Although I would say I'm reasonably intelligent, independent and opinionated I still expect men to take the leading role.
Personally I do not initiate sex, Why? Because I do not like being in control. When it comes to sex I'm a shy. passive, and self-conscious woman. The thought of 'taking control' is actually a turn off for me. I have never been a person to take the reins in any sexual situation...it just is not me.
Having said that it could be argued that flirting and wearing sexy and revealing clothing is initiating sex by seducing the man into believing he's doing all the work.
Do passive women piss you off or do you prefer them that way?
Do you always like to initiate sex or do you prefer women to come onto you?
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Do you always like to initiate sex or do you prefer women to come onto you?
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I'd like to see the responses to this as well. I do not often make the first move because I am too shy and scared of being rejected. Only if i know the guy is 100% up for it can I be more confident, Im even too shy to try and make eye contact with a guy across the room!
I guess what I would like to know is, how mean are you guys when a woman you're interested in comes on to you? Its just the thoght of him laughing back in my face that puts me of, but it would be nice if I could know that that isnt likely to happen
I guess what I would like to know is, how mean are you guys when a woman you're interested in comes on to you? Its just the thoght of him laughing back in my face that puts me of, but it would be nice if I could know that that isnt likely to happen
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I feel it is usually a mutual decision even if the man makes the first move. I have never kissed anyone without knowing that they wanted to be kissed. However the idea of a woman making the first move would be a total turn on and definitely not lead to nasty tale telling to male acquaintances whilst we slurp lager and watch boring football.
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Do passive women piss you off or do you prefer them that way?
Do you always like to initiate sex or do you prefer women to come onto you?
I like both please, there are times when I like to initiate for sure. However when she pushes me on the bed and grabs my cock telling me what she wants to do with it is very nice as well!
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I usually initiate, but love to be seduced as well.
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Do you mean passive in a relationship or just out at a bar with someone you just met? I think in a relationship there should be a mix to keep things from getting too routine. In a bar...would you call prolonged eye contact passive? There was just another thread about what women do to let men know their interested and if you're picking those up then it's up to the guy to initiate. Having said that, sometimes something really direct and straightforward is hot.
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I am married now and she initiates at least as much as I do, if not slightly more.
When I was single I always thought that women were slightly more sexually aggressive than guys. Some people think it is the other way around, but that is how it seemed to me.
Whether I initiated or they did was not important, I was happy either way.
Now that I am married I have discovered than a wedding ring is an aphrodisiac for a lot of women. I don't like that at all. I hate being hit on in bars/clubs now.
When I was single I always thought that women were slightly more sexually aggressive than guys. Some people think it is the other way around, but that is how it seemed to me.
Whether I initiated or they did was not important, I was happy either way.
Now that I am married I have discovered than a wedding ring is an aphrodisiac for a lot of women. I don't like that at all. I hate being hit on in bars/clubs now.
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I have discovered than a wedding ring is an aphrodisiac for a lot of women. I don't like that at all. I hate being hit on in bars/clubs now.
Purely as an experiment...after a couple years of noticing that a good male running buddy of mine (who never removed his wedding band) practically had to beat the women off with a baseball bat at area nightclubs -I purchased a simple gold wedding band @ a pawnshop in the late 90s, to experience the effect myself.
That visual aphrodisiac works much better when you are traveling and are in a different city, unknown. But then again, Buz...the same lure works for women who are traveling and out in a nightclub advertising themselves as available. I haven't been out much the last few years, but on those occasions when I have been to nightclubs with an attractive date...I notice she gets lots of looks (generally by both genders), I might catch a few...and there are the rare moments where blatant propositions are also fielded by one or the other of us. It's all in how you handle things, Buz.
Incidentally, they are noticing you first, the ring second, the challenge third. It should be flattering; have fun with it while you can! It gives you the opportunity to let your wife (when she's with you) know that she's the preferred jam to your toast....or it may bring other opportunities as well.
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Almost all of the time I initiate sex but to be honest I would be happier if I didn't have to all of the time. It would be nice to be surprised once in a while.
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I was married for nearly 10 years so if I had to initiate it all the time it would become in my mind tiresome and lack the spice that sex requires. So that being said I love it when women initiates sex. A lady friend recently read the Shades of Grey trilogy and she couldn't keep her hands off of me. What a wild weekend we just had!
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Almost all of the time I initiate sex but to be honest I would be happier if I didn't have to all of the time. It would be nice to be surprised once in a while.
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"Do you always like to initiate sex or do you prefer women to come onto you?"
Although I will generally be the one to initiate sex, I applaud any woman that is willing to initiate sex. Irregardless of if it is visual clues, a warm kiss or a fondled grope; it is still nice to feel desired.
Although I will generally be the one to initiate sex, I applaud any woman that is willing to initiate sex. Irregardless of if it is visual clues, a warm kiss or a fondled grope; it is still nice to feel desired.
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I find it enjoyable when a woman initiates sex, but that may mean different things to people. It could be a woman make the first move to kiss, touch hands, or even start the conversation. I find that I am more comfortable when I don't have to read a persons mind to find out if I am going to get slapped for missinterpreting body language and initiating the first kiss.
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i tink i like it both. both has its pleasure. ;)
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I like my guy to initiate it, but if I am drunk or feeling extra horny I will make the move. I'm not afraid of rejection, no guy in his right mind will turn down sex. Just saying!
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not often, but at times, i have had a woman make first move...half the timei turned it down as i wasnt fully comfy about it or, more to point, them. but never once did i ever laugh at them and always thanked them for their attentions. damn the man that would snigger (or woman for that matter) when they get attention of amourous sort.
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It is always a ego boost when a woman comes on to me !!! It makes me feel great and sexy.
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Thanks for your interesting respones
I don't feel that you have addressed this question though:
Do passive women piss you off or do you prefer them that way?
What if she never initiates sex and allways expects you to do it
i would prefer if the women initiates sex from time to time, but i also wouldnt mind if she was a bit passive.
If she always expected me to initiate sex, i would feel thats a bit unfair as we are both in the relationship and we both have needs.
Rookie Scribe
I dont necessarily want the woman to take lead but im not a fan of feeling like im the only one that wants it a woman is too pushy it turns me off if she doesnt show enough interest occasionally it can make a man self concious aswell but me never me tarzan you jane lol
Rookie Scribe
Thought about it again I wanna initiate if its a repeat chick shes going to have go for it occasionally..........