Women and Infidelity ??

24 Dec 2007

I have many ideas... more than a few are quite enticing too. At least I think so. I know that a few of those ideas are time tested and proven to work wonders too. *nods* L16

Oops... I meant... angel7

Really, I did.

25 Dec 2007

yeah ok we all know what you really meant!

26 Dec 2007

I'd just make sure it's an early movie and dinner, fystee, before the Main Course. L35

28 Dec 2007

as long as I get the dinner and movie I am cool...lol....most men cant even provide that nowadays

happy1

28 Dec 2007

You mean you wouldn't like a TV dinner and a DVD? Geez.

Just kidding.

29 Dec 2007

A tv dinner and a VHS tape would be cool with me!

14 Mar 2010

as for me i may be playing with other guys here on but i can assure my self that there's only one guy who i love

15 Mar 2010

What a difficult experience. Nobody who has not been down that road could even comprehend the pain you experienced with your wifes sexual choices and then her taking her own life. When I hear of suicide I think. Who was the person punishing?

If it was just the sexual choices, my answer would be Love and Sex are separate issues and should not be confused. Sex is wonderful with someone you love, but it is also very pleasant with others. I have only made love with one man, but I have had sex with many. I would think in the 21st Century we would have moved beyond this issue.

You loss most me greater than we can imagine, but we are here to help.

15 Mar 2010

Hmmm, methinks ye should look at the dates of threads before bringing them back. This person, Dennis, had a rough time to be sure and I feel for him. But he hasn't posted on this site in 2 1/2 years.

16 Mar 2010

To me sex and love are two completely separate things and while lust may make you make some regrettable decisions yes you most certainly can have sex with someone you do not love while being in love with someone else. I will never understand why people get so bent out of shape about infidelity I'd love to find my hubby a little cyber girl friend I think it would be great for his ego - any volunteers?!? Guess when I really love someone I try to be unconditional. Oops just noticed this was a very old thread but here's my 2 cents anyway.

Bunny12

Bunny Rabbits cute and fuzzy they want to love you but they have razor sharp teeth - don't piss them off!

18 Mar 2010

Quote by Dennis
A question i guess more for the women on the site,
How can a wife go and bed another man and then claim while crying and hugging you that she loves you and only you , does not whant to loose you ect,??
Is she lying to you, herself or to both?
As for me i left her immediatly .
Denis

You shouldn't always confuse love and sex. Just because a woman cheats on you, doesn't mean she doesn't love you. It may indicate dishonesty or a terrible mistake on her part, but not a lack of love. Every single woman that you have been with and will every be with has sexual desires for other men. Just like you do for other women. The reasons for her to act on those desires could be one of many, but don't assume it to be a lack of love.

7 Apr 2010

i'm deeply sorry for your pain! You'll probably never find an exact answer sweets. but I agree with some of the above posts, she had some deep issues and more likely then not they had nothing to do with you. It sounds to me that she was depressed before you left her, depression can make people act in ways they normally never would. It sounds to me that she was a tortured soul. Just look deep inside yourself and ask yourself did you love her the best way you knew how?? regardless of her own demons, did you do everything you could to love her? If you find that you sincerely believe that, beyond little faults and failures, you gave her your everything, let her soul and yours rest in peace honey. Wishes for peaceful days honey..............

8 Apr 2010

I am sorry I thought this was 2010, but it sounds more like 1910! Sex is Sex and Love is Love. They can be separate or be part of the package. Sex with another does not detract from the love for that significant one.

8 Apr 2010

Quote by WHR43
I am sorry I thought this was 2010, but it sounds more like 1910! Sex is Sex and Love is Love. They can be separate or be part of the package. Sex with another does not detract from the love for that significant one.

I think this is right- just because she has sex with somebody else does not mean she doesn't love you. It might mean she has weak will, and some things to work out in her head, and some disrespect maybe, but it doesn't mean she cares less.

Hell, she might not love you at all and be lying, but having sex with somebody else doesn't necessarily mean that.

23 May 2010

Boyd- I agree with you. There is a difference between sex and love. Before I got married, I was a "practicing" swinger. Enjoyed it!! I've offered trying the lifestyle with my hubby, but he doesn't want to.