Would you cherish that love?
If it's real, absolutely! I've been told that more than once but only one was real. That word has a very powerful meaning for me. It's total commitment and 44 years later it still is. If she offers it I accept it and take the time to understand. If I'm already committed I still cherish it but won't allow it to damage what I have.
Be flattered?
If it's real, absolutely! This woman has seen something in me that caused it and it would be wrong of me to treat that as anything but flattering. If it turns out to be a devious act on her part I can always leave. I guard my emotional commitment because when I commit it is not casual so I hold back slightly until I'm sure. Once I've decided I will not allow myself to commit to anything that will harm that. I do not cheat on that commitment.
Run fast as the wind?
I never run from anything. If you're incapable of dealing with life's problems you run and hide. A good defense for animals who have no self awareness but not for thinking beings. Real problems will always find you anyway and bite you very hard right on your ass. I have a couple of VERY deep pock marks from the few I tried to run from. You can't fight and defend yourself while you're running.
Not believe her?
That would be a judgement call at the time. My first inclination to anything I'm told is to believe, then I decide from everything I learn if it's real or just a casual thing. The word "Love" is used so broadly it can mean almost anything. I bandy it about at times, "I love chocolate ice milk.", but that is not the same. 44 years ago my wife looked up at me, reached up and took my face in her hands and said simply, "Tell me." I looked in her eyes for 30 seconds or so and said, "I love you!" I still see her that way and I've never allowed anyone to damage that. Two tried but I gently pulled myself away from them.
Cast her aside like an old piece of gum attached to your shoe?
That would be an amoral act on my part. Anyone who treats people like that is not really human. Serial killers lack any emotional attachment to others and discard their victims as garbage. I am not like that and will go out of my way to not hurt. I was hurt a few times until I learned how to hold back that little bit of total commitment so I can walk away without being destroyed. My only real regrets in my life are the few times I've hurt someone. I found a couple and apologized but one died before I could and I can't find two others I know I damaged. It still bothers me but it doesn't consume me, it's been 50 or so years.
Flattered- Yes
Run-No
Believe her- Probably not (I can thank my wife for those self esteem issues)
Cast aside -no
Not at all I recently had a beautiful girl that I was in love with tell me she loved me. It was very welcomed
In my experience, right after a woman tells me she loves me, it is the perfect time to ask her to "borrow" a large amount of money. They just can't say no.
I wouldn't run. An it depends on the woman if I say it back...I've known myself to rush, and then the next day or month she changes her mind and I'm alone again.
In my humble opinion someone who would run in that situation doesn't deserve to be asked in the first place. But its a sad fact that there are complete, self-centered, self-opinionated c#*ts out there only too happy to use a kind heart and then drop it when the next exciting replacement crawls out from under a stone.
Not that I'm bitter.
Xx
I might be slightly sceptical but otherwise I would be happy to hear that.
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Of course not...I run away if woman say she dont love me.
It depends on the type of relationship. How long have I known her? Where were we when she said it? What were we doing? Women as well as men offten confuse lust, compassion, or even friendship for love. S
So my answer could go either way.
I would be for sure flattered, it's good when people like us even when we think that person is far from interesting.
Run away from what?!!!!
In what context is the statement made? I "love" my friends and have learned late in life the value of saying that "Love" / Love you". That is NOT the same as being/saying "IN love" with you.
So...If the "I love you" is offered in deep, abiding friendship, it is welcomed and returned. The "IN love" thing may/maynot blossom.
Your mileage may vary in trying to get answers to this...lol!
Rick
not really LOL.. il say . good for you :P ( the Question asked if a WOMAN says she love me! i am a woman too )
Sadly, I let a great woman get away. Actually, I pushed her away. In her goodbye note she admitted she had loved me. I just had a poem published, Love Always, which details that relationship. It was one of the worst decisions of my life.