Humiliation Check List ala A Dark Angel
on 2022 02 06th
Preface
This is a reworking of Super-Trafalgar's second version of "The Humiliation Self-Profiling Kit for submissive women". One thing that has bothered me is how it was written almost exclusively from the male gaze. Further, when I've reposted his version previously here at Lush some of the wording was somewhat objectionable to others so posting it as it was did get me into trouble a couple times with moderators. Hopefully the wording meets approval now.
Apart from these elements I think Super-Trafalgar was heading in the right direction. I too believe there are a lot of people "who get aroused by the idea of being humiliated but [are] too embarrassed to admit what particular sort of humiliations made" a person sexually excited.
I think Super-Trafalgar said it best:
"You are still embarrassed by what makes you [sexually excited]. But humiliation is very personal, is it not? While there are [a] myriad ways to humiliate and degrade you, only some of these ways will make you aroused; others will repel and disgust you. So if you want to have your Owner / play-partner do the things to you that you so desperately crave, then you're going to need to indicate - one way or another - what they are."
In practice I've used Super-Trafalgar's list to help a submissive narrow their focus onto what really thrills them. In one case, a submissive even filled out the list and took it to their therapist to help them better understand and better incorporate elements of the list into their life. You might want to just use this to display onto your blog, letting everyone know just how they can best interact with your blog. Others may keep it private and only hand in to their owner / play partner. There are a myriad of ways to use this list, but I do advise you only share it with those whom you fully trust.
There are a few ways to process the list, in my opinion the best is to copy and paste the entire list. For Parts 1 & 2 if you plan on providing this to someone else or presenting it, I recommend merely deleting the items in the list that you are not interested in or disgusted by, though it may take a bit more editing.
As I've been redeveloping this list, adding some things, rewording others I've found myself thinking there is no way I'd want to participate in this, but I know having browsed the Internet, there are going to be those out there who will be into this. This is especially true for the parts about inflicting pain, race play, things that mock aspects of a person, or how a narcissist might inflict harm upon the person they abuse. I guess I just don't want people to believe I am fully capable of everything on this list. I have my turns on and limits; others will have their own. Nothing wrong in theory about that so long as everything is safe, sane, and consensual. That said, there are some very dangerous elements listed here. If a Dominant were to fail in providing proper aftercare to counter balance the psychological or physical affects a submissive would be subjected to, then these dangerous activities should be strongly consider such a red flag by the submissive.
By default all listed items will be set to 0 for zero interest in the particular activity. If you are interested in an item please use the following rating to replace the default 0.
I am just hearing about this and would like to research further
I am interested in trying this
I enjoy participating in this
I want this more often
I NEED this as a part of my life 24/7 as it is ingrained into my very being.
All that said, let's get into the list.
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Part 1 - Core Information
Note section 1D will have areas provided so you can fill in your own answer(s) to the question.
1A - Age:
1B - Name:
1C - Sexual Orientation:
1D - Who have you fantasized about humiliating you?
0 - Your Owner(s)
0 - Your significant other(s) [can be same as owner(s)]
0 - Any person of a sexual orientation you prefer that your owner lends you to
0 - Any person of a sexual orientation you do not prefer that your owner lends you to
0 - Any person of a sexual orientation you strongly dislike that your owner lends you to
0 - Anyone higher in the submissive/slave hierarchy you are part of
0 - A person you are related to by blood
0 - A Police Officer
0 - A Soldier
0 - A Medical Professional
0 - A Teacher
0 - A Person in Religious Authority
0 - A Scout Leader
0 - A Boss
0 - A Friend
0 - A Bully
0 - A Fictional Character
0 - Someone you owe money or a favor to
0 - Someone you need something from
0 - Someone seeking to blackmail you
0 - Someone that assaults you
0 - Someone that abducts you
0 - ______________________________
0 - ______________________________
1E - Fill in the blank: I was __ years old when I had my first humiliation experience.
1F - Fill in the blank: I was __ years old when I realized humiliation sexually excited me.
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Part 2 - List of Humiliations and Kinks
Note each sub section will have areas provided so you can fill in your own humiliation or kink related to the sub section.
