a question to the submissives, if you don't mind.
How did you know you where a submissive?
and how did you come about your limits? and or have you found your limits?
I am happy to see this topic in the forums. I can relate to Driverman as I too finally realized what was inside of me for all of these years. I was fortunate to have someone much wiser then me to see what I was not seeing or understanding. without guidance and understanding I would still be searching for what I did not know. My little was my friend first and she answered so many questions, calmed fears and watch me grow. It was a perfect way to progress to where we are now and DD/little is perfect for us.
Now it is my desire to pass on knowledge to who ever I can so they can understand themselves better and learn how beautiful this life can be. To know that it is not always pain, beatings or misuse. There is nothing more loving that can happen then the moment the sub says. I am yours.
Thank you all for the information being shared here ... It is of great value!
Thank you all for your participation, i hope this is just the begining of the discussion revolving around BDSM
Having been a Dominant virtually all of My adult life, real time, not cyber, I have learned and experienced very much, and, I would not have exchanged any of those times for anything. Having felt the specialness of a woman offering her total and complete gift of herself to Me, to guard, treasure, and protect, that gift, is an almost indescribable feeling. Being poly, I am fortunate enough to have experienced that, more than a few times, and many of these M/s relationships have lasted 5 years, and longer.
Helping guide a sub through their everyday problems, giving them the information that they would need to make the choices best for them, helping them through those many difficult, emotional or physical times, letting them know that they were treasured, appreciated, wanted, in spite of everything going on in their personal lives -- and then, when all those times were overcome, being able to enjoy them, without those things hanging over their heads -- it brings a smile to My face, just writing about them, thinking about them, again.
Hopefully. most of you have never had to go through the worst possible time, of losing one of your treasured subs, when she is being taken away from you, knowing she will never return -- spending those last weeks, days, hours, with her, watching her slowly leaving you, being helpless to do anything to make her physically feel better, only being able to try to help her mentally happy, knowing she is treasured, while still trying to keep her sister subs as strong and focused as possible, but still allowing them their grief, knowing they are losing her, -- is a time that I hope none of You ever have to experience. There is no easy, or best, way -- You just do Your best.
I hope this has helped somewhat. and I wish all of You the best in this New Year.
I don't accept dominance or submissiveness in my relationships. For me 'companionship' is a mutual agreement and pleasure to enjoy with each other more or less equally.
I know many girls like to be dominated - so be it for them.
Many men I have known would be, if they could be - but not with me.
I am not a master/slave type of person and do not enjoy or engage in that form of relationship, having played the game a few times without enjoying the experience.
If it floats your boat find a crew that is happy with the arrangement - I see no harm in it for consenting couples.
I thank all the participants in this thread, i encourage continued open discussion of this very important topic
MORE ON COLLARS
There are some other, generally less-significant collars used at times.
An "Everyday" collar may be a necklace, bracelet, or other item that a sub may wear every day. The everyday collar has significance to the couple, without inviting the notice of the wider vanilla community. An everyday collar may serve as a formal collar in some relationships. In others it may only be worn when the formal collar might not be as acceptable.
A "Play" collar may be worn during a scene or other BDSM event for the duration of the event. It may also feature additional D-rings, or other components to facilitate the type of scene during which it is being used. It generally does not denote more than to identify the "bottom" during the scene, and does not signify a relationship with the "Top" in the scene, or with any other Dominant in attendence.
A collar of "Protection" may be worn by an unattached sub to denote that she is under the temporary protection of one or more of the Dominants in a club or at an event. The purpose is to keep the unattached sub from being hassled by others who might not give that sub the respect she deserves during the event. It also does not signify a relationship with a Dominant beyond the protection being offered, nor does it imply some quid pro quo owed to the Dominant giving it from the sub accepting it.