Guys is this normal?

Quote by Alexa8497
My husband and I have a great emotional relationship but when it comes to sex, it really falls short. We've been married for three years and we're both mid to late 20's.

We have sex once every three months, if lucky and it's been this way for 2.5 years. I've tried everything a can think of but it seems that he doesn't really like anything (including lingerie, costumes, role plays, sex anywhere but the bedroom, oral sex, toys).

I haven't let myself go, I still go to the trouble of trying to look and feel sexy every day.

He works from home so at times he might not shower for days and he will only brush his teeth if I mention it. Most nights I go to bed on my own. I know he's not depressed cos we've talked about this several times, it seems to have become a cycle.

It's getting pretty difficult keeping it together. I would never cheat on him but it's kind of hard to ignore my sexual needs...when a sexy guy walks by my hormones go crazy.

Any ideas? 

Quote by Alexa8497
It's been a very long time since I've updated this post...

Thanks everyone for your input and advice. The marriage died off...I left and have now been separated over a year. He has moved back overseas to live with his mum and dad. In Australia you have to wait for 12 months to lodge divorce paperwork so that should come through any day now.

After all the discussions and arguments I decided I deserved better and did not want to spend my life that way. I have met a man who's responsible, supportive, caring, loving and we have a healthy, fulfilling sex life.

The best life decision I've made...I'm a million times happier

Alexa xox

Quote by Alexa8497
My husband and I have a great emotional relationship but when it comes to sex, it really falls short. We've been married for three years and we're both mid to late 20's.

We have sex once every three months, if lucky and it's been this way for 2.5 years. I've tried everything a can think of but it seems that he doesn't really like anything (including lingerie, costumes, role plays, sex anywhere but the bedroom, oral sex, toys).

I haven't let myself go, I still go to the trouble of trying to look and feel sexy every day.

He works from home so at times he might not shower for days and he will only brush his teeth if I mention it. Most nights I go to bed on my own. I know he's not depressed cos we've talked about this several times, it seems to have become a cycle.

It's getting pretty difficult keeping it together. I would never cheat on him but it's kind of hard to ignore my sexual needs...when a sexy guy walks by my hormones go crazy.

Any ideas? 

Quote by Alexa8497
My husband and I have a great emotional relationship but when it comes to sex, it really falls short. We've been married for three years and we're both mid to late 20's.

We have sex once every three months, if lucky and it's been this way for 2.5 years. I've tried everything a can think of but it seems that he doesn't really like anything (including lingerie, costumes, role plays, sex anywhere but the bedroom, oral sex, toys).

I haven't let myself go, I still go to the trouble of trying to look and feel sexy every day.

He works from home so at times he might not shower for days and he will only brush his teeth if I mention it. Most nights I go to bed on my own. I know he's not depressed cos we've talked about this several times, it seems to have become a cycle.

It's getting pretty difficult keeping it together. I would never cheat on him but it's kind of hard to ignore my sexual needs...when a sexy guy walks by my hormones go crazy.

Any ideas? 

Quote by ChuckEPoo


First of all, my heart goes out to you. That is pretty unusual for being in your twenties. That sounds like the behavior of a couple in their seventies. Your husband needs to see a councilor. The poor hygiene and lack of interest in sex is a sign of withdrawal and depression. I'm assuming this started after you were married. You've got some serious decisions to make. Your whole life is before you. I personally couldn't live a life devoid of intimacy. Sacrifice is mandatory to make any marriage work but that doesn't mean you have to sacrifice a lifetime of happiness.

Quote by emersonbosworth
I think you need a boyfriend, maybe he needs a boyfriend too? Talk to him about sharing another man, see if he'd like to play with another man, might surprise you, Can't figure out a guy who doesn't wants sex. Not normal.NjABzy4J2YTTlGJq

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Sorry it took so long. I wish my wife would suggest a threesome with a female. I hope you are happy or soon will be.

Quote by Alexa8497
My husband and I have a great emotional relationship but when it comes to sex, it really falls short. We've been married for three years and we're both mid to late 20's.

We have sex once every three months, if lucky and it's been this way for 2.5 years. I've tried everything a can think of but it seems that he doesn't really like anything (including lingerie, costumes, role plays, sex anywhere but the bedroom, oral sex, toys).

I haven't let myself go, I still go to the trouble of trying to look and feel sexy every day.

He works from home so at times he might not shower for days and he will only brush his teeth if I mention it. Most nights I go to bed on my own. I know he's not depressed cos we've talked about this several times, it seems to have become a cycle.

It's getting pretty difficult keeping it together. I would never cheat on him but it's kind of hard to ignore my sexual needs...when a sexy guy walks by my hormones go crazy.

Any ideas?