Glad I stumbled upon this topic since I am facing this exact same situation. A young woman I met at a street market (we're both vendors) has made it pretty clear that she would like to spend some time with me. I have to go over to her place next week to pick up an article she made for me and she stated I should come when her young children are not at home. A little context...I'm in my late fifties and I'm guessing she is in her late twenties or early thirties and is a knockout.
While I admit I am more than a little intrigued by the whole idea, I also have some reservations since I have a son older than her.
Any young ladies who have experienced this? Would appreciate your input.
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I would without question be flattered. I have been, though at times it isn't without a little apprehension, not because of the age thing, but simply because of performance expectations. Can I keep up?
As I've got older I've noticed two things. The first is that it does take rather longer to recover, even the few times I have used the little blue or yellow pills. The second is that I have a lot more control and so can last longer. On balance, its a good thing, as my younger lovers often have cum several times before I have, and just want it to continue, and anyway while I am recovering there are so many things to enjoy, play with, and toys help a great deal.
I don't give the age thing a thought, apart from legality. What matters much more for me is her understanding of what makes for good sex. I don't enjoy being the teacher continually, which is why I usually prefer more mature women, and the 35 to 55 age group is where I go mostly. I don't want a lover who freezes if I take out a blindfold or approach her with a large buzzing monster.
But if she wants it, and knows what and why she's doing it, then put away your silly scruples.
As I've got older I've noticed two things. The first is that it does take rather longer to recover, even the few times I have used the little blue or yellow pills. The second is that I have a lot more control and so can last longer. On balance, its a good thing, as my younger lovers often have cum several times before I have, and just want it to continue, and anyway while I am recovering there are so many things to enjoy, play with, and toys help a great deal.
I don't give the age thing a thought, apart from legality. What matters much more for me is her understanding of what makes for good sex. I don't enjoy being the teacher continually, which is why I usually prefer more mature women, and the 35 to 55 age group is where I go mostly. I don't want a lover who freezes if I take out a blindfold or approach her with a large buzzing monster.
But if she wants it, and knows what and why she's doing it, then put away your silly scruples.
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Being a very young,active 54 year old I have the envious position of ENJOYING that stage of my life right now. I am currently friends with a young female at work, she is 25 and there is a definite attraction between us. But being older I know better than to not let it go any further than innocent flirtations. We both enjoy the fun we have, so why spoil it? I've told my male friends that I'd fuck her in a minute, but only if I was single and unattached. We enjoy each others company and the talk about us is incessant, but we don't let that bother either one of us. In the meantime, she makes wonderful fantasy material (as based on one of my stories listed on here). I've masturbated many a times with thoughts of her and just how HOT I think she is. In fact she has been told by me personally if I could only be half my age and single again...I'm absolutely certain that we would be a couple doing the horizontal bop (or whatever other position she prefers...I think she'd be a great one on top, she has the perfect build for it). Anyway...
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I've decided to make an actual account on here after some time lurking. This topic inspired me to reply
Being a little more than forty now, I will offer my perspective. As far as being approached/flirted with, it's awesome. As someone else said, it tends to make one feel young again. With that being said, it does raise red flags with me. Many questions come up:
Am I imagining this?
What does she want from me? Money?
Was she lacking a father figure growing up and is she looking for daddy now?
What the hell does she want with an old guy like me?
Is this a prank?
I'm sure that you get the idea.
I met a girl who was nearly half my age (and yes she was legal) awhile back through work. We ended up starting there at roughly the same time, although I ended up with a little more responsibility much more quickly than she. We became very close friends. We talked about anything, joked around a lot to pass the time, but as much as that was great, it was one-sided on certain topics. She would tell me about very personal things that she and her boyfriend had done, things that she never told anyone else She would also occasionally make some jokes about me spending all of my free time masturbating, and even confided in me that she owned a vibrator or two. She had no problem being open, playful, and sometimes even flirty, but if I made a joke about her wearing out her batteries, or if I flirted with or even complimented her, there was always an uncomfortable silence. I never figured out if she was embarrassed by what I knew about her, or if I reminded her that I was old enough to be her dad. She never stopped being open with me though, so I never got the impression that she regretted it.
