I am not a cougar....
i find guys who are around my boys age to be just zero for me...as i see my boy when u message me
i want a man my age...1 who thinks that classics are not songs from the 80's ok...
yes u are beautfiful, have big packages, fresh....vigorous....lovely
but after all the "pretty" is depleted what is left?
two decades of life that even sex cannot bridge....
so tell me why u want to sleep with someone the age of your mother?
so just...tell me why?
Because a guy likes a girl who knows exactly what she wants.
A mature and sexually experienced woman is the epitome of every man's fantasy.
First off, I'm not a "chick"
I don't think that term could be applied to me or any other woman over the age of 25, maybe as late as 30!
I am much more comfortable being a MILF and possibly a cougar...
To answer the question, I believe it is a couple of attractions.
Most guys will always have an attraction to an older woman based on a nurturing image of a mother figure in their minds.
With the way the world has changed over the last 20 years, women from their late 30's on have taken better care of themselves and allowed themselves to dress and behave in a manner that blurred the lines of ages between their 30's, 40's, 50's and beyond!
There is always the boys mental image of losing their virginity to an older and experienced "madam" like many older guys told stories about.
This fantasy also carries over since us women are now more experienced, older, wiser and willing to go after what we want in sexual pleasures! This sometimes makes other see us a "wanton", "Sexually Aggressive" and more carefree about sex!
Add the fact that we dress more casually and often have ourselves in better physical shape to show off our bodies, it makes it more interesting for guys and gals who are younger or less experienced.
Kisses!
Steph
I don't honestly think sexual attraction knows an age. Personally as I get older I do find the younger girls overall to be less and less attractive but if Katy Perry threw it in my face, I wouldn't turn it away. I much prefer Michelle Pfeiffer however.
Although I'm almost too old to remember those days, some of it comes back.
1) Good sex with no commitment.
2) Good sex with no commitment.
3) Good sex with no commitment.
4) Because it pisses younger women off and they sometimes rise to the challenge. They stop taking themselves so seriously and become more fun.
I don't. I like women my own age or a few younger.
ok i really got some great points here..especially from dude..u actuallly made me see..why...it could work..so ty for that
as for the calm down kinsey & the i dont call ladies chicks comments..wow...if you had both left out the personal attacks i would have so enjoyed your remarks...u had REALLY good thoughts...
i try really hard to address the question & not the person...it takes guts to post either stories or posts here...to be semi kind..might make a difference in a person's posting
by the way i like the word chick..lmao..ladies..girls loveys sweeties...however i will be more careful addressing the ladies of lush that way..where i live we always say hey chickie
different cultures, different regions & countrys view phrases....well...as i said where i live it is a sweet term
peace & ty for all who put their thoughts here...always appreciated (well except for the kinsey 1..u super suck..lol)
for those of you who thoughtfully answered this....i so so thank you..i see this in a whole diff light..which is what life is about
I'm 39 and I still find older women very sexy. The oldest woman I have ever been with was only a couple of months older than me.
Bottom line, men love all women no matter what their age is. For me I find older women who are still sexy a huge turn-on, because you never know what they have gone thru in life and are still able to keep it together. Also older women do not play games when it comes to sex, if they see what they like, they go after it, and men love to be chased instead of always chasing women.
NO BS. Its just something sexy when a older woman tells you what she wants. I have had sex with cougars and it is great. She even made cookies when we where done.
As the mother thing I dont want to sleep with my mother and I will never want to sleep with my mother and i dont think of older women as my mother. That thought almost made me give up cougars.
I think it's something of a role-reversal thing.
Like guys who are trying to pitch to younger girls have to be on their game more and there is always that "what happens after sex" thing where expectations/relationship-potential gets in the way of good sex. In this case, the younger/hot girl is in the power-seat in terms of whether sex will happen or not.
With an older woman, they are seen as more sexually confident/aggressive and willing. Like in this case, the younger guy becomes the 'boy toy' and in many situations the older woman sees it as a cool thing to be able to get a hot young guy interested in her - so the power dynamic shifts. She's chasing him or trying to hook things up. This translates to easier sex, not having to work as hard to make the initial pitch, and guys knowing that an older woman probably isn't going to have too many post-sex expectations or get weirdly clingy or neurotic.
So yeah, I think it's a sex thing.
In some cases, maybe the sex is really good because she knows what she's doing and they have something in common and a relationship happens. I think that whole "Samantha Jones" in Sex and the City thing made it ok/desirable for an older woman to be the hot predatory female that gets what she wants, so that was part of this whole era where it became socially acceptable to see sexy older women with young guys.
As well - sometimes a guy is more of a sub, not really a hunter, and maybe a little passive, so having a take-charge female to take care of him and 'run the relationship' is something more typical of getting with an older female. There's plenty of male golddiggers too... they love the older women with cash. But that's another story.
Perhaps because older chicks are more likely to take charge, get their dicks out and give them a mindblowing blowjob?? AND accept that with young guys, jerking them off up front is a prelude to an enjoyable evening, rather than a reason to tut, tut in disgust and leave them feeling useless, weird and nerdy????