Why do you guys like cybering so much? All I ever get asked it to have a sex chat with different guys, and I personally don't get the fascination with it! It does nothing for me except make me bored as hell and awkward! Also, with me having a bf I personally consider a little like cheating.
Why do you like it so much? What do you get out of it? If your GF was cybering with other guys would you like it/ consider it to be cheating?
Sorry if this has been asked before
i prefer genuine opinions/compliments over cybering.
but to answer the other portion, i don't see it as cheating so long as it remains online only and i'm not being passed over/ignored for the cyberer/e-person.
i may be in the minority, but it doesn't bother me if the woman will use cybering or looking at dongs to get off if i'm not around. it's like if i were to watch porn. so long as it doesn't affect the relationship/our sex life, i don't see it as cheating.
To me cybering is basically just like you're sharing a fantasy with someone else. It's basically like you're both writing a story, just that you're not quite sure where it's gonna go. But, it has to be good. Cybering won't be anything near pleasing if the girl writes something along these lines
"I suck your cock."
"I fondle your balls"
"I spread my legs and let you fuck me."
"I cum"
If that's as interesting as it gets then I don't blame you for being bored. Personally I don't sit and stroke it there and then usually, more often than not I stick it in my memory for later use. But in my book cybering with someone else is cheating.
Thanks for the comments! I'm glad at least one person agrees that cybering is like cheating, it's good to what men think as so many women on here hate it.
I enjoy cyber but don't go around pestering for it. It really only works for me if you do it as a shared fantasy. Build some story between you instead of just naming body parts and orifices. Then it can be quite fun.
Cheating? It's sexual pleasure with someone other than than you partner so if you're in a relationship and cyber with someone outside that relationship, then cheating it is. On the scale of cheating, though, I'd put it below actually fucking someone. If my partner was doing it? Not sure. I might like it or be okay with it since I've done it.
Yeah if you're just being pestered for cyber unsolicited that's pretty crappy. As far as the question on if it's cheating, that's a bit more complex than just yes or no. My gf and I have talked to each other about a lot of things, and we've gone over all the dos and don'ts. It's not what you'd think of if someone said "open relationship", but essentially our door is open slightly. I can watch porn, I can call up some party line and phone sex, I can cyber, so long as those things don't take away from attention she needs and they don't cross that line into what we define in our relationship as cheating. So say I cyber with someone a few times and then I do somethng like try to go meet them or cybering with them is more important to do than satisfying my gf when she wants it later, then yes line crossed I'm in cheating waters. But to judge someone simply for having a gf/bf and cybering as well and not having any context or insight to how that relationship works and proceed to denigrate the practice wholesale in condescending terms is a bit wrongheaded.
It's fun. There can be a certain allure about turning someone else on. Sexuality isn't always about the physicality, y'know ;)
From my perspective, I generally like to do things with my lover. So, having an agreement that it was cool, I knew she was cybering with other guys, and she was honest and told me about her cyberings then I wouldn't consider it cheating. If she is telling me about it then I feel included.
If she is doing it behind my back and is actively trying to hide it from me. Well, well. That's a separate story. It's the hiding part that gets me. Not the cybering part. Because the natural question becomes: why is she hiding it if I'm generally okay with her cybering with other guys (as long as she is open about it)?
Another person mentioned the idea of being passed over. If my gf is doing it because she is passing me over, as opposed to an expression of her sexuality and letting me join in on the fun if I wanted, then that is also a different story. I want to know that she's in the relationship with me because she genuinely wants to be in one with me, not because I'm a holding pattern before she finds someone more interesting.
Probably not the answer you were looking for.
But the question you asked is a question very individual to a specific person and specific relationships. Different relationships + different people = different answers.
Cybering is a totally boring waste of time. That's why I've got the warning on my page...I don't cyber. I don't see it as sharing a fantasy. I see it as fodder for monkey spanking. And if you have someone else in your life, married or not, it is like cheating. At least that's how I'd feel and I know that's how my bf would feel.
Never done it - yet to try.
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Yeah i'd consider it cheating. I'm also not someone who's ever understood cybering. I don't get much out of it. It seems silly. Though i have found it quite fun to watch porn and chat together.
For me its a release for my fantasy, that I cant do with all girls. And especially if I meet a girl online, I just tell her what I would do to her and how I would do it to her. Its just like role playing. And sometimes Im on the fence if it cheating or not. If I had a gf and she was cybering with a dude, and I found out I would ask her If I could join her and help her out. I mean have you ever had phone sex? If you have, I think its the same but that Is just my opinion. I hope this helps.
Yeah, I'd kick my bf's ass if he did it. I mean, it wouldn't be the end of the relationship, but I'd be pretty hurt.