One afternoon, she needed help with a project and she asked me to pick her up outside the door. We were planning to work on the project over lunch and then return. I pulled up and she hopped into the car, turned to me, smiled like she was perfectly happy to see me, and let out this big bubbly, "Hi!" I hadn't had anyone look at me like that since my former fiancee. I know she wasn't using me to finish the project, as I was getting paid to assist her. She had recently broken things off with her boyfriend as they weren't seeing eye-to-eye on some fundamental philosophical issues. She kept telling me how horny she was that day. She also loved how I made a pun that twisted something that she said into me making a compliment about her. The whole afternoon was pretty much like being on a date, for most of the afternoon.
Like I said, it became weird then later, perhaps when reality came crashing back down on her. I never made any advance on her (never tried to kiss her or anything), but things were very awkward after that. Since then, we both have gotten new jobs. If we run into each other, it's usually short-but-sweet with a promise by both of us to keep in touch. We have yet to do so. It's different now. I know she's only saying that to be kind. I don't mean the same to her as I once did, but I'm not 100% sure of what I did mean to her.
I think in our case, we made each other feel special, maybe when no one else was at the time, but the age difference was too much like father and daughter. Since younger people tend to not discuss relationships with the person whom they are in the relationship, she and I never discussed it, even though I did make an effort to talk to her.
I guess there's a communications gap between older and younger people. Maybe not so much a gap as it is a difference in the way that people communicate. With someone my own age, I could have discussed it, with my young friend, it would have made something awkward even more awkward.
I hope this helps you.
Being a little more than forty now, I will offer my perspective. As far as being approached/flirted with, it's awesome. As someone else said, it tends to make one feel young again. With that being said, it does raise red flags with me. Many questions come up:
Am I imagining this?
What does she want from me? Money?
Was she lacking a father figure growing up and is she looking for daddy now?
What the hell does she want with an old guy like me?
Is this a prank?
I'm sure that you get the idea.
I met a girl who was nearly half my age (and yes she was legal) awhile back through work. We ended up starting there at roughly the same time, although I ended up with a little more responsibility much more quickly than she. We became very close friends. We talked about anything, joked around a lot to pass the time, but as much as that was great, it was one-sided on certain topics. She would tell me about very personal things that she and her boyfriend had done, things that she never told anyone else She would also occasionally make some jokes about me spending all of my free time masturbating, and even confided in me that she owned a vibrator or two. She had no problem being open, playful, and sometimes even flirty, but if I made a joke about her wearing out her batteries, or if I flirted with or even complimented her, there was always an uncomfortable silence. I never figured out if she was embarrassed by what I knew about her, or if I reminded her that I was old enough to be her dad. She never stopped being open with me though, so I never got the impression that she regretted it.
One afternoon, she needed help with a project and she asked me to pick her up outside the door. We were planning to work on the project over lunch and then return. I pulled up and she hopped into the car, turned to me, smiled like she was perfectly happy to see me, and let out this big bubbly, "Hi!" I hadn't had anyone look at me like that since my former fiancee. I know she wasn't using me to finish the project, as I was getting paid to assist her. She had recently broken things off with her boyfriend as they weren't seeing eye-to-eye on some fundamental philosophical issues. She kept telling me how horny she was that day. She also loved how I made a pun that twisted something that she said into me making a compliment about her. The whole afternoon was pretty much like being on a date, for most of the afternoon.
Like I said, it became weird then later, perhaps when reality came crashing back down on her. I never made any advance on her (never tried to kiss her or anything), but things were very awkward after that. Since then, we both have gotten new jobs. If we run into each other, it's usually short-but-sweet with a promise by both of us to keep in touch. We have yet to do so. It's different now. I know she's only saying that to be kind. I don't mean the same to her as I once did, but I'm not 100% sure of what I did mean to her.