2A - Being Controlled / Owned
0 - Being ordered around
0 - Being made to perform tasks
0 - Being denied orgasm(s)
0 - Being forced to orgasm or have multiple orgasms
0 - Being trained to orgasm on command
0 - Not being permitted to wear one or more undergarments
0 - Being told what clothes to wear every day
0 - Having to be naked in your residence at all times regardless of who else is there
0 - Being told what you are allowed to eat
0 - Being told when to sleep
0 - Being told where to sleep
0 - Being told how to keep the hair on your head/body
0 - Being told how to wear makeup
0 - Being told how to groom yourself beyond what has been mentioned
0 - Having to eat from the floor
0 - Having to crawl on all fours
0 - Having to ask before you can go pee
0 - Having to ask before you can go poo
0 - Having to pee outside
0 - Having to poo outside
0 - Having to wear a collar to show that you are owned
0 - Having a permanent marking like a tattoo or brand applied to you to show you are owned
0 - Having to answer any questions from your owner fully and honestly with no limits
0 - ______________________________
0 - ______________________________
2B - Being put on display
0 - Having to wear slutty and/or revealing clothes at home
0 - Having to wear slutty and/or revealing clothes in public
0 - Having to wear slutty and/or revealing clothes at/for work
0 - Having to bare your sex, chest or ass in a public place
0 - Having to bare your sex, chest or ass at work
0 - Being made to dress in a costume for others (schoolgirl, maid, cosplay, etc.)
0 - Being stripped naked in front of people your Owner or play partner invites around
0 - Having edited lewd pictures of you posted onto the Internet
0 - Having face included lewd pictures of you posted onto the Internet
0 - Having to send edited lewd pictures of yourself to someone listed in Section 1D
0 - Having to send lewd pictures of yourself to someone listed in Section 1D
0 - Being put on display as a whore in a shop window
0 - Being put on display as a whore online
0 - ______________________________
0 - ______________________________
2C - Being treated as a sex object
0 - Being casually groped by your Owner / Play partner whenever they want
0 - Being casually groped by someone other than your Owner / Play partner whenever they want
0 - Being groped openly in public by your Owner / Play partner
0 - Being groped openly in public by someone other than your Owner / Play partner
0 - Being treated as nothing more than a fine ass
0 - Being treated as nothing but a set of holes
0 - Being treated as nothing more than fine fuck meat
0 - For the CIS females/MtF: Being treated as nothing but a set of breasts
0 - For the CIS males/MtF/FtM: Being treated as if only your penis matters
0 - Being fucked as hard and as roughly as possible
0 - Having your ass filled
0 - Having your mouth/throat filled
0 - Being forced to endure an enema
0 - Being slapped across your face with the object/body part that will fuck or was fucking you
0 - Being used as receptacle for sexual fluids
0 - Being gang-banged
0 - Being whored out
0 - Being used as a party favor
0 - Being used at a glory hole or adult theater
0 - Being sexually assaulted
0 - ______________________________
0 - ______________________________
2D - Being verbally degraded or dehumanized
0 - Being called dirty/filthy
0 - Being called a slut
0 - Being called a whore
0 - Being called worthless
0 - Being called stupid/ignorant/dumb
0 - Being called a cunt
0 - Being called an animal
0 - Being called a pup/bitch
0 - Being called a kitten
0 - Being called a pony
0 - Being called a pig/sow
0 - Being called a cow/heifer
0 - Being called a breeder
0 - Being called a toilet
0 - Being called some type of furniture
0 - Being called a set of holes
0 - Being called a cum dumpster
0 - Being called racial slurs
0 - Being called sexual slurs
0 - Having any of the above terms written on your body
0 - Having parts of your body ridiculed
0 - Having words written on your body ridiculing parts of your body (small, fat, etc.)
0 - Having you agree with and repeat back the names you are being called
0 - Being talked to in a condescending manner
0 - Being talked to in a rude and arrogant manner
0 - ______________________________
0 - ______________________________
2E - Being physically hurt
0 - Being shook by any of your hair
0 - Having any of your hair pulled
0 - Having any of your hair waxed/plucked
0 - Having any of your hair shaved
0 - Having any of your hair burned off
0 - Having hot wax poured onto you
0 - Having sharp items stabbed into/through you
0 - Having sharp items cut you
0 - Having chemical based items like Tiger Balm irritate or burn you
0 - Having herb based items like Ginger Root or Stinging Nettles applied to you
0 - Being bound into painful positions
0 - Having your face slapped
0 - Having your face stepped on or crushed
0 - Having your face punched/kicked
0 - Having your face struck with impact toys/tools
0 - Having your limbs/extremities yanked
0 - Having your limbs/extremities slapped
0 - Having your limbs/extremities stepped on or crushed
0 - Having your limbs/extremities struck with impact toys/tools
0 - Having your nipples pulled on hard
0 - Having your nipples clamped or pinched
0 - Having your breasts/chest slapped
0 - Having your breasts/chest stepped on or crushed
0 - Having your breasts/chest struck with impact toys/tools
0 - Having your stomach punched/kicked
0 - Having your stomach stepped on or crushed
0 - Having your stomach struck with impact toys/tools
0 - Having your sex slapped
0 - Having your sex punched or kicked
0 - Having your sex stepped on or crushed
0 - Having your sex struck with impact toys/tools
0 - Having your ass spanked/slapped
