The exception to this rule is probably the majority of women here on this site, but for the most part, most of the men I know have wives who simply dislike sex. I don't think it is just a fact that men are not romantic. Why can't women just like sex for sexes sake? Why does romance have to enter into it. Why are men and women so different?
I'm rambling here but I do think that if women liked sex like men do we would be like rabbits, but wouldn't that be fun.
Just curious, and this is probably the wrong group to ask.
Ask a bunch of wimps and you are likely to find that they don't have much sexual contact with women.
In which case, the question to ask would be whether it's really the woman's fault.
I know that you posted your question in the "ask the gals" section, but wanted to put my thoughts out there anyway. I have never come across a woman in my life who did not have a strong appetite for sex I'm not trying to put anyone down or cast any dispersions, but if men feel that women don't enjoy sex, I can tell you that is ridiculous and that just possibly those men should look to themselves, their level of fitness and possibly be open to adjusting how they approach sex with a woman to make themselves more appealing. There is no question that in my relationships, the more engaged I have been with the particular woman I am with and the more effort I put in to fitness, grooming, etc. absolutely has an effect upon that woman's interest and level of desire for me. No big surprise, but you generally get out of life something close to what you put into it!
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Maybe it's not the act itself...maybe you and your cronies just aren't any good at it. Not to make it sound like an attack. But seriously..."Why does romance have to be apart of it?" Like...was this really a serious question? Is every woman you get an itch for supposed to bend over and let you fuck just because you want it? Like are you seriously upset about the fact that fucking a woman requires effort? Would you rather club her over the head and drag her back to the cave? And as far as the rest of your [s]whining[/s] [s]bitching[/s] [s]moaning[/s] inquiries go, if men and women were the same, trust me, you wouldn't be interested.
And as said before, you already knew we were the wrong group to ask this question, so why didn't you just quit while you were [s]behind[/s] ahead?
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Yeah, gonna be honest, about half of the girls I have been in a relationship with were fucking ravenous. We didn't have to be alone in the house, just alone in that room. One girl I had to convince that we really should be alone in that room. Normally I wouldn't care, but her dad was looking at me like he wished he had a shotgun in hand.
Even during my marriage, brief as it was, my wife constantly wanted sex. It was ME that grew tired of it with her because, despite her eagerness, it felt like a chore.
Sex has to be done by both parties, and either one can just be a participant and screw it all up. A guy has to be able to whip out a new play instead of just going deep every time. And, likewise, a girl has to be willing to get involved in the game too. Laying there and moaning does not count.
So, anyone, guy or girl, that says their partner doesn't have an appetite for sex is either dealing with a total prude, or it is their own fault.
Can't help you there. I love sex.....well, good sex anyway.....it's bad sex with a man who doesn't care about me that I dislike
have no idea what you are talking about...
I think it's very unfair to post such a broad statement that the majority of women don't like sex. I don't think the women on Lush are the minority at all. If anything, it's the other way around.
Maybe their wives just don't want to have sex with them.
Sex in a long-term relationship starts way before the bedroom. How are these men treating their wives? Is she working full-time, then has to come home to cook, clean and look after kids while he comes home, puts his feet up and watches the game with a cold beer? I sure as hell wouldn't feel at all amorous towards a guy like that. I don't know any woman who can bear the full brunt of domestic life on her own, work at a job and then be a sex goddess in the bedroom.
Even my most prudish friend loves sex - with the right guy. Read: A guy who treats her right.
what a statement!!!!!!
perhaps the women have grown TIRED of their husbands
as for me i love sex..i loved it with my husband...i never EVER turned him down..he turned ME down!
he however NEVER wanted sex...NEVER
so i could say just from my experience why do men not want sex
but that would be false
ask the women....i bet it is MORE than not wanting sex
it is MORE about the love...being...gone
but i love sex...if i could have it AT least twice a day with a man i loved i would be so nice and sweet..and not a bitter old lady i tell you!!!
well MOST of you on here would fall over..in shock!!shock i say at how lovely MY posts would be!
never generalize about people...it is a dangerous..thing
women not wanting sex....i mean really...
