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It's definitely not normal, and he's afraid to say you this. He needs counselling! It maybe a low-sexual drive...
Quote by Roxysawyer
There is nothing normal about this. You need to sit him down and explain your needs and ask what it takes to get him interested. If that doesn't work tell him you have needs and if he doesn't fill them you will find somebody that will. There is a chance he wants you to enjoy other men. I enjoy my wife being with other men. I like being with her and other women too. Maybe you need to see if he wants an open relationship.
Quote by Roxysawyer
There is nothing normal about this. You need to sit him down and explain your needs and ask what it takes to get him interested. If that doesn't work tell him you have needs and if he doesn't fill them you will find somebody that will. There is a chance he wants you to enjoy other men. I enjoy my wife being with other men. I like being with her and other women too. Maybe you need to see if he wants an open relationship.
Quote by Alexa8497
We've talked about an open marriage...it's out of the question. As I mention earlier, he is not into anything in the bedroom but feeding. Not costumes, roleplays, toys etc.
Quote by bluewolf12I agree get him to a doctor.
Sounds like depression, but if not then other is cheating working away alot , fed up with job, or hate to say it married life was sex always like this loss of sex drive could be health problems, but not showering takeing care of him self sounds like depression he just might not realise it
Quote by sweetcutecock
like everyone else here,i'm thinking depression, try a shrink,in the mean time,i hope your toys do you some justice,you can also try usingthe toys in front of him,that might cause a little spark
Quote by PlsrKing
He's at home, stuck on porn in the daytime, no more energy for you. Was there once. Had to fight to break the habit. It's a marriage killer!
Quote by Alexa8497
We've talked about an open marriage...it's out of the question. As I mention earlier, he is not into anything in the bedroom but feeding. Not costumes, roleplays, toys etc.
Quote by da_rk
maybe i'm speaking out of turn... but you should definitely leave him.
if he loves you then he will come and find you and change his ways
hope you get things sorted... for your own sanity
Quote by Alexa8497
We've talked about this issue countless times as well. Its at a point now where he's actually lying to me about his porn usage.
I just think its sh*t for him to expect me to not have any toys, not see a counselor and not sleep with any other man if he's not up to the game.
I'm still young (27) and don't want to be wasting my life with someone who doesn't want me like that.
Quote by Wilful
Another vote from the cheap seats for counselling, if not for the both of you, at least for you. A good psychologist will be able to work with you to help you take the action that's right for you, whether it's finding a way to accept the situation, come up with strategies to change it, or assist you to move on.
As for "normal", don't get caught up on labels. What matters is what's going on for you, not everybody else. But for whatever it's worth, it's not uncommon.
Good luck.
Quote by PlsrKing
Maybe you should try getting slightly more curves, and/or instead of toys, sit in front of him and masterbate using your fingers/hand.
Does he like blowjobs?
Quote by monainohio
it is not normal for him to be like he is if you was married to me not only I coud not keep my handa off you but your clothes would not be on not long after you wallk in the door but tell him about you him and another girl in bed with you two and see what he does or say