Many people have someone they call up for random late-night booty-calls or fuck-buddy sex (or they have at least one point in their lives).
The question is... have you ever tried to take a 'fuck-buddy' relationship into the realm of real dating, and possibly moving into 'open-relationship' status?
Why or why not?
If the sex is great, what issues have prevented you from wanting to actually date them?
This Q is open to both guys and gals...
Oh this one cuts right to all my problems. I actually have two of these. My gf and I are like that, we are mostly just friends but we started having sex on and off saveral years ago. Dating her is always confusing because I lean strongly towards men. She was the first girl I slept with and is my best friend. She is a dedicated lesbian who moves in circles that I don't really fit into.
My other is well, I'm not getting into it here.
I have not. Mainly because my fuck buddies usually tend to be girls that I wouldn't want to date in the first place. If I'm interested in dating a girl it usually happens right away. If I'm not interested in dating them but still find them sexually appealing, they get relegated to the "fuck buddy" position. (or the late night, post bar phone call club). This is in no way related to the girl's promiscuousness however. My fuck buddies tend to be girls that are either attached to other guys, live far away, or have personalities/looks below the standards that I would consider for a relationship. If I had a hot, sexy FB I would have no problem entering a relationship with her if she was so willing.
I have tried to date a fuck buddy and it ended in total disaster. Through this experience I have found that they are a fuck buddy for a reason and to date them will not ever work out. I find that I have two categories of woman...FWB and ones that I date and as much as i try you can not mix the two.
ok. this. is. a. tough. one.
It keeps happening to me. I don't know why, how, when but it just does. And usually it's quite messy.
I am not a big help here, am I?
I actually had a fuck buddy and we ended up dating for 3 1/2 years. It was great while it lasted and we are still awesome friends. Now my current fuck buddy-I wanna date but the situation is pretty complicated so I don't know how it will work out. It seems like girls have this problem more than men. Females tend to put more emotion into sex where guys just want the sex.
I have never had anyone on-call to satisfy my sexual desires, nor have I ever been on anyone's "fuck buddy" list. I have had random encounters, a few try each other out for a while relationships, but never a genuine "fuck buddy".
I do think the idea of "fuck buddy" has merit, but I don't know if I would do well in a situation like that. The closest thing for me would be an affair, a kind of not quite committed but established relationship. The kind of relationship that engenders an understanding of the other, that is you like each other for more than sex.
This FWB concept was introduced to me in the 1980's. Between then and 2007, I think honestly, I've enjoyed five of this type of relationship.
We were friends who also occasionally fucked each other's brains out. But I would classify the relationship as predominantly being friends, more than sexual partners. None of those women were ever written down in a little black book or drunk dialed at 2 in the morning. And in fact, I often enjoyed actual 'dates' with each of them. In my mind and I am sure in theirs, we looked at it as a continuation of a casual short term relationship, which could very loosely be defined as an open agreement.
Three of those relationships petered out over the course of a few years. I either became involved monogamously with someone else and the occasional sex with the FWB stopped...and she drifted off to her next short or long term relationship...or, the opposite happened. Eventually we (the former F'sWB's) drifted apart. If I was of a mind to, I could probably track them all down, but for what purpose other than to say hello. Chances are high they are married, with family -or- maybe not, but should I go there? Sometimes it's best to let them stay as fond memories.
Two of those relationships (more friend than fuck) remain to this day. Although the last time I was intimate with either woman was 2006. I keep the possibility open that I may receive a phone call or email to renew a physical connection, beyond just the regular catch-up conversations, I enjoy with other female or male 'friends' who are more than acquaintances, but not in my little circle of regular friends I see or talk with on a two, three or four instance basis per month.
I don't know if this qualifies me as being more fortunate than others when it comes to 'dating a FWB', or more unique and hence, dysfunctional.
I just know that it is comfortable to me and it's worked without funking up my expectations or theirs. I think all 'three' of us are serial short term monogamists who, for whatever reason, either cannot commit to a more permanent partner for a long term situation, or we choose people who are uncomfortable committing to us or someone else, themselves.
I also think this way of thinking and living has contributed greatly to my ability to not become jealous and possessive, yet at the same time, I may seem a bit distant and unconcerned - to possible long term female partners who I have dated in my past.
Is that dysfunctional of me? Yeah, I'll concede that it is, compared to the rest of Western society, where many couples enjoy 5, 10, 15, 20 year long monogamous cohabitation.
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
Yup. Fuckbuddies for a year or so. That was 20 years ago. Married her. My story is about her. These things sometimes end well.
i wouldnt, fuck buddies are usually the ones you call when your drunk and its late. ive met all my fuck buddies when drunk, and ive usually fucked all my fuck buddies when im drunk, hence dont have a relationship with them and frankly speaking sexual communication is as far as i wanna go when im in the mood for an intoxicated rondevouz!!! sorry girls, you would have it the same way, trust me im a bore when u try to get to know me !!
My fuck buddy and I both met at a time where we were lost. We used each other for sex in order to heal, and have since then become good friends, too. I've never really taken her on an official date, but we have hung out together as friends and we also travelled together for a little while. Honestly? I probably won't take her on a real date, because we know we're not right for each other as a couple, but we do enjoy each other's company and that's enough.
my former FB and I couldn't have a normal dating relationship because of rules . . . It was in the military and we were in a senior-subordinate roles (military, non-sexual, lol). Think it might have been nice though. We snuck far away a few times so we could act 'normal' but always had to return to the work environment / roles. Funny thing is we now live 30mins from each other and visit with spouses...
Nice 3 years post resurrection ; but I might as well answer.
Personally, it's quite the opposite that happens to me, and it happens quite often. I actually kinda avoid fuck buddies because of this... women always seem to want more and more from me. The sex I have with female friends or acquaintances happens more "accidently" or "naturally", after or during an activity/meeting, and I prefer it that way. That way they know our relationship is not just about sex and their cravings are thus more easily controlled. They still can be flirtatious, even without sex, but at least it's easier to ignore their hints then.
For me, it has never ended up working out. I guess I would much rather date AND have the sex with one women.
My girlfriend and I started out as fuck buddies. We fucked the night we first met (super horny as neither of us had gotten any in several months), stayed in contact and hooked up regularly for a few months, until it dawned to me that we actually have so much in common outside of the bedroom, too. So we sort of seamlessly transitioned to being a couple, which wasn't a difficult decision for either of us.
Uhhh...no! You're a side-piece for a reason, and she knew that at the beginning. A mate is a mate, and a slut is a slut...two different types of people. And if the side-piece starts to loose it and begin to catch feelings, she's off the team and her contract is revoked...leaving her in the free agency pool for another man to add to his roster...sorry. but it is what it is.
I would never be so stupid as to mess up a good "Fuck Buddy" relationship by dating her.
Dates are a dime a dozen but a good fuck buddy is like solid gold and can keep a man from screwing up his life and trading his freedom for regular sex....
YMMV
Great minds think alike but dirty minds work together.... ;)
Because of the need to be discreet, no. We have enjoyed an open marriage, but due to her career, we always had to conceal our freaky, bi sexual sex drives. Now there was one "buddy" I met online, she lived far enough away for us to go out on dates. That was a nice break from wondering who may have seen me park behind the hotel, or why is my truck in that woman's driveway?
