out.
A lot of people simply use stop lights. "green light" means keep going. "yellow light" means slow down. "red light" means STOP. Hand signals are also good to have. one finger means i'm ok, two means slow down, three means stop. Also, you can give your sub a bell or metal ball to hold if they are gagged and/or bound. If they let go if it it makes a loud sound and that means to Stop.
My girl knows, from us having conversations about it, that NO does NOT mean no. Neither does IT HURTS or STOP IT. PUMPKIN, however, means STOP. it's a good solid easily reconizable word for us and we both are willing to use it if things get out of hand.
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
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Is it better to devise & implement a safe word which can be moaned, groaned or sputtered (with a mouth full of panties or a lodged cue-ball) etc...
When my ex used to tie me up face down with a gag in my mouth, we had a system of hand gestures to use in place of a safe word. I think it's best to cover all the bases ...
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Is it better to devise & implement a safe word which can be moaned, groaned or sputtered (with a mouth full of panties or a lodged cue-ball) etc...
How many syllables should the word be, for instance?
Would 'No' be too ambiguous?
Would 'more' be unwise?
How about: 'Ouch Motherfucker!' ?
A safe word should be something that you wouldn't ordinarily say while having sex. "No" is a word that is used a lot in BDSM scenes, also "stop" and "don't." Sometimes stop and don't are used in reverse order, such as "Don't stop." A safe word should be something like "rutabaga." Unless root vegetables are a normal part of your sex life of course.
I don't know about cue balls. I think they'd probably get lodged behind my teeth, but having my panties torn off and stuffed into my mouth is the way to my heart. Now I have to practice saying "parsnip" with panties in my mouth just in case.
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WellmadeMan ... 
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My safe word/s are simple and varied -
Oh fuck, the husband (or wife) is home - guaranteed stopper
More - I insist on that one when I am feeling bitchy
or my favorite expression - Fuck me - again when I am feeling bitchy LOL
only joshing - I take the safe words very seriously (probably the only real thing I do) and as Wellmademale said, always have a back up using gestures just in case you're gagged, have a mouth full of cock, dildo etc.
Oh, I thought that was your cum scream, not safe word
Sorry, next time I won't just stand back and laugh at you, I will pull out. You do have to admit though, it was pretty funny hearing you scream it over and over and .....
Oh fuck, the husband (or wife) is home - guaranteed stopper
More - I insist on that one when I am feeling bitchy
or my favorite expression - Fuck me - again when I am feeling bitchy LOL
only joshing - I take the safe words very seriously (probably the only real thing I do) and as Wellmademale said, always have a back up using gestures just in case you're gagged, have a mouth full of cock, dildo etc.
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My safe word is, "Hoochiecoochiemamameiaholycowmuthafucka!"
Oh, I thought that was your cum scream, not safe word
Sorry, next time I won't just stand back and laugh at you, I will pull out. You do have to admit though, it was pretty funny hearing you scream it over and over and .....
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what if he said "Fug me!" ? 
or
Sorryforbeingawhineybitch!"
or
Sorryforbeingawhineybitch!"
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what if he said "Fug me!" ?
or
Sorryforbeingawhineybitch!"
If he said "Fug me!", I think even I would stop and say a little prayer for him. Poor bastard, think the horns!
Sorryforbeingawhineybitch - well that deserves 'The Fug' for being so whiney!
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In my opinion when two people are just beginning to get to know each other, "no" and "stop" should be honored even if they aren't the designated safe words.
My pet's safe word is her real name. Nobody, I don't care how deeply in the throes of your orgasm you are, screams out their own name!
As for a safe signal, we got a red dog ball with a bell inside. When the scene calls for her to be gagged (and I LOVE her in a ball gag!) she has the safeball in her hand. She can drop it or throw it and the ball, coupled with the sound of the bell inside, tells me to stop.
I also agree with the poster that said in the beginning, "No" and "Stop" should be honored as safewords as well.
Safewords and Safesignals are extremely important in scene play. You can't always predict what will make someone uncomfortable and having an "out" to use when things get rough is vital.
As for a safe signal, we got a red dog ball with a bell inside. When the scene calls for her to be gagged (and I LOVE her in a ball gag!) she has the safeball in her hand. She can drop it or throw it and the ball, coupled with the sound of the bell inside, tells me to stop.
I also agree with the poster that said in the beginning, "No" and "Stop" should be honored as safewords as well.
Safewords and Safesignals are extremely important in scene play. You can't always predict what will make someone uncomfortable and having an "out" to use when things get rough is vital.
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For a beginner the best way to start is with the traffic light system,
Green, is fine
Amber, things are getting close to stop
Red, Stop
That's the easiest system used.
Green, is fine
Amber, things are getting close to stop
Red, Stop
That's the easiest system used.
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My favorite suggested safe word is "mercy."
"No" is a bad choice, as is "please."
But the first priority is for everyone to be on the same page. Some people choose not to play games with negative words like "no" or "stop," and that's fine so long as everyone has the same expectations.
"No" is a bad choice, as is "please."
But the first priority is for everyone to be on the same page. Some people choose not to play games with negative words like "no" or "stop," and that's fine so long as everyone has the same expectations.
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use a strange word like a colour saying yellow or orange would stop all playing
as a friend of mine said yellow means your close to the safe word and red is when u get there
as a friend of mine said yellow means your close to the safe word and red is when u get there