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Quote by JacquieJ
Guys, one of the things that has been puzzling me is the desire of some men to be cuckolded by their wives or girlfriends. Can any of you enlighten me as to what might be behind this?
Although I've never done it myself, I imagine the desire to be cuckolded would come from the desire to be humiliated by your partner. It's like your partner has had to go elsewhere to find satisfaction and you must watch to be punished.
Probably way off there but that's my theory.
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Guys, one of the things that has been puzzling me is the desire of some men to be cuckolded by their wives or girlfriends. Can any of you enlighten me as to what might be behind this?
Small cocks? It's, in my limited experience, a combination of the two replies that you've already received. The husband wanted the 'submission' aspect and also, in an e-mail, said that his 'endowment' was, one might say, below average -
So, I received e-mails which I assumed to be quite independent, that confirmed the former.
Being typically male, I was intrigued at the possibility of some sexual activity after a long (and continuing !) period of drought, but insisted that she and I should meet and ensure we got on well together.
Well, we did and, yes, we were attracted but, as I suspected, it was 'husband driven'. Thus, nothing occurred.
So, JacquiJ, I'm not sure that gives you any more insight ! It was, for me, an interesting if somewhat strange experience -:)
For me, even if I was simply an FWB, exclusivity is the only way. I'm hopelessly antediluvian in some ways !!
So, I received e-mails which I assumed to be quite independent, that confirmed the former.
Being typically male, I was intrigued at the possibility of some sexual activity after a long (and continuing !) period of drought, but insisted that she and I should meet and ensure we got on well together.
Well, we did and, yes, we were attracted but, as I suspected, it was 'husband driven'. Thus, nothing occurred.
So, JacquiJ, I'm not sure that gives you any more insight ! It was, for me, an interesting if somewhat strange experience -:)
For me, even if I was simply an FWB, exclusivity is the only way. I'm hopelessly antediluvian in some ways !!
It's, in my limited experience, a combination of the two replies that you've already received. The husband wanted the 'submission' aspect and also, in an e-mail, said that his 'endowment' was, one might say, below average -
So, I received e-mails which I assumed to be quite independent, that confirmed the former.
Being typically male, I was intrigued at the possibility of some sexual activity after a long (and continuing !) period of drought, but insisted that she and I should meet and ensure we got on well together.
Well, we did and, yes, we were attracted but, as I suspected, it was 'husband driven'. Thus, nothing occurred.
So, JacquiJ, I'm not sure that gives you any more insight ! It was, for me, an interesting if somewhat strange experience -:)
For me, even if I was simply an FWB, exclusivity is the only way. I'm hopelessly antediluvian in some ways !!
So, I received e-mails which I assumed to be quite independent, that confirmed the former.
Being typically male, I was intrigued at the possibility of some sexual activity after a long (and continuing !) period of drought, but insisted that she and I should meet and ensure we got on well together.
Well, we did and, yes, we were attracted but, as I suspected, it was 'husband driven'. Thus, nothing occurred.
So, JacquiJ, I'm not sure that gives you any more insight ! It was, for me, an interesting if somewhat strange experience -:)
For me, even if I was simply an FWB, exclusivity is the only way. I'm hopelessly antediluvian in some ways !!
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I'm not sure if there's really one predominant reason for men to seek an experience like this.
Humiliation might have something to do with it (if the couple actually enjoy these types of interactions), then there's a form of novelty that can be exciting in and of itself, or adding a participant that's more potent and/or a bit younger in the case of an older couple.
It's never been something that crossed my mind when I was in a relationship (I'm still young though), however when I reflect about it I can actually see some potential appeal in it for me. Personally though, what would excite me the most would be to observe my girl getting fucked from a remote 3rd person perspective, without any participation from my part. Oddly enough, even though you may have experimented in many ways with your partner, watching her having sex objectively from a certain distance is something that would be quite unusual and refreshing; it would almost feel 'weird', in a lot of ways.
I don't really believe it would be something 'humiliating' for me though, or at least the other guy would have to be quite a fucking mighty stallion to really make me feel bad. There might be some form of 'jealousy' involved, but more in a fun 'how dare you, you little slut!' kind of way, where seeing my girl with another man would make me feel quite a bit helpless. I guess it also feels forbidden and slutty, and so the subsequent fuck between me and my partner would most certainly be obscene and thrilling, where I'd try to punish her by being even more forceful than this other guy was. Funnily enough, it would likely make me feel proud about myself, where I'd just go 'see bitch, you're way better off with me!'.
It can also be fun for the girl I believe, getting fucked by an alternative man to experience something different, especially in the case of a long-term relationship that's been going on for many years. Plus, she gets to offer me a show and be pounded by two males in a row, and would likely feel completely drained afterward.
Dammit, here I am, actually convincing my own self to attempt it. Crap, I'm a bad influence even for myself.
Humiliation might have something to do with it (if the couple actually enjoy these types of interactions), then there's a form of novelty that can be exciting in and of itself, or adding a participant that's more potent and/or a bit younger in the case of an older couple.
