Very good question (they're so few and far between these days).
I think guys do have a tendency to say, "That was great," without really qualifying it in their heads; it's more like an auto-response (though not necessarily insincere). Truth be told, I reckon sex is pretty good for guys most times - we get to stick it to a sexy broad and we almost always get to orgasm. Sometimes it's especially good but it's rarely bad.
Any man worth his salt isn't going to roll off of you, say, "That was a bit shit," and fall asleep; we're generally a bit more courteous than that. Men are a bit more subtle and may just not be quite so enthusiastic in their gratitude if you didn't quite "rock their world" rather than directly expressing any dissatisfaction. We do know how to be sensitive, sometimes.
That said, many men may exaggerate your sexual prowess if they think doing so may lead to another such encounter. Sex is sex, after all. If you were a really lousy lay, however, he might not be too desperate for seconds. Again, we can do subtlety.
In my own relationship, my partner has expressed at times that she feels that she is not very "good at sex" and that I do not get as much out of it as she does. Obviously I can't know for sure but I'm pretty certain that is not the case. I make sure to tell her every time how amazing she makes me feel and I am genuine about it (I just sort of thought it went without saying before). Of course, some days she's good and some days she's fucking mind-blowingly good and I really make sure she knows when it's the latter.
I hope that answers your question somewhat. Welcome to the forum and welcome to Lush.
It's always a hit or miss with men. Some won't say anything unless they fucking mean it, and others will say anything to get into someone's pants.
But surely if a guy is just saying you're good 'just to get into you're pants', then you've got to be at least a little bit good or they wouldnt want to get in there!
Most girls under the age of 25 aren't very good. Most guys don't or won't tell them because they like the way they look, or just get off pounding younger girls. Men get tantalized by the visual, mostly, not her skills (or lack of.)
An experienced woman, knows her way around a man, and has less inhibitions, less boundaries, and is better in bed 90% of the time. These girl get the compliments from me.
I don’t lie to girls about sex. If it is good I say it’s good if it is not I say it’s bad.
But I don’t need to say it anymore. Having a girlfriend that is comfortable with being with me we have a mutual respect and don’t need to assure each other about how good/bad it was.
It's been so long since I've had sex with anyone other than my wife, I can only speak to that standard. If a guy wants to avoid making waves, he will not be more honest than the gal can be trusted to appreciate. In other words, If he thinks there will be negative repercussions if he's honest low, he will exaggerate high. There's no benefit to being too honest.
I somehow think that it is not always about how good a girl is in satisfying me, instead i usually appreciate the effort she is giving during a process. That is why when i tell a girl she was great in bed i usually base it on effort not the teeth marks on my manhood for example
Thanks for all the responses, definitely helpful. In response to some of the more common questions: The guys who say it more emphatically tend to be the ones with more experience, not sure if that's weird. And yes, I almost exclusively look for cues on how to please him.
I'm mostly asking because the guy I'm sleeping with right now has figured out all my buttons in no time flat (WAYYY better than my ex of 5 years), and I'm constantly trying to find ways to please him as much as he pleases me, but he keeps telling me I'm already great. He even told me he tends to get bored after a few rolls in the hay so to speak, but is always excited to see me. Even if I knew that was totally true it wouldn't keep me from trying harder though, so I guess it doesn't matter in some ways, just curious as to how honestly I can take a statement like that.
We're as honest as we are when you ask us if those jeans make you look fat.
I'll be honest I've lied.
Yeah I've shot my load but my experience has required to say yeah it was great when she was like a sack of spuds. Even when it's been good though you say it was great just so you dont make them feel disappointed. Just next time guide them more towards what you like. Women do the same to men
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