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if a woman tells you she loves you, would you run away?

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I never regret loving, nor the price I am happy to pay for in doing so. No matter how painful or the price of my heart and soul.. ~Daddysweetheart, aka Margot



Correct me if I'm wrong, but you did ask the question didn't you? Sorry if you're not getting the answers you wanted, but that is the way these forums work.
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Would you cherish that love?

Be flattered?

Run fast as the wind?

Not believe her?

Cast her aside like an old piece of gum attached to your shoe?

I'm just curious..

Thanks!!!!

It would depend on her voting record........
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Would you cherish that love?

If it's real, absolutely! I've been told that more than once but only one was real. That word has a very powerful meaning for me. It's total commitment and 44 years later it still is. If she offers it I accept it and take the time to understand. If I'm already committed I still cherish it but won't allow it to damage what I have.


Be flattered?

If it's real, absolutely! This woman has seen something in me that caused it and it would be wrong of me to treat that as anything but flattering. If it turns out to be a devious act on her part I can always leave. I guard my emotional commitment because when I commit it is not casual so I hold back slightly until I'm sure. Once I've decided I will not allow myself to commit to anything that will harm that. I do not cheat on that commitment.


Run fast as the wind?

I never run from anything. If you're incapable of dealing with life's problems you run and hide. A good defense for animals who have no self awareness but not for thinking beings. Real problems will always find you anyway and bite you very hard right on your ass. I have a couple of VERY deep pock marks from the few I tried to run from. You can't fight and defend yourself while you're running.


Not believe her?

That would be a judgement call at the time. My first inclination to anything I'm told is to believe, then I decide from everything I learn if it's real or just a casual thing. The word "Love" is used so broadly it can mean almost anything. I bandy it about at times, "I love chocolate ice milk.", but that is not the same. 44 years ago my wife looked up at me, reached up and took my face in her hands and said simply, "Tell me." I looked in her eyes for 30 seconds or so and said, "I love you!" I still see her that way and I've never allowed anyone to damage that. Two tried but I gently pulled myself away from them.


Cast her aside like an old piece of gum attached to your shoe?

That would be an amoral act on my part. Anyone who treats people like that is not really human. Serial killers lack any emotional attachment to others and discard their victims as garbage. I am not like that and will go out of my way to not hurt. I was hurt a few times until I learned how to hold back that little bit of total commitment so I can walk away without being destroyed. My only real regrets in my life are the few times I've hurt someone. I found a couple and apologized but one died before I could and I can't find two others I know I damaged. It still bothers me but it doesn't consume me, it's been 50 or so years.
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Thanks for more input guys...

Lasardaddy- you are most kind..

I do agree about being inhuman to throw someone away when they loved you, were in love with you.....

Since asking these questions, I've finally moved on.....

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Flattered- Yes
Run-No
Believe her- Probably not (I can thank my wife for those self esteem issues)
Cast aside -no
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Not at all I recently had a beautiful girl that I was in love with tell me she loved me. It was very welcomed
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In my experience, right after a woman tells me she loves me, it is the perfect time to ask her to "borrow" a large amount of money. They just can't say no.
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In my experience, right after a woman tells me she loves me, it is the perfect time to ask her to "borrow" a large amount of money. They just can't say no.


about fucking time you showed up. btw? still pissed at you. now, accept my friend request so i can give you shit in private, please. smile

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about fucking time you showed up. btw? still pissed at you. now, accept my friend request so i can give you shit in private, please. smile


....are you gonna let me borrow that money I asked you for first?
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Happens everyday! Wife says I love you, I'm out the door for work!! smile
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I'm not a guy, but this question reminded me of a verse from "Paradise By the Dashboard Light" by Meat Loaf. I grew up on that album. It was funny, actually.

"I couldn't take it any longer
Lord I was crazed
And when the feeling came upon me
Like a tidal wave
I started swearing to my god and on my mother's grave
That I would love you to the end of time
I swore that I would love you to the end of time!

So now I'm praying for the end of time
To hurry up and arrive
Cause if I gotta spend another minute with you
I don't think that I can really survive
I'll never break my promise or forget my vow
But God only knows what I can do right now
I'm praying for the end of time
It's all that I can do
Praying for the end of time, so I can end my time with you!"


