Of course it is as long as there is no "poisoning the well."
It sounds like a grand idea & of course there would be the hopes that one day it would evolve into a 3 way.
However, if I really think about it honestly, I think it would bother me. Somewhere in my subconscious I'd be wondering if she likes her lover better than me. Is she doing something that she really enjoys that I can't do for or give to her? Why does she need or want another lover? Am I not enough? Does she get off more with her than with me? Does she like the feel of the soft, smooth, supple skin of a woman more than the hairy, rough, calloused beast that I am?
Forget it, I'd be in my head so much that I'd make myself nuts. No thanks.
Long Answer: I think this is one of those questions where it is easy for a MAN to just answer "Hell Yeh" as he gets a hard on imagining his wife and some hot chick horizontally tangoing in his bedroom.
But really (as I put my cock back in my pants for one minute), I think in a good open relationship it would very much depend on what both partners understanding of where this is going to lead to. Also it would need the other female to be accepting of the existence of the relationship between the male and female partner.
Maybe in a lot of relationships this would be easy to manage but I would think some agreements and dialog would be necessary to make sure no one gets hurt. I have a male friend who allowed this to happen as he thought this would spark up his relationship with his wife. Sadly for him 6 months later she ran off with the other women and left him with 2 daughters to raise on his own.
Simple answer: Yes, men should be able open to allow their partners to explore their sexuality
P.S. Just read the chat dialog on page one of this thread about; is there a difference with having a same sex or opposite sex extra partner.
MY two bobs worth I agree with DPW No it doesn't matter same sex or not it is accepting your partner is having a sexual relationship with a significant other.
To boldly Lush where no one has Lushed before
Her having a girl on the side would bother me as much as her having a dude on the side. I don't understand why people think there should be a difference. If she thinks it's ok for her to have a woman she turns to outside our relationship, then she better be prepared for me to have a 2nd girlfriend as well.
My girlfriend told me she was bisexual, which didn't bother me in the slightest bit. How could I be jealous of a woman being with my girlfriend? As long as everything is being discussed freely with each person involved, it's not a problem. If she were to go with a woman behind my back, then that would cause many trust issues.
No I would not, but I would ask to watch.
Well I remember when my ex wife came to me and said she had a confession. I of course asked, "confess about what?"
She looked at me with apprehension and said, "I have a girl friend and had sex with her. It was incredible!"
Getting into the spirit of things I replied, "that cool. I have a girlfriend too."
Well I remember when my ex wife came to me and said she had a confession. I of course asked, "confess about what?"
She looked at me with apprehension and said, "I have a girl friend and had sex with her. It was incredible!"
Getting into the spirit of things I replied, "that cool. I have a girlfriend too."
I think a lot depends on what kind of relationship exists between the man & woman involved.
If my wife came to me and said she wanted to explore outside of the marriage (with either a man or woman), I'd be hurt. That would be grounds for some serious discussions about what exactly she found lacking in our relationship, and whether or not there was a way for us to remedy the situation while maintaining our monogamous attachment.
If she professed a desire to be with another woman, then of course that's something that I simply cannot do myself. I'd be more willing to swallow my pride and give her my blessing to explore, but I'd still be a little concerned about development of romantic attachments outside of the marriage.
No matter what she & I agree to, I would expect/demand full honesty on her part. I think dishonesty and deceit would be far more corrosive to our relationship than the extramarital sex.
Would have no problems with it, would like to watch her with another gal, makes me hot, to think of it. We have talked about it,but never did it. She came close to it a couple times with a friend but was foiled at the last minutes, was disappointed about not doing it.
yes. But only when I'm watching or in a threesome with me
YES.. YES .. YES.. I am not selfish to stop her not to have her choice for sex. I my EX even since she told me her desire to have a GF for sex. I let her go out and enjoy it. RESULTS..... for my last B'day she got her GF for a 3some.
Honesty is so important. but to tell the truth I would hope she let me watch especially if it was with BethanyFrasier....or Meggsey
Yes, of course. But trust is an issue and this should be communicated.
I tell her all the time to find a women lover.
If she wanted and was allowed to watch now and then
Yes I'd have no problems especially if I could watch and join in.
Yes its okay like come on the more the merrier
I would have no problem at all with my female partner having a lesbian lover.
Actually, we discussed this some time ago. I was truthful when I said the thought of it sounded really hot, and I would be OK with not interfering, or having to watch, if it made her happy. She sounded like she really was interested, definitely bi-curious, and getting off on the thought of it happening some day.
But to this day, if she ever had a female partner at any point, she has not let me know.
"Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than open one's mouth and remove all doubt" - Mark Twain (or Lincoln, or Confucius, or...)
It won'r bother me at all. It'll be very hot and I'll watch them have sex all the time lol
It would be fine as long as she does not steal my share.
yes its ok as long it does not affect my realtionship with her. Seeing 2 females loving each other is a great turn on for me. I would also like to join them in a 3some.
I think I could handle it.
It wouldn't bother me at all... unless they didn't invite me to watch sometimes.
Would be fine by me. I have encouraged it. I have given her the green light to do this at any time. I just want to hear the details later..
She has such a high sex drive that I doubt it would interfere.