0 - Having your ass punched/kicked
0 - Having your ass stepped on or crushed
0 - Having your ass struck with impact toys/tools
0 - ______________________________
0 - ______________________________
2F - Being disciplined
0 - Being castigated for doing something incorrectly privately
0 - Being castigated for doing something incorrectly in front of others
0 - Being scolded like you are a child
0 - Being scolded like you are a bad animal
0 - Being scolded like you are of little worth
0 - Having to write lines
0 - Having to stand in a corner
0 - Being made to apologize for your behavior
0 - Having to bare your bottom, bend over and wait for your punishment
0 - Having to count out each spank or stroke as it lands on your bottom
0 - Having your red swatted bottom put on display
0 - Having to hold weighted items with your arms outstretched
0 - Having to endure being used sexually in public
0 - Having to sit in the Seiza pose with heavy weights laying in your lap
0 - ______________________________
0 - ______________________________
2G - Being treated as unimportant
0 - Having your worldview mocked, belittled or ignored
0 - Having to carry out acts that go completely counter to your worldview
0 - Having your feelings mocked, belittled or ignored
0 - Having your time deliberately wasted
0 - Being completely ignored
0 - Being treated as an object that is disposable
0 - Having anything you possess thrown out at your Owner's or play partner's discretion
0 - Having your work or career treated as trivial or unimportant
0 - Having your Needs and wants completely ignored
0 - Being told only your Owner's Needs and wants matter
0 - ______________________________
0 - ______________________________
2H - Having your orgasm controlled
0 - Having to ask for permission to touch your sex
0 - Having to ask for permission to stimulate yourself
0 - Having to ask for permission to cum
0 - Only being allowed to hump objects in order to cum
0 - Only being allowed to hump your Owner's or play partner's leg or foot in order to cum
0 - Being made to edge all day to keep yourself sexually aroused and ready
0 - Being locked away in a chastity device
0 - Being denied from orgasms for days
0 - Being denied from orgasms for weeks
0 - Being denied from orgasms for months
0 - Being denied any orgasm ever again
0 - Having your mouth used to stimulate you to orgasm
0 - Only having your mouth used to stimulate you to orgasm
0 - Having your ass used to stimulate you to orgasm
0 - Only having your ass used to stimulate you to orgasm
0 - Having your urethral used to stimulate you to orgasm
0 - Only having your urethral used to stimulate you to orgasm
0 - ______________________________
0 - ______________________________
2i - Being shamed about your body
0 - Being mocked about your body size
0 - Being mocked about how your chest looks
0 - Being mocked for how unattractive someone finds you to be
0 - Being inspected so your tormenter can find additional flaws to mock.
0 - Being compared to another person's body type and told how badly you measure up.
0 - ______________________________
0 - ______________________________
2J - Physical constraints as a means of humiliation
0 - Having your hands cuffed behind your back
0 - Being kept in chains
0 - Having your sex stretched
0 - Having your tongue pulled out and bound to force you to drool
0 - Being gagged to stop you from talking
0 - Being gagged with an O-Ring to help you drool more
0 - Being gagged with an O-Ring to allow your Owner or play partner to use your mouth as the hole it is.
0 - Being tied up naked in such a way that fully exposes your holes for your Owner or play partner to use
0 - Being tied up naked in such a way that fully exposes your holes for strangers to use
0 - Being kept in chastity
0 - Being kept in stocks
0 - Being kept in a cage
0 - ______________________________
0 - ______________________________
2K - Making you do demeaning and disgusting things
0 - Being spat on
0 - Being used as a urinal
0 - Being made to urinate on yourself
0 - Being made to urinate in public where others can see
0 - Being made to drink your urine
0 - Being made to drink your Owner or play partner's urine
0 - Being made to drink a stranger's urine
0 - Being made to eat or drink things mixed with bodily fluids
0 - Being made to take bodily fluids onto your face
0 - Being made to wear bodily fluids on your face or person privately
0 - Being made to wear bodily fluids on your face or person publicly
0 - Having to wear clothing filled or stained with bodily fluids all day
0 - Having your used underwear/panties shoved into your mouth as a gag
0 - Having your Owner's or play partner's used underwear/panties shoved into your mouth as a gag
0 - Having a stranger's used underwear/panties shoved into your mouth as a gag
0 - Being used sexually while you have a paper bag over your head as you're too ugly to look at
0 - Being used sexually while your used underwear/panties cover your head/face
0 - Being used sexually while your Owner's or play partner's used underwear/panties cover your head/face
0 - Being used sexually while a stranger's used underwear/panties cover your head/face
0 - Being sexually used while your head is in a toilet
0 - Having your face sat on
0 - Having a toilet brush shoved in one or more of your holes to clean it
0 - Being marked as property with another person's bodily fluids
0 - Making you lick/clean dirty surfaces
0 - Making you hump dirty surfaces
0 - Making you lick another person's shoes or feet clean
0 - Being hosed down like an animal
0 - Being made to lie in filth or mud
0 - Being made to spend the night in the barn
0 - Being made to spend the night in a kennel
0 - Being made to get off sexually with toys that look like animal penises.