It's never been something that crossed my mind when I was in a relationship (I'm still young though), however when I reflect about it I can actually see some potential appeal in it for me. Personally though, what would excite me the most would be to observe my girl getting fucked from a remote 3rd person perspective, without any participation from my part. Oddly enough, even though you may have experimented in many ways with your partner, watching her having sex objectively from a certain distance is something that would be quite unusual and refreshing; it would almost feel 'weird', in a lot of ways.
I don't really believe it would be something 'humiliating' for me though, or at least the other guy would have to be quite a fucking mighty stallion to really make me feel bad. There might be some form of 'jealousy' involved, but more in a fun 'how dare you, you little slut!' kind of way, where seeing my girl with another man would make me feel quite a bit helpless. I guess it also feels forbidden and slutty, and so the subsequent fuck between me and my partner would most certainly be obscene and thrilling, where I'd try to punish her by being even more forceful than this other guy was. Funnily enough, it would likely make me feel proud about myself, where I'd just go 'see bitch, you're way better off with me!'.
It can also be fun for the girl I believe, getting fucked by an alternative man to experience something different, especially in the case of a long-term relationship that's been going on for many years. Plus, she gets to offer me a show and be pounded by two males in a row, and would likely feel completely drained afterward.
Dammit, here I am, actually convincing my own self to attempt it. Crap, I'm a bad influence even for myself.
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Bizarrely it might be some fucked up sense of control over the woman (as these things usually are). One explanation could be that the fact that he is there puts him in a supervisory role as if he's delegated his duties to someone else. There are a lot of different power plays in operation here: watching, being watched, the still nature of female infidelity - all rolled into one.
Something perhaps more likely is the role of porn. Imagine a guy who watches a lot of porn (if you can). For hours and hours he gets himself off watching other people fuck - then goes to bed with his wife and can't get it up. Maybe his brain's rewired - maybe now he wants his wife to be the pornstar in his own private show. Does kind of bring us back to control again.
Something perhaps more likely is the role of porn. Imagine a guy who watches a lot of porn (if you can). For hours and hours he gets himself off watching other people fuck - then goes to bed with his wife and can't get it up. Maybe his brain's rewired - maybe now he wants his wife to be the pornstar in his own private show. Does kind of bring us back to control again.
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Quote by SereneProdigy
I'm not sure if there's really one predominant reason for men to seek an experience like this.
Humiliation might have something to do with it (if the couple actually enjoy these types of interactions), then there's a form of novelty that can be exciting in and of itself, or adding a participant that's more potent and/or a bit younger in the case of an older couple.
It's never been something that crossed my mind when I was in a relationship (I'm still young though), however when I reflect about it I can actually see some potential appeal in it for me. Personally though, what would excite me the most would be to observe my girl getting fucked from a remote 3rd person perspective, without any participation from my part. Oddly enough, even though you may have experimented in many ways with your partner, watching her having sex objectively from a certain distance is something that would be quite unusual and refreshing; it would almost feel 'weird', in a lot of ways.
I don't really believe it would be something 'humiliating' for me though, or at least the other guy would have to be quite a fucking mighty stallion to really make me feel bad. There might be some form of 'jealousy' involved, but more in a fun 'how dare you, you little slut!' kind of way, where seeing my girl with another man would make me feel quite a bit helpless. I guess it also feels forbidden and slutty, and so the subsequent fuck between me and my partner would most certainly be obscene and thrilling, where I'd try to punish her by being even more forceful than this other guy was. Funnily enough, it would likely make me feel proud about myself, where I'd just go 'see bitch, you're way better off with me!'.
It can also be fun for the girl I believe, getting fucked by an alternative man to experience something different, especially in the case of a long-term relationship that's been going on for many years. Plus, she gets to offer me a show and be pounded by two males in a row, and would likely feel completely drained afterward.
Dammit, here I am, actually convincing my own self to attempt it. Crap, I'm a bad influence even for myself.
If only I could convince my partner as easily lol
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No thanks, I assume they feel like they deserve it or something but that type of self pity isn't for me.
I caught my wife cheating with my best friend once and the first few months I was pissed but after awhile it turned me on a bit. I can only imagine that guys that are into this must like getting freaked out a bit. Or maybe they think their partner is so hot, they want to watch them have sex like watching a porn star. Or maybe they like thinking they are pimping her out. I don't think I could ever go through with this scenario as a spectator but I could do a threesome with her and another guy friend.
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Cuckolds enjoy a type of mental masochism. The average cuckold is intelligent and well educated.
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Quite possibly the cuckold videos and stories exaggerate the scenes to cartoonish dimensions; as do most BDSM videos. If a couple has a desire to do a MMF scene, but want the husband to feel, even if artificially, guilt free, then the obvious path would be 'woman-in-charge.' In most real life BDSM it is the submissive whose fantasy is being served first; the submissive controls the scene, although acting powerless so the conscience isn't bothered. I'm suspecting most real life cuckold scenes are the same, drawing out the desire in an odd type of extended foreplay.
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Obviously, some men are masochists. Some have a major inferiority complex or both.
Among who are better adjusted or emotionally healthier, I'd say it also comes from an honest desire to see one's partner satisfied without the anxiety of having to perform well.
Among who are better adjusted or emotionally healthier, I'd say it also comes from an honest desire to see one's partner satisfied without the anxiety of having to perform well.