They're casting bait. Put something on the hook with a weight (naked people screwing, a note, "Hey, wanna fuck?", something subtle, whatever) and throw it out to plop in the pool. Some fish are attracted and bite immediately, some run like hell. Sometimes a "Trotline" with many baited hooks and they wait for any bites and just throw back the ones they don't want to eat.
I had a friend years ago, Arlie, who'd literally just ask them if they wanted to screw. Sometimes just that crude others a little softer. He was a tall, Italian type and contended that slightly better than half said yes. I've seen him do this and believed him, but I never could.
I'm a fly fisherman. Much subtler. I cast out ideas, thoughts and compliments, and let them settle gently in the water. I NEVER expect anything but a "Thank You" and I'm never disappointed. I do this in real-life too and it gets most to talk to me. I truly have no ulterior motive and let them decide how deep it gets. I do not ask for friends here either and every one I have contacted me. I appreciate every one of them too. Most are good authors but some don't write.
I correspond with many here. We talk about sex, share ideas and discuss life. There are several that I admire because they use their minds to think with and are marvelous ladies, guys too but mostly we don't talk about sex. I a, so straight I don't bend when I sit down.
I've written stories for a couple of them, two at their request and I'm doing sequels for them too. One is guiding me gently through some of the problems I have with writing and I'd do anything she asked me to. I'll keep talking to them until I can't think any more or die. I love them because that's what true friendship is. Accept everything they say and NEVER judge.
With one it gets VERY intense. She likes me and I like her. Were both in a sexless marriage (my wife from Alzheimer's, her husbands not interested) and we comfort each other a lot. If that's wrong then we'll go live somewhere else. I'm hoping to meet this wonderful woman some day but that's her choice, never mine. I still adore my wife and she accepts this and cares for her too because that's the way she is, a lady. I do not push myself on anyone.
The types I'm attracted to prefer the gentleman. They don't like crude people but can be VERY wild when they want to be. They can be young or old, centerfold types or plain as a split-rail fence, it's what they are inside that's most important to me. I've found the adage, "Beauty starts on the inside." true. I have known many very plain people that were beautiful and several centerfold types that were ugly as a mud fence. My WIFES ONLY sister is the mud fence type. A gorgeous woman, professional model for years, but she is a consummate "UGLY BITCH!" Very sad for my wife, me too.
This is all an opinion, mine. Others have theirs and are just as valid. An opinion is one of the three things all humans have. Getting angry at an opinion is self destructive and I don't do it, but I respond very strongly to an attack.
) That said I spoke to a new male friend of mine last night and he told me about a few rather shocking ones he had received from women so its swings and roundabouts really but none the less there are us here who simply don't like getting messages like that and say so in our bio's as someone I don't recall who said previously in this forum its even worse if you appear on featured members I bloody hate it when I do I get inundated its crazy.
. Just remember that i am straight . My sexual orientaion that is . Not my cock 
because they were so stupid. TBH i thought at the time he was kind of dorky too. So i accepted her friend request. From there i heard about how one of her former female friends stole one of her male friends . She went so far as to even start a forum post about it.