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I'm not a guy, but this question reminded me of a verse from "Paradise By the Dashboard Light" by Meat Loaf. I grew up on that album. It was funny, actually.

"I couldn't take it any longer
Lord I was crazed
And when the feeling came upon me
Like a tidal wave
I started swearing to my god and on my mother's grave
That I would love you to the end of time
I swore that I would love you to the end of time!

So now I'm praying for the end of time
To hurry up and arrive
Cause if I gotta spend another minute with you
I don't think that I can really survive
I'll never break my promise or forget my vow
But God only knows what I can do right now
I'm praying for the end of time
It's all that I can do
Praying for the end of time, so I can end my time with you!"


That is funny..lol..thank you.


Waves to keoloke!! smile
Thanks for your input again..
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I wouldn't run. An it depends on the woman if I say it back...I've known myself to rush, and then the next day or month she changes her mind and I'm alone again.
SHEEP!
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In my humble opinion someone who would run in that situation doesn't deserve to be asked in the first place. But its a sad fact that there are complete, self-centered, self-opinionated c#*ts out there only too happy to use a kind heart and then drop it when the next exciting replacement crawls out from under a stone.

Not that I'm bitter.

Xx
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In my humble opinion someone who would run in that situation doesn't deserve to be asked in the first place. But its a sad fact that there are complete, self-centered, self-opinionated c#*ts out there only too happy to use a kind heart and then drop it when the next exciting replacement crawls out from under a stone.

Not that I'm bitter.

Xx


Thank you..that's true. I guess liking soulless bimbos as companions is the way to go!!

Thank you kind Sir!!
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In my humble opinion someone who would run in that situation doesn't deserve to be asked in the first place. But its a sad fact that there are complete, self-centered, self-opinionated c#*ts out there only too happy to use a kind heart and then drop it when the next exciting replacement crawls out from under a stone.

Not that I'm bitter.

Xx

I always sort of ran. Well engineered a split, to be honest.
Nothing to do with the next one just a scared of commitment. It was just the way I was and I'm not proud of it.
Too many questions to answer in this thread. Whys, what ifs, woulda coulda shoulda etc.
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Thank you..that's true. I guess liking soulless bimbos as companions is the way to go!!

Thank you kind Sir!!


Sorry, I can only answer from my own experience. Bit biased lol xx
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I might be slightly sceptical but otherwise I would be happy to hear that.
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Of course not...I run away if woman say she dont love me.
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I don't have an answer to your question seeing as it is so vague. It's like asking me if I'd like your homemade chicken noodle soup, without knowing what ingredients you use.

For the record, if a woman tells me she loves me within the six week mark of meeting her. I run like hell seeing as she's probably bat shit crazy.


Your rank suits you.

I have felt feelings of love for someone after a week of very deep conversation. Since it's soooo rare for me to find someone I feel compatible with, when I find it, I can get a bit anxious, I admit.

What I find sad is that men often run without me even chasing them which I do NOT like doing as I'm old fashioned in that respect. The minute it's obvious there is a connection (I mean mentally & emotionally), not necessarily sexually as I haven't met them at this point, they stop making an effort or disappear altogether.

People will open their legs with 5 minutes of meeting someone, but are AFRAID to love someone within a week or a month.

HOW SAD IS THAT????

Same with loving more than one person at the same time. They will an abundance of sex with multiple people, but GAWD FORBID they have feeling of love for more than one person & it's considered cheating.

Take me AWAY Calgon bath LOL
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It depends on the type of relationship. How long have I known her? Where were we when she said it? What were we doing? Women as well as men offten confuse lust, compassion, or even friendship for love. S

So my answer could go either way.
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in my opinion just me I only tell I love someone after they do I am stubborn that way. but if it is to early I run like hell..

daddysweetheart. hugs hon!
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I would be for sure flattered, it's good when people like us even when we think that person is far from interesting.
Run away from what?!!!!
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in my opinion just me I only tell I love someone after they do I am stubborn that way. but if it is to early I run like hell..

daddysweetheart. hugs hon!



Aww hugs sweetie

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The short answer is that it depends.

The long answer is that I could answer yes to all of them under the right circumstances:

Would you cherish that love?
If we knew each other and had a personal connection based on kindness or some other appealing characteristic, then almost always. To express such wonderful feelings for another human being is something that should definitely be cherished.