I think in our case, we made each other feel special, maybe when no one else was at the time, but the age difference was too much like father and daughter. Since younger people tend to not discuss relationships with the person whom they are in the relationship, she and I never discussed it, even though I did make an effort to talk to her.
I guess there's a communications gap between older and younger people. Maybe not so much a gap as it is a difference in the way that people communicate. With someone my own age, I could have discussed it, with my young friend, it would have made something awkward even more awkward.
I hope this helps you.
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I have noticed a few younger women hitting on me since I got my self in shape. I'm almost 50 but I am built like a body builder and act more like I'm in my 30s. I love to dance and have fun and I think younger woman enjoy talking to me because I talk to thier faces not their breast. lol The Gym I work-out at has all young beautiful women that work there that call me by name when I enter and leave. I also have very attractive younger and older women approach me at same gym. They always ask me how to lift something corrrectly. Which I sometimes actually have to get very close to them to show them how to lift it properly. But I think it is mostly because older men are more confident in there thinking that if we don't get lucky at least we were flirted with at our age. lol
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Quote by EutopiaWhen you are..."approached" by a younger female, I mean young, but still of legal age, what are your thoughts on the matter?
Do you feel Flattered?
Do you think they're flirting with you because they're gold diggers?
Are you in that cliche' slump of thinking "is this really happening?!" over and over again?
Maybe all the blood in your body flow straight between your legs?
Or do you all think of something completely different?
I'd love to know, just incase I attempt to stray along the mature lines next time I'm on the prowl. ;D
OK, I can have some fun with this one. See I am in a wheelchair, and some young ladies as you describe think $ WhelChair, accident, Money $ and I think that's fine and have my fun. Some are curious and I'm a great teacher, and yes, even though you still look. Now before I go crazy, I check out their attitude, etc... Yes some are gold diggers, but I just have fun with them having my way, and yes it happens quiet often in my situation.
Well that's just my opinion, sorry if you don't like.
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I am 52. If I wasn't in a committed relationship, I would welcome the attention. It would be difficult to have a serious relationship with someone who was more than10 to 15 years younger than me. But sex? Way cool.
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I am 60 years of age & would certainly be flattered but for me that's way too young. However, if I could talk her into joining me & my partner who is 17 years younger than me then that might be a different story........... Just kidding.......... We both agree that she has to be at least 30 years old.
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She's a hooker.
She wants to meet my friend.
She's blind.
She wants money.
She's lost.
She's my friend's daughter and wants a ride. (in my case, granddaughter)
She's really not 18. (she's 14). Yikes!
Doesn't matter, I think there all in love with me.
Then I wake.
Now, the 40 somethings, that's another matter.
She wants to meet my friend.
She's blind.
She wants money.
She's lost.
She's my friend's daughter and wants a ride. (in my case, granddaughter)
She's really not 18. (she's 14). Yikes!
Doesn't matter, I think there all in love with me.
Then I wake.
Now, the 40 somethings, that's another matter.
Quote by EutopiaWhen you are..."approached" by a younger female, I mean young, but still of legal age, what are your thoughts on the matter?
Do you feel Flattered?
Do you think they're flirting with you because they're gold diggers?
Are you in that cliche' slump of thinking "is this really happening?!" over and over again?
Maybe all the blood in your body flow straight between your legs?
Or do you all think of something completely different?
I'd love to know, just incase I attempt to stray along the mature lines next time I'm on the prowl. ;D
One qualifying question please....does my wiener still work?
...i'm a little under you target demographic at 32, but as a rule, I don't hook up with girls younger than mid twenties...for me, it's all a mental thing...i have 17 years of sexual experience...i need someone who is at least in that ballpark, and no offense intended, but 18 year old girls aren't even playing the same sport...it isn't their fault...we were all 18 once...but i have no desire to go back to 18 now...there is a confidence and maturity that you can only get with experience, and that's what I gravitate towards.