0 - Being made to act like an animal in public
0 - ______________________________
0 - ______________________________
2L - Controlling your other relationships
0 - Having your private life openly discussed with family, friends or work colleagues
0 - Having intimate pictures or videos of you shown to family, friends or work colleagues
0 - Having you have sex with family members outside your immediate dynamic
0 - Having you have sex with friends or work colleagues outside your immediate dynamic
0 - Having you setup sex dates between your Owner / play partner and members of your family
0 - Having you setup sex dates between your Owner / play partner and your friends or work colleagues
0 - Having you hand over access to all your social media accounts to your Owner / play partner to humiliate you however they like.
0 - Being isolated from family, friends, and work colleagues by your Owner / play partner
0 - ______________________________
0 - ______________________________
2M - Race-play
* 0 - Having your race mocked as inferior
* 0 - Being made to be a sexual toy for people of a race you normally wouldn't have sex with
* 0 - Being called racially insulting names
* 0 - ______________________________
* 0 - ______________________________
2N - Gender play as humiliation
* 0 - Having you have sex with a gender you normally would not have sex with
* 0 - Treating your gender as inferior to others
* 0 - ______________________________
* 0 - ______________________________
2o - Your position in your relationship
* 0 - Having your Owner or play partner turn you into a cuckold or cuckquean.
* 0 - Having to watch or listen to your Owner or play partner have sex with others
* 0 - Being denied any sort of sexual play by your Owner or play partner while they have as much as they desire.
* 0 - Being told by your Owner or play partner how much more they enjoy sex with their other sexual partner(s)
* 0 - Having to move into a spare room because your Owner or play partner's other sexual partner(s) is now in your room
* 0 - Having to clean up after your Owner or play partner's other sexual partner(s)
* 0 - Having to dote on your Owner or play partner's other sexual partner(s)
* 0 - Having to buy gifts and provide tributes to your Owner or play partner's other sexual partner(s)
* 0 - Having to use your mouth and tongue to clean the other sexual partner(s) after your Owner or play partner has sex with them
* 0 - Being made to feel inferior by the other sexual partner(s) of your Owner or play partner
* 0 - Losing your position of authority within your dynamic to your Owner or play partner's other sexual partner(s)
* 0 - No longer being allow to have sex with your Owner or play partner, yet kept around as a maid or similar to your Owner or play partner's other sexual partner(s)
* 0 - You are eventually reduced to being seen as someone your Owner or play partner's real pets have a higher status than you
* 0 - You are forced to clean up after your Owner or play partner's real pets using your hands
* 0 - You are forced to clean up after your Owner or play partner's real pets using your mouth / tongue
* 0 - You have less authority than your Owner or play partner's children
* 0 - Your Owner or play partner's children are allowed to bully you
* 0 - ______________________________
* 0 - ______________________________
2P - Generic Humiliation
* 0 - Being laughed at
* 0 - Being told by your owner what they intend to do to you next in very graphic detail
* 0 - Being told that making you feel mortified makes your Owner or play partner sexually aroused
* 0 - Having to beg your Owner or play partner for something you need or want
* 0 - Having to beg your Owner or play partner to not make you do something your do not want to do
* 0 - Being humiliated to tears
* 0 - Being encouraged to cry because it sexually arouses your Owner or play partner
* 0 - Having to thank the person or people who have utterly humiliated, hurt or used you
* 0 - Having to say you are sorry to your Owner or play partner, even for things that are not your fault
* 0 - Being mocked because you get sexually aroused when your are humiliated
* 0 - ______________________________
* 0 - ______________________________
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Part 3 - Additional Open Ended Info
* What do you look like? Be completely descriptive. Everything from your measurements, weight, height, hair color, eye color; everything.
* What is your race / ethnicity / nationality are you?
* Are you shy, outgoing, or a mix?
* Are you religious? If so, which faith?
* Are you still a virgin?
* If you are not a virgin, how many sexual partners have you had and what were their genders?
* If you are not a virgin, which or your holes have others used so far?
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Parting Words
I have already touched on this in the preface, but it is critical you ensure your mental well-being is looked after if you participate in any of these activities. It is also critical you recognize when your Owner or play partner is an abuser and take steps to get away from them. No amount of sexual arousal is worth the negative abuse.
Please stay safe as you play.