Be flattered?
Again, if we knew each other on a personal level, then always. If someone of sound mind tells you you're worthy of their love, how can you not be flattered?

Run fast as the wind?
If we didn't have any personal connection and/or I had no confidence in her ability to respect my relationship with my wife or otherwise behave appropriately, then definitely yes, albeit figuratively. If someone has an unhealthy obsession with you, the best thing is to be direct and break off any contact. What's important is to be respectful and sensitive about it.

Not believe her?
If she didn't know me or I knew she had a mental illness, then yes. Again, it's about being thoughtful in how you manage it.

Cast her aside like an old piece of gum attached to your shoe?
If I knew she had done something sufficiently evil to me or someone I cared about, then yes. It's incredibly cruel, but we all have that in us. What varies is our individual limits. I'd like to think I'd take the high ground and be respectful about it, but who knows...? Hopefully I'll never find out.

And it obviously depends on the guy. If you told me, I'd be flattered, try and let you down easy and limit my contact with you. If you told Magical Felix, he'd hit you up for some cash. Horses for courses really.

Going back to another short answer, don't over think it. If you really know the guy, and I mean honestly, and you genuinely feel it, then tell him. If he reacts positively, then you're golden. If he doesn't, then you can stop wasting your time and make yourself available for someone better suited to you.

Sorry, my brother-in-law is staying with us at the moment and I got stuck into his UDLs. I'm feeling a bit philosophical.
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The short answer is that it depends.

The long answer is that I could answer yes to all of them under the right circumstances:

Would you cherish that love?
If we knew each other and had a personal connection based on kindness or some other appealing characteristic, then almost always. To express such wonderful feelings for another human being is something that should definitely be cherished.

Be flattered?
Again, if we knew each other on a personal level, then always. If someone of sound mind tells you you're worthy of their love, how can you not be flattered?

Run fast as the wind?
If we didn't have any personal connection and/or I had no confidence in her ability to respect my relationship with my wife or otherwise behave appropriately, then definitely yes, albeit figuratively. If someone has an unhealthy obsession with you, the best thing is to be direct and break off any contact. What's important is to be respectful and sensitive about it.

Not believe her?
If she didn't know me or I knew she had a mental illness, then yes. Again, it's about being thoughtful in how you manage it.

Cast her aside like an old piece of gum attached to your shoe?
If I knew she had done something sufficiently evil to me or someone I cared about, then yes. It's incredibly cruel, but we all have that in us. What varies is our individual limits. I'd like to think I'd take the high ground and be respectful about it, but who knows...? Hopefully I'll never find out.

And it obviously depends on the guy. If you told me, I'd be flattered, try and let you down easy and limit my contact with you. If you told Magical Felix, he'd hit you up for some cash. Horses for courses really.

Going back to another short answer, don't over think it. If you really know the guy, and I mean honestly, and you genuinely feel it, then tell him. If he reacts positively, then you're golden. If he doesn't, then you can stop wasting your time and make yourself available for someone better suited to you.

Sorry, my brother-in-law is staying with us at the moment and I got stuck into his UDLs. I'm feeling a bit philosophical.


I learned things the hard way....lol.

I smartened up though.

Don't be sorry..

Nice, well thought answers.

Impressive!
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In what context is the statement made? I "love" my friends and have learned late in life the value of saying that "Love" / Love you". That is NOT the same as being/saying "IN love" with you.

So...If the "I love you" is offered in deep, abiding friendship, it is welcomed and returned. The "IN love" thing may/maynot blossom.

Your mileage may vary in trying to get answers to this...lol!

Rick
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not really LOL.. il say . good for you :P ( the Question asked if a WOMAN says she love me! i am a woman too )
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Sadly, I let a great woman get away. Actually, I pushed her away. In her goodbye note she admitted she had loved me. I just had a poem published, Love Always, which details that relationship. It was one of the worst decisions of my life.
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Quote by daddysweetheart
Would you cherish that love?

Be flattered?

Run fast as the wind?

Not believe her?

Cast her aside like an old piece of gum attached to your shoe?

I'm just curious..

Thanks!!!!



I would be cautious, not run away. Girls, Women, Ladies.... are all fickle creatures. One minute you love us, then you hate us, then you don't know what you think. Love is thrown around too much and means different things to different people plus the degrees of Love...
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