I like being the dominant one just as much as i like being submissive. I love for a woman to take control and use me. I once was in the process of dating a dominatrix and it was amazing. I love the way that I was treated but then again I love treating my woman the same way some times.
it's a fine line. there are tons of factors -- the woman, her mood, how the night is going, etc. You really have to judge it case by case, test it a little bit, see how she reacts and then move forward. I personally believe there's a separation in the bedroom from outside of it. There has to be. Especially if you're married or in a long term relationship. You can't bring bills, errands, everyday chores, etc into the bedroom.
But I love to be dominant when she's into it. I don't feel the slightest bit bad about it. It doesn't mean I'm a prick afterward. It's bringing fantasy into sex.
I love submissive women. For me it is a big turn on in the bedroom!
I would not say I find it offensive, but if she just lays there completely unassertive it just feels like she isn't very... interested, I guess I'd say.
My partner will be submissive for me, although sometimes i like to be submissive aswell.. ... She likes me taking her in the missionary position with me holding her hands above her head as i penetrate her..
I think the original question is a generality that is not true. SOME maybe, not all. Just like SOME men or women find almost anything "offensive" or even just distasteful. I personally don't think most men DO find a sexually submissive women to be offensive, and contrary to what DD posted I think most men find it appealing if only from time to time. I think most men like their women to mix it up, sometimes submissive, sometimes dominant, and sometimes a mix of the two. Then there are those who fall in the wings concerning how they want their women.
I really dislike generalities like this since they seldom reflect reality.
It's just not everybody's cup of tea.
Historically I've been more of a sub, but in my current relationship my partner wants often wants me to put on my dom face, and at first I found it nearly impossible. I didn't find it offensive, but some people react that way because of the way we teach equality in this country. We want to homogenize our culture and behavior, and call it acceptance. I didn't honestly check whether you're from the U.S. or not, but I hope the statement remains useful. Sometime you have to explain what it is you want, and why you want it, and ask for patience. If your partner is not willing to show you some patience and understanding then they are NOT somebody you want dominating you in the first place, otherwise, you can learn. I'd certainly drag you around by your hair if I could.
As a Dominant, if a woman said "Ok. control me", I wouldn't feel offended, but I would laugh my ass off. 1) because she'd sound like she was trying to top from the bottom 2) because she obviously has no idea what D/s is about 3) because "Ok. control me" is a brat attention whore attitude 4) because it's not anything a submissive would say 5) because a genuine Dominant prefers an independent woman who willingly submits because he has earned her respect, admiration,desire, etc. I could go on listing more reasons, but the question is silly.
If my woman was a submissive it would be a total turn on. I'd love it!
If I can go Dr Phil / Mars-Venus on this, or just make an idiot generalisation, men have primal hardwiring to please women. We actually get pleasure from it. Let us know what you want, so we can do it for you.
A woman who submits to everything all the time is a frustrating bore. Express an opinion. Make a decision. Show us you're worthy of our affection. Haven't you seen Coming to America?
But hooray for flavouring rough sex!
My latest story is a racy little piece about what happens when someone cute from work invites you over to watch Netflix and Chill. For all those who find themselves with non-understanding partners - I feel your pain.
Please remember: just because your partner's desires don't mirror your own, doesn't make you evil, wrong, disgusting, or any of the above. It just makes you differnt; and being different is incredibly attractive.