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Hey, I'm a 49 year old guy who keeps himself in pretty good shape...
Have I had younger women come on to me? Yes...
Do I think it's flattering? Yes...I think all guys do to some extent...that old "I still got it" attitude...
Would I really want to get with a 20 year old girl? No...honestly...
Reminds me of a friend of mine who I've known since third grade...a few years ago, he married a 22 year old...he was 44, exactly twice her age...he was just younger than her father...by a year, I think...
Frankly, I couldn't stand her...the girlfriend he had before I thought was lovely...she was a few years younger than us, but apparently they had their "differences"...
Btw, his marriage to the 22 year old lasted all of six months...
I'm 49 and I'm going out with a 53 year old gal. We like/remember the same music...she doesn't speak in "text language"...I don't have to help her with her homework...etc...
Again, is it flattering when a young woman comes on to an older guy? Yeah, but not shockingly so...I remember when I was in my teens/twenties I certainly found older women attractive...and so did most of my friends...
Heck, I had another friend of mine from high school who had such a crush on my mother he wouldn't accept a ride from her one time because "he couldn't trust himself" being in the car with her...
My mom and I laughed about it for some time later...
Have I had younger women come on to me? Yes...
Do I think it's flattering? Yes...I think all guys do to some extent...that old "I still got it" attitude...
Would I really want to get with a 20 year old girl? No...honestly...
Reminds me of a friend of mine who I've known since third grade...a few years ago, he married a 22 year old...he was 44, exactly twice her age...he was just younger than her father...by a year, I think...
Frankly, I couldn't stand her...the girlfriend he had before I thought was lovely...she was a few years younger than us, but apparently they had their "differences"...
Btw, his marriage to the 22 year old lasted all of six months...
I'm 49 and I'm going out with a 53 year old gal. We like/remember the same music...she doesn't speak in "text language"...I don't have to help her with her homework...etc...
Again, is it flattering when a young woman comes on to an older guy? Yeah, but not shockingly so...I remember when I was in my teens/twenties I certainly found older women attractive...and so did most of my friends...
Heck, I had another friend of mine from high school who had such a crush on my mother he wouldn't accept a ride from her one time because "he couldn't trust himself" being in the car with her...
My mom and I laughed about it for some time later...
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I find younger women such a turn on. Age is a number. If she's legal and willing, why not?
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I have to say that I'd be curious as to why a younger female wouldbe approaching me?? I'd be asking her some pointed questions.If everything were on the up and up, well... we'd be doing the up and up... I may be older but I'm not a fool to pass up any female....younger or my age.
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When it happens, I'll let you know.. btw I may be older, but rarely referred to as a Gentleman!
Apparently mature, well-hung meat is the best !!! x
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always been playfull,so age is unimportant,making someone feel comfortable with you,is essential.........and thats to key to having younger friends !!!
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I've always been a proponent of the "older guy / younger gal" (he's a GUY, what'd you THINK he'd say...) but not for the reasons you might think.
As someone mentioned earlier in this thread, younger girls with younger guys of their own age or very close don't always have the nicest introduction to sex; probably 98% of these young guys just wanna mount, pump, come, and roll off and smoke a cigarette. The gal probably is hurt, both physically and emotionally, and as if that weren't bad enough, left high and... er, ... wet.
Younger guys are: A, all about themselves; B, in a hurry - - get in, get off , get out. Very rarely do HER needs fit into this equation. Unless she's severely in lust and able to get herself off on whatever he's dishing out, she's probably in for a disappointing first time, and subsequent times for an indeterminate period. Generally they're not so sure of themselves to put on the brakes and issue directions to ensure that they get theirs, too, and even if they were, how many young guys want to take such directions?
Whereas an older gent, such as, say, ME, has long since worked all that hurry up me me me nonsense out of my system long ago. A gorgeous young thing is the closest thing to heaven on this earth, and is not to be gulped down in a quick bite; it's to be savored, bit by bit, inch by inch, driving her crazy every second of the way; finding out what makes her squirm and playing all around with that to see just how far it can take her before moving on, maybe to revisit this a little later, or as a workup to round two. From my perspective, it's all about her, start to finish. I'll certainly get more than I can deal with along the way; no way in hell I or any man can match what most women can take (and want, but rarely get.)
