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i let my gf do some controlling and then later on i tried to control and she just laughed at me, but i still try sometimes lol
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Do guys like being controlling or controlled more during sex?
Lurker
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Agreed both my wife and I take it in turns
Lurker
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I'd say both.
Lurker
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I'd say mu husband is more controlling but we do switch sometimes although I think my husband would like me to take control more often as he says I'm so good at it, but I can't help being selfish as I'm more sub, But when I'm Dom I have a huge strap on and I cuff him so he truely is not in anyway in control
I have as many powerful orgasms when I'm Dom as to when I'm sub
I have as many powerful orgasms when I'm Dom as to when I'm sub
Active Ink Slinger
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Being a true switch I am probably unable to decide which I enjoy the most but I am almost always purely dominant because it seems that even women that claim to be dominant seem to prefer to be dominated when I'm with them.
I don't know if I bring that out in them or if they are more naturally submissive and if allowed to do what they naturally want to do they revert to submissive almost every time.
Not to say that there aren't truly dominant women out there and I've actually known a couple but submissive women has been my experience.
If I had to pick whether I prefer controlling or being controlled during sex I'd probably say being controlled but that's likely because I almost never get to be in that role and therefore I miss and crave it more due to the novelty of it.
I know... Long answer to a short question but then that's my style... LOL
I don't know if I bring that out in them or if they are more naturally submissive and if allowed to do what they naturally want to do they revert to submissive almost every time.
Not to say that there aren't truly dominant women out there and I've actually known a couple but submissive women has been my experience.
If I had to pick whether I prefer controlling or being controlled during sex I'd probably say being controlled but that's likely because I almost never get to be in that role and therefore I miss and crave it more due to the novelty of it.
I know... Long answer to a short question but then that's my style... LOL
Great minds think alike but dirty minds work together.... ;)
Active Ink Slinger
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I'd say, mostly, I like being in control. I do enjoy following her lead in certain situations. I just really enjoy seeing how she reacts to what I do.
Lurker
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Oh I prefer to be in control...... If you want to tease me, or restrict me somehow, thats totally fine - but the time will come when I will regain control, and then I will make sure you pay 
(That said I'm certain you'll enjoy the penalties
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(That said I'm certain you'll enjoy the penalties
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Advanced Wordsmith
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Personally I prefer being controlled during sex.
I'm doing so many things in my personal time where I'm in control, that when I do have sex... I like to submit it too someone else.
I'm doing so many things in my personal time where I'm in control, that when I do have sex... I like to submit it too someone else.
People that don't care, play games with people that do care. Life is just a game however and we all need to learn how to play it.
Active Ink Slinger
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Unfortunately I have always ended up being the controlling one. I would for once like to be the subject of another's sexual whims or agenda. Would take some of the pressure off.
Active Ink Slinger
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Depends on my mood....a meaningful pegging feels good every now and then
Lurker
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I've been told rather emphatically more than once that I'm controlling, that I "like to drive," but if a woman insists on getting on top or wants something specific that doesn't entail a subsequent trip the hospital, I'm hardly going to say no.
Lurker
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I think I prefer she takes control at least at first
Lurker
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id say i like both.
Site administrator
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I have never experienced being controlled .. I would like to try that .. John .. yes? Dream on ...
Active Ink Slinger
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I like being in control most of the time. But I do really love a strong and commanding woman at the helm too. I've had this conversation with the lads and guys do like it when a woman takes charge.
Lurker
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I don't mind an alpha...but only in bed.
Rookie Scribe
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Both, I like a couple kinds of fetish foreplay.
Rookie Scribe
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I crave being controlled 
Lurker
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For me I enjoy being in control, however I don't mind if she takes control at times
Active Ink Slinger
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Both, especially when with the right person.
But most of the time, I prefer to call the shots.
But most of the time, I prefer to call the shots.
I can’t think of a good tagline so this will have to do. Suggest a better one for me?
Active Ink Slinger
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I think I would enjoy being controlled simply because it's less common
Gravelly-Voiced Fucker
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I like the dynamic of the balance of power constantly shifting (or even the possibility shifting), but I pretty much always opt for controlling.
The first time I was ever tied up I remember thinking very clearly, "This is really hot, the only thing that would make it hotter is if I weren't tied up."
The first time I was ever tied up I remember thinking very clearly, "This is really hot, the only thing that would make it hotter is if I weren't tied up."
Active Ink Slinger
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I most often call the shots, but I don't think that is controlling. I listen to what she likes and wants, then act accordingly. She does the same with me...a perfect blend.
Active Ink Slinger
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I have never been anything but Alpha, just what I migrate to no matter what I am doing.. Being controlled has no appeal for me....
The Linebacker
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My wife and I don't try and control one another, though we might play at that occasionally. It is mostly 50-50 with us. She does like me taking the lead in rough sex play, but it is not real domination.
Advanced Wordsmith
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I'm the alpha male at work, in my social life, and at home with family. In the bedroom I want to be the submissive and be controlled.
Active Ink Slinger
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as long as he is making love to it don't matter
Active Ink Slinger
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Simple answer-YES--depends on time, place and the female partner
Lurker
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Both..Depends on the person.
Active Ink Slinger
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In our case rather with me or with others Hubbie IS ALWAYS in control. Probably deals with his Air Force career.
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