Hi Guys!
I'm all new in here and I have a question about how to be a 'bad' girl and lead my guy to punish me. I've recently met this guy who likes the same sexually things as me (he's kind of a dom and I am really much sub). But my thing is that I am shy and I really dont want to directly tell him, that I wish him to punish me (I still feel it kindoff plus where I come from, a small town in Denmark, we usually don't do this).
He likes dominating me and I really much think that he would love to punish me, but I don't know if I should make him think the thought first or rather just tell him directly. I fint the idea, that I dont ask for it, really hot.
How should I approach this?
- Newbadgirl
Fail to do something he has instructed you to do. BUT, first do y'all have a safe word or an understanding as to the limits of the punishment such as flogging.
Brandie
Do something which is forbidden, provided your mistress knows your limits.
Communication under pins relationships. This is something you really need to talk about to set boundaries and more importantly as mentioned by others some sort of safeword set up.
Without communication this will be a none starter .
I agree with the communication point. No relationship (and certainly no BDSM relationship) is like another.
Personally, I don't like bratting (that is, faux misbehavior in order to induce a punishment). I would rather she request attention directly if she wishes it, or perhaps arrange for a regular scheduled session.
But by contrast lots of couples like the bratting dynamic. As long as both sides know and approve, it's all good.
I have to subtly ask if he thinks I am naughty and get onto the subject of punishment. Most guys like the idea of giving a girl like me a few slaps but putting me across their knee and really giving me a proper spank is something that not everyone likes. If a guy starts I encourage him to do it more, then if he does I beg him to do it, harder. I have a paddle and sometimes get it out and they get the picture. That hurts but is wonderful and usually I plead for more, it gets me hard being spanked property.