I been living lifestyle for about 2 years, learning about it for longer, I am a dominant, but I dont enjoy the idea of being mean rough and Hurting a submissive for no reason, If broke rules or was disobedient , then Id punish them appropriately, but All I seem be seeing is girls looking for dominants to beat and hurt them willingly. Something is very wrong, because beating a sub for no reason isnt what a true dominant should do. Any Advice? I been searching for ages and lack of good fortune starting to annoy me
It all depends on what kind of BDSM style you are looking for. There are pain subs, but not all of us are into pain. I am a Baby Girl and have a Daddy. I love and respect my Daddy and hardly ever disobey. He would never hurt me and I do not wish to be hurt by him. I have had other Masters in the past that did enjoy hurting me; but, that was not my thing.
You just have to find a sub that is into the same kind of BDSM that you are into. Maybe you should research it, if you are not sure what type you are.
I'd like to add My opinions to this thread...
First off, to 1LovelyKinkyKitsune; A Master is dominant but a Master is more than a Dom. A Dom is in the truest sense of the word, one who is dominant. But a Master has taken it to a whole other level. I have been a Dom most of my life. It was only after years of study and learning all I could on the subject that I became a Master.
Now as for the original post: As it has been said there are as many different styles and degrees of BDSM as there are participants. Some call themselves submissives, some call themselves slaves, some call themselves littles or babygirls or brats. On the other side you have Doms, Daddys, Sirs, and Masters. How two people interact is entirely up to them and there are no "wrong" ways to play. BDSM is like any other type of sex play - what works for you is all that matters. Some submissives enjoy things a little rougher just as some Doms enjoy a harder style as well.
The trick is to find a partner that shares your speed and style of play and who can walk with you - not pulling you along and not slowing you down. Once you have that, you will find the journey happy, beautiful, and rewarding.
answer to OP.
Nothing is wrong. As in every relationship the same goes for Dom/sub one. You need to find person that suits you, just because you are in this lifestyle doesn't exclude that you actually have to find right person for you.
it is generalization.
however MF found something in JM post that he found silly, that's why laughing smiley. You found motherfucker resentful, I haven't, not because that is MF but because it is in the context of his post.
Can anyone tell me where someone goes to study - for years - to be a master? Seriously, where and what does someone study for that long to officially call themselves a master?