This is a common issue for many men, yet I did not witness a single thread about it.
Do you guys suffer from premature ejaculation at times?
What are your methods/techniques to control it?
Myself, I can find it a bit problematic especially when having sex with a girl the first time. In such a situation, I like to impress and provide the best sex I can, but I'm also utterly horny and prone to premature ejaculation.
Here are my personal tips :
- Perform oral sex on the lady to ease down and bring our arousal to equal levels
- Ejaculate rapidly without shame and finish off the lady with oral sex, or go for a second round
- Use a numbing cream before sex (Lidocaine 4%, Benzocaine 20%). This allows some hardcore fucking, but can be tricky to use.
Do you guys have any experience/advice to share? Thanks!
I only suffer from it if it has been a long time since I have had sex.
Ofcourse you want to make a good first impression, so other than spending a long time on oral, I normally try and take control when I feel I am going to release and just ease of a bit.
As this only happens after long dry spells and Honestly I have been in this situation a few times . I have just been honest with the girl, I just say somthing along th lines of "listen, its been a while for me so if I dont last long, please just be a little patient for the first time." I usually spend a long time on oral in this situation aswell, however, every girl I have been in this situation with has always understood and been fine with it, normally there are multiple more times we have sex that night.
But I dont actually suffer from permanent premature ejaculation.
@ StylisX
Thanks, I can relate entirely. I too don't suffer from permanent premature ejaculation, but sometimes casual sex happens without a warning, and it might have been 2-3 days since I last masturbated.
I'm also the same concerning honesty. The trick is not to apprehend it with shame, but with pride and humor. When it happens, I can say something along the lines of : "Wow girl, you got me so horny so quick, look at the mess you just made. Now's my turn to finish you off."
If I am going out with a girl for the first time and there is a possibility of having sex I masturbate a few hours before and find this takes the edge off.
not since i was young, but then i was hard again in 10 minutes and lasted long.
Yeah i had trouble with this last year. It happened once when i was drunk with a female friend. I got so embarrassed and worked up about it that i avoided sex for like a month, until i found myself in bed with a girl i met out and i was so worried about it happening the entire drive back and while we were kissing, that sure enough bamn i went off in seconds. However met my current girlfriend explained the situation to her and one night after a night watching films she wanted to fool around and I wasn't even thinking about it and i last like a million years.
I think once you get all up in your head about it, makes it ten times worse.
When life gives you lemons, keep them. 'Cause hey, free lemons!
It varies with me but it seems to balance out
If I cum prematurely it is always the first time and then it takes me a while to cum the next time
Only once as a teenager. Spending too much time reading porn mags. I had a hard on for nearly two hours and just exploded!!!!!
One trick I learned to do was to just stop inside her and open my eyes wide. It would be dark, I would stare at the clock a bit. This would take the edge off. Usually I would go back at it, much slower that I had been. I know her timing and she was not close. She didn't mind me doing this while inside her, as she wants the fuck to go to the end as much as you do. Sometimes, I would go back at it and cum. I learned the if I going to cum, sometimes I can delay it, sometimes not. I would keep fucking after I had cum. By doing this, I would maintain enough erection to stay in and I would pound her off. She does know that I'm always for her cumming. I have licked her to the finish, or use a vibrator. But most of the time I'm able to maintain after regrouping myself.
I think everyone probably has had it happen on occasion. I used to sometimes when I was younger, usually as a result of being over-aroused or stimulated by lots of teasing, touching, or foreplay, or by viewing porn. Once even in an adult theater with my wife, especially good scene and she reached over and stroked my aching bulge for a few seconds and it was all over. Literally - and left with an embarrassing wet spot on the thigh of my jeans.
It's not really an issue anymore - in fact, quite the opposite as now it can take an almost frustratingly long time.
If you think there’s going to be a chance of sex, masturbate shortly before without letting her know, but of course leaving time to recover so you get a good hard on when the chance arrives. I’ve found that helps prevent PE. I’ve also found it decreases with age. At first I’d sometimes squirt as soon as I slid in. Now it takes ages of delicious hard work, but worth all the effort!