Omigod, this is my first post at this site!
As a male, I discovered early that the available porn was either boring, monotonous (which is boring), unconvincing (totally boring), or abusive (totally not erotic). I may watch one porn movie a year, if that. Over the years I have gravitated to erotic stories as my main source of erotic stimulation. But they have to be very convincing, somewhat kinky, and have no trace of abuse or manipulation. The idea of slapping a woman in the face with my penis leaves me cold, very cold.
You've been a bad girl! Now take your pajamas off and go to my room!
Well call me crazy but sometimes when I'm giving a blow job I slap my own face with that hard delicious cock. I just like the way it feels smacking my cheek! Never had anyone do that to me always have done it to myself guess it just makes me feel slutty and turns me on.
Bunny12
Bunny Rabbits cute and fuzzy they want to love you but they have razor sharp teeth - don't piss them off! I think it is just something people do. Gay guys play "slap the face with a cock", so it is not a uniquely heterosexual experience. I mean who knows, it might have started out in the gay male culture and people on the heterosexual side wanted to play too.
Would be my guess that both are supposedly a form of humiliation. I have never done either to anyone I've ever been with. Furthermore, I've never even spit into my hand and used it as lubrication while jacking off.
So women don't like it when you play Whack-A-Mole on their face? Damnit, that's probably why I never get a second date.
there is porn where a woman is treated with respect- erotica stuff when everything is soft and romantic and loving, the problem is there is not a lot of it compared to the other type
Yes, well, after what I saw this evening, there are not a whole hell of a lot of young ladies being taught what it is to be a young lady or a human being with self respect. Shit, I have my work cut out for me.
Sorry for the brain fart.
Porn is not reality! Unless of course you have the video camera out!
Alos sweet_escape, as well as Candida Royalle, it might be worth checking out Petra Joy
She's a European based director who's also concerned with producing Porn For Women. She doesn't use professional porn stars and its all very much from a woman's point of view and pleasure. Hope that helps!
I know it's hard to imagine... but... some women actually LOVE dirty fucking!
I know!... it boggles the mind, doesn't it!
Sometimes we want to lean over, blow out the vanilla candles, turn the Sade and Taylor Swift off the iPod and toss the pink chiffon babydoll lingerie into the back of the closet.
Dirty-sex is a style, just like BDSM or any other kind of Role-playing... it may involve 'vulgar' language, being called dirty names, cocks slapping faces, spitting, submission/degradation, and cum-spattering facials. This is NOT a reflection of her self-esteem, the quality of her relationship with the guy, or her desire to be seen as 'a lady' or treated with respect in the rest of her waking life.
It also doesn't mean that this is the only kind of sex that she has, or wants to have.
It does mean (for the guys reading this) that you need to know that the girl is into this kind of sex before you proceed.
I just don't think assumptions/generalizations are warranted that women only want soft, 'erotic', gentle love-making that stays within conventional bounds. I think most people think of BDSM as a respected kink that stands in its own category, but they label dirty hard sex involving humiliation or submission/degradation as stemming out of porn teaching men to disrespect women and act like assholes. Think of it as a 'role-play'. Some women enjoy variety and get turned on by these scenarios too. Remember the whole "whore in the bedroom thing?"... this is a classic example.
Reality = Becames Play in the Bedroom, Not porn !
Combining porn into your sex life can be fun!!! Depends what the porn is. I don't like BDSM though. But cuddle up and watch a hot porn movie with your bf or gf, sip some wine, and get in the mood and go for it! LOL
To me porn is kinda like cartoons. It's to be taken for entertainment purposes only. Although I have nothing against bringing a little fantasy to real life.
That is why homemade porn is much better. It is real.. All men don't have giant cocks, All women are not beautiful with very large tits, All men can't cum, time after time after time ( and shoot a bucket of cum every time,)---Real is fun to watch, because you know it could be you. Pro-porn is good for fun and to learn new tricks. It can mess you up, if you try to live up to it.
Mark
