I have been married to the only guy I have ever slept with for 11 years and altho we have sex as often as we can - it is infrequent and we can go months
He has the patience of a saint and until recently it has not bothered me either.
since finding and joining Lush I have been getting aroused on a daily basis and have gotten quite close to one guy who has expressed a real desire to fuck me. My hubby has Never fucked me, we always make love or just go through the motions (as it were) and whilst I think it would be nice to just be fucked I'm not sure I want my hubby to do it.
Is it wrong to want this guy on Lush to violate me and fuck me? I would never have an affair because I love my hubby dearly, but I have these amazin thoughts of being unfaithful - just once!!! Is it wrong?
I'd love to know what the rest of u think about this I bow to your thoughts on this subject
thanks xx
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the question you ask is "is it wrong?" Depends. are you planning on asking him how he feels about it or keeping it a secret? omission of truth is the same as lying and fucking him once or 20 times, it's still cheating. and let's be honest here - if he fucks you and you really like it, you're going to want to do it again. it's rarely a one time deal. just my opinion. and really, if your asking anonymous people on the internet you already know the answer and are looking for validation.
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You love him stick with him thats your declaration. Leave the idea in Lush as a fantasy you can revisit as many times as you like at the click of your mouse. Take control in your bedroom and rekindle that ole magic your the writer to that script, heres to the future making of happier times 
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There's nothing wrong with having those thoughts - they're fantasies. If you get off to them or get excited by them, I don't see anything wrong with that. You're imagining an idealized sexual experience of being dominated by a stranger. I think that's a pretty common fantasy to most women, especially if they've been in a conservative marriage for so long.
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tell your hubby....tell him you need more sex...tell him..ask him why his libido is low(he might have low testosterone)
give him & your marriage the love u promised each other...the truth...& time IT deserves
if he has a prob..therapy
if he will not fuck u..then be honest with him..that this is so not good enough
DO not CHEAT unless u are prepared for your marriage to be over
had a sexless marriage too..it is soo hard..tried therapy...but i always told the truth...
ps dont trust a guy who will fuck you behind your hubbys back...he will cheat on you too
give him & your marriage the love u promised each other...the truth...& time IT deserves
if he has a prob..therapy
if he will not fuck u..then be honest with him..that this is so not good enough
DO not CHEAT unless u are prepared for your marriage to be over
had a sexless marriage too..it is soo hard..tried therapy...but i always told the truth...
ps dont trust a guy who will fuck you behind your hubbys back...he will cheat on you too
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You said you want to be "Fucked" but not by your husband. Sounds like your mind is already made up. If you do it, are you strong enough to do it just once, even if it is the best you ever had. Trust me, unless it is somethiing that happens on vacation or some other situation where you will never see each other again, if it is good it is never just once!!
If you love your husband as you say you, try talking to him about your sexual desires.
If you love your husband as you say you, try talking to him about your sexual desires.
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The saying "What's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander" might apply. Neither you nor your husband can control what either of you desire and by the same token, he can't control what he would desire if he caught you being unfaithful.
So, you've flirted with this guy. How would you feel if your husband flirted with someone?
Perhaps you've crossed another line by mutually fantasizing with this guy. How would you feel if your husband did the same with someone?
Would you give your husband the same "free pass" that you want to give yourself?
The line is crossed when something of you that is presumed reserved for your spouse is given to another. There might have been a phrase in your wedding vows like, "forsaking all others". Your spouse can't presume to have your mind reserved, because you can't control what you desire, but he/she can presume to have your body reserved. So mutual agreement on what to presume reserved is required.
But then there's another saying. "It's better to beg for forgiveness than to ask for permission." You might want to ask yourself if that would be true in your case.
So, you've flirted with this guy. How would you feel if your husband flirted with someone?
Perhaps you've crossed another line by mutually fantasizing with this guy. How would you feel if your husband did the same with someone?
Would you give your husband the same "free pass" that you want to give yourself?