(muttering to herself perhaps maybe the men ARE not the great LOVERS they make themselves out to be!!)
Either A. They aren't confident in bed
B. They are afriad of being judged
C. They are idiots that find it nasty
I'm not sure you're operating from a correct premise. But even if the majority of women don't like sex as you say, could it be that a great many men are no good at it? Oh, they talk a good fight but so many are CLUELESS!!! Men like to TALK about sex and brag about conquests real and imagined, while women actually like the intimacy and the sensations and yes the EMOTIONS of great sex. And yes we brag too, but about what we feel with a man who's good to us in and out of bed.
Example of a clueless man - I've run into this type of thing in real life --- Hey baby let me stick it in you..... 5 4 3 2 1 .... I just came and was it good for you too? And I have to leave now! I may call you again if I get horny in a few months and can't find anyone else to hook up with. ...... Well, I don't know what that is but it sure isn't MY idea of sex! LOL
Or be moody and mean and nasty to us for days on end and expect us to want you? AIN'T gonna happen!
Cat call to us from the sidewalk and think we're gonna drop our panties for you? Or treat us ONLY as sex objects with NO brains and ignore when we try to talk to you, yeah great seduction strategy. Or as my boss at work, pay me less than men for the same work, make me do menial chores like get coffee rather than use my brain, and then think I'll want to go into your office and have sex with you
And what's so wrong with putting a little effort into romance, why are you so down on getting us in the mood? Aren't we WORTH it?
The main reason I think you're wrong about women not liking sex is, there are only two organs of the human body whose ONLY purpose is to bring their owner sexual pleasure. Women have both of them - the clitoris and the G-spot - and men have neither! So we are designed to enjoy sex and you are NOT!!! Think about THAT!
Well I've been around long enough to know that the blame where it is true that many women don't like sex is because A) of the way they have been treated over the years including being abused B) how they are taught about sex. My first suggestion is take a hard look at yourself in a mirror, maybe the problem is you.
My first thought was to bitch about wanting this stereotype to finally die, but then I thought, "Why not give a careful, measured response and see if I learn anything about myself?".
I think you need to be careful with your use of the word 'majority'. I think that the majority of women don't like bad sex, and a roughly equal number of men and women dislike sex altogether. If it is more women, I believe it has to do with the way we've been treated culturally throughout the last 28,000 or so years of human evolution.
That said, there are many women who love sex and have higher sex drives than their partners, myself included (though I suppose I'm sort of a special case...). Also, there's a greater fear of sex in women, since they are the ones who bear children, and (in most parts of the world, including parts of this country) don't even have the option to walk away from a pregnancy, and those who can still have a (no offense, guys, I really do know it's your baby too) MUCH harder time with it, both physically and emotionally.
Those I'm sure are only some of the reasons, but I still think the premise of your initial question is flawed.
Cheers.
I've never met one that didn't like it..though a couple weren't very good at it.
I agree the problem is more likely not the lack of interest in sex but the lack of interest in the monotony of their marital sex. Time for some talk. It all starts in the brain. Maybe some sharing of fantasies or a little role playing. Make it fun again.
I love sex probably more than anything, so I don't know what to tell you
Your sweeping generalisations aside, there's a very good reason why there are differences in sex drives - pregnancy. For women the drive to have sex with the right partner is there as much as it is in men but their bodies will be more selective about who they have sex with and when because they're going to be the ones carrying a baby around for nine months. Despite the availability of birth control it's very difficult to over-ride millennia of hard-wiring.
Also, the chemicals produced during sex are different for men and women. For men it's dopamine - that natural high that we continually want more of. Dopamine is released for women too but they also getting higher concentrations of oxytocin as their orgasmic reward - this is the drug that make us want to bond - it also gets released when you cuddle. Men don't get dopamine from a cuddle.
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Are you saying the majority of women dislike sex for those reasons? 
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