My boyfriend doesn't really try pleasing me as much. We have been dating almost a year and i can count on my hands how many times he has tried to please me. I'm more of the pleaser in our relationship. We have a lot of sex but it always seems like the same thing very rarely do we switch it up. So guys what do you think about pleasing your women? Is it just as importantt to you as what she does for you in the bedroom?
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What do you think about pleasuring your woman?
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So guys what do you think about pleasing your women? Is it just as importantt to you as what she does for you in the bedroom?
It's more important. One should never be a selfish lover; sex (as a recreational activity) should be about mutual pleasure and enjoyment. If we care about someone and enjoy the way they make us feel, we should show our gratitude by striving to make them feel the same.
Sex is give and take, for sure, but one should never take more than one gives. Besides, the "pleasure-giving" should be an enjoyable part of it, too; it should be fun, not an effort or an obligation.
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I find it a real turn on to make sure we mix it up, and that I make sure she happy. have you talked to him about it? I think most guys want to keep there lady happy, maybe he doesn't know he's in a rut. also let him know what you like by your actions and noises, and tell him you like this or that. if he knows your on lush show him a few stories that intrest you and tell him that sounds like fun. maybe watch a soft porn movie together might give him the nudge. also exercise get most men in the mood.
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I like doing it a lot its nice to know your pleasing them a lot ;)
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It's the most important thing a man can do for a woman. If he is not willing to take the time to please you that makes him selfish, and disrespectful. Your pleasure is the #1. Alway please her first then yours will come later.
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I live to pleasure the woman in my life! (Check my profile, where I make that same statement). The thing I notice is the more effort I put into pleasuring the woman in my life, the more I get back!
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For me, A woman's pleasure makes the sexual experience complete. One-sided romps tend to get very boring.
A question for you....How's your communication in the bedroom? Do you both feel comfortable telling each the other what works and does not for you?
I have always loved getting to know new partners, and figuring out the subtle things that shoot them through the roof. This has always happened through communication that strengthened our bond. Pleasurable sex is definitely different for different people. What works for one can do nothing for another.
It sounds like you may need subtlety educate him about what truly pleasures you?
A question for you....How's your communication in the bedroom? Do you both feel comfortable telling each the other what works and does not for you?
I have always loved getting to know new partners, and figuring out the subtle things that shoot them through the roof. This has always happened through communication that strengthened our bond. Pleasurable sex is definitely different for different people. What works for one can do nothing for another.
It sounds like you may need subtlety educate him about what truly pleasures you?
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It's more important. One should never be a selfish lover; sex (as a recreational activity) should be about mutual pleasure and enjoyment. If we care about someone and enjoy the way they make us feel, we should show our gratitude by striving to make them feel the same.
Sex is give and take, for sure, but one should never take more than one gives. Besides, the "pleasure-giving" should be an enjoyable part of it, too; it should be fun, not an effort or an obligation.
I couldn't have said it better myself. If there were nothing more to sex than getting off, we'd all just stroke it, I suppose. Thanks Clum.
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Her reaction of being pleased is a huge turn on!!
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For me, A woman's pleasure makes the sexual experience complete. One-sided romps tend to get very boring.
A question for you....How's your communication in the bedroom? Do you both feel comfortable telling each the other what works and does not for you?
I have always loved getting to know new partners, and figuring out the subtle things that shoot them through the roof. This has always happened through communication that strengthened our bond. Pleasurable sex is definitely different for different people. What works for one can do nothing for another.
It sounds like you may need subtlety educate him about what truly pleasures you?
well i do suggest things to him but he seems to ignore it. and when i does do something its almost as if he doesnt really want to. and like i like to get to know my partner sexually too so for me i've observed and studied him sexually but i agree it is fun studying your partner thanks for the comment
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If I can't please her, then I'm not pleased and we both lose. Her having a good time is more important than My own.
I agree! Its all about her.
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My boyfriend doesn't really try pleasing me as much. We have been dating almost a year and i can count on my hands how many times he has tried to please me. I'm more of the pleaser in our relationship. We have a lot of sex but it always seems like the same thing very rarely do we switch it up. So guys what do you think about pleasing your women? Is it just as importantt to you as what she does for you in the bedroom?
If you want something different then do you ever try to initiate something different and see if your boyfriend follows?
I don't know if you give your boyfriend any guidance but that can always be very helpful. He doesn't nessacerily know what pleases you and what doesn't please you if you don't let him know. I am not saying that you need to be a screaming banshee but a little bit of noise and movement if you like what he does can do wonders(some positive reinforcement).
I had a girlfriend tell me that I always knew what she wanted when she wanted it. She didn't realize it but she gave me very subtle hints with her body when she wanted something. Sometimes she used her hands to position my head, sometimes she would thrust her breasts out. She was very easy to read because she would react.
If you want your boyfriend to be a good lover, then the best thing to do is teach him in a subtle manner.
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My main focus when with a woman is her. I am an older gentleman, who believes in romancing the woman I am with. That means candlelight dinner at a resaurant of her choice or prepared by me at my home. Followed bye music and dancing. We can it on my patio in a double chise lounge looking up at the stars sipping wine. We go into my home and curl up on my couch or on my thick fur throw in front of the fireplace. We kiss and I caress her face and run my fingers through her hair. If she wants we take off our clothes and curl up with thfire for heat. We make love slowly with attention paid to her hanving several small orgasms. When my cock enters her she will be ready to have the best and biggest orgasm of her sexual life. We move to my bedroom and continue making love. Until we fall asleep contented in each others arms. In the morning we shower together where we make love again. I wash her body all over pampering her. Following all this we have breakfast of rolls tea and coffee orange juice champagne with strawberries.
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That is the whole point of the experience. If you don't pleasure her then you shouldn't get any pleasure yourself. If you do then you are a worthless lover.
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WOW so very important it give's me the greatest of pleasure knowing i am satisfying a woman
if i am not wish she would tellme teach me what she love's. It is beautiful feeling a woman orgasm.
if i am not wish she would tellme teach me what she love's. It is beautiful feeling a woman orgasm.