The line is crossed when something of you that is presumed reserved for your spouse is given to another. There might have been a phrase in your wedding vows like, "forsaking all others". Your spouse can't presume to have your mind reserved, because you can't control what you desire, but he/she can presume to have your body reserved. So mutual agreement on what to presume reserved is required.
But then there's another saying. "It's better to beg for forgiveness than to ask for permission." You might want to ask yourself if that would be true in your case.
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Is it wrong to want this guy on Lush to violate me and fuck me?
thanks xx
Wasn't it just last week JBS, that you made mention of some random stranger who had stated he wished to violate you, after a few moments of chatting, and you had objected...drawing sympathy, evoking outrage and gaining traction with a few of the indecently decent folks of Lush?
There is a line you may be tip-toeing across. But it may not be one you're thinking about.
For the purpose of replying to this post of yours - I say, give in to your inner desires and go for it. You only live once and you may as well develop the same regrets as everyone else.
Report back to us your findings.
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You need to communicate with your husband. You need to tell him exactly what you want him to do and if he can or won't then and only then seek it outside the marriage.
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Is it wrong to want this guy on Lush to violate me and fuck me? I would never have an affair because I love my hubby dearly, but I have these amazin thoughts of being unfaithful - just once!!! Is it wrong?
It's not wrong to have those kind of thoughts. It's only wrong to act on them if you know it will hurt your husband. He deserves the chance to do something about the situation before you make a decision on your own that affects both of you. If you're tempted to stray it generally means there's something missing in your marriage. You're not going to find out what that is by turning to another man. You're better off dealing with the problems you have rather than going out to find more. It'll only further complicate your life.
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I have been married to the only guy I have ever slept with for 11 years and altho we have sex as often as we can - it is infrequent and we can go months
He has the patience of a saint and until recently it has not bothered me either.
since finding and joining Lush I have been getting aroused on a daily basis and have gotten quite close to one guy who has expressed a real desire to fuck me. My hubby has Never fucked me, we always make love or just go through the motions (as it were) and whilst I think it would be nice to just be fucked I'm not sure I want my hubby to do it.
Is it wrong to want this guy on Lush to violate me and fuck me? I would never have an affair because I love my hubby dearly, but I have these amazin thoughts of being unfaithful - just once!!! Is it wrong?
I'd love to know what the rest of u think about this I bow to your thoughts on this subject
thanks xx
Several question here first, one, how is it that in elven year you and your husband have never fucked? What is your definition of fucking then, it is something that is hard and fast or what is it to you?
Two, why is your sex so infrequent and how long has it been like this?
Three, if you want to be fucked, and you love your husband, why are you not sure you want him to do it. To me that's a red flag right there if you aren't willing to ask your husband who you say you love to fuck you. That tells me there is something missing in your love life, and fucking a stranger isn't going to fix it. There is something that must be worked out between you and your man.
That all being said now, why ask us if we think it is wrong, because in the end you are the only one who can say what is right and wrong in your heart. Personally I don't say it is wrong to have the fantasy, it's only when you cross that line and start really making plans with this guy to go have sex with him, even if it is just to be one time. By the way, it will not be just once, sex and fucking is like potato chips, you can't have it just once. You'll go back and say, okay, this is the last time, over and over again. Once that start happening, the second that starts, you'll enter into an area that from how you say you love your husband you'll wish you had never stepped into. You sound torn already and the guilt would eat you alive. And if you truly love your husband, you'd tell him your cheated on him, even if it is just once. Cheating on him would only rip your lives apart, and he may just end up leaving you. But if he did mange to forgive you, he'd never truly trust you ever again, as someone who's been cheated on you'll have to take my word at this.
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Please read this I too had only been with my hubby. You are headed down the same road I was going. I think your question is more asking is it ok to cheat. I was cheated on and let me tell you it just isn't something to take lightly. You have been fuck. You said you go through the motions. That is fucking. I think what you want to be taking charge of and have sex like you did years ago. Well dear unless you can talk to hubby your in a rut. Let me be