Isn't something like that a much nicer break-in than the quick grope, slam, and it's done that she's most likely to receive from her male peers? It'll start her off on the right foot, so to speak, and she'll have a baseline to work from, knowing just how good it can get, and may be able to teach these youngsters something to boot.
If I'm full of it, I'll take my lumps like a man. Fire away!
And if they're older, but still much younger than me, I kinda have to cast my lot with the others who have said, in effect, "flattered, ego stroked, nice source of fantasy material (or stories!!), but kinda waiting for the other shoe to drop... what's the catch? Where's the hook?
As someone mentioned earlier in this thread, younger girls with younger guys of their own age or very close don't always have the nicest introduction to sex; probably 98% of these young guys just wanna mount, pump, come, and roll off and smoke a cigarette. The gal probably is hurt, both physically and emotionally, and as if that weren't bad enough, left high and... er, ... wet.
Younger guys are: A, all about themselves; B, in a hurry - - get in, get off , get out. Very rarely do HER needs fit into this equation. Unless she's severely in lust and able to get herself off on whatever he's dishing out, she's probably in for a disappointing first time, and subsequent times for an indeterminate period. Generally they're not so sure of themselves to put on the brakes and issue directions to ensure that they get theirs, too, and even if they were, how many young guys want to take such directions?
Whereas an older gent, such as, say, ME, has long since worked all that hurry up me me me nonsense out of my system long ago. A gorgeous young thing is the closest thing to heaven on this earth, and is not to be gulped down in a quick bite; it's to be savored, bit by bit, inch by inch, driving her crazy every second of the way; finding out what makes her squirm and playing all around with that to see just how far it can take her before moving on, maybe to revisit this a little later, or as a workup to round two. From my perspective, it's all about her, start to finish. I'll certainly get more than I can deal with along the way; no way in hell I or any man can match what most women can take (and want, but rarely get.)
Isn't something like that a much nicer break-in than the quick grope, slam, and it's done that she's most likely to receive from her male peers? It'll start her off on the right foot, so to speak, and she'll have a baseline to work from, knowing just how good it can get, and may be able to teach these youngsters something to boot.
If I'm full of it, I'll take my lumps like a man. Fire away!
And if they're older, but still much younger than me, I kinda have to cast my lot with the others who have said, in effect, "flattered, ego stroked, nice source of fantasy material (or stories!!), but kinda waiting for the other shoe to drop... what's the catch? Where's the hook?
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Well said kharrisma, that is why, through my twenties, I longed for and most often got much older men........the rest are just boys!
As an older gentlemen I have found the supply of younger women is an ever increasing commodity. However the percentage of that number that want to do a geezer my age is an ever decreasing commodity with each year I add to my tenure on this here rock. So when opportunity knocks I ain't doing no survey of motivations. Life is too short.
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53 Yo gentleman here. I'm not sure I'd believe her. Although it has never happened to me. I'd assume she had too much to drink. I could be convinced she was serious, but I'd be asking her why she was interested in an 'old fart' 
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I am over twenty five, does that class as old? If a good looking eitheen year old came on to me, I would make very sure indeed she was over eighteen. Then I would wonder what on Earth her game was. I would check my wallet was still there, my car keys, and all sorts, suspecting some sort of set up or con. If you really want to get off with an older man, do not come on to him to strong all of a sudden. I am afraid you will have to make friends with him first, and be like a very good friend for about a hundred days. That's how long it will take to calm his suspicions, and for you pass some of his safety tests. Then you could ask him if he thinks age matters in a relationship, and questions of that sort. Then finally make your move. But please be careful, men can seem like the nicest men in the world, and invite you round for coffee. Be very careful about that word "coffee", it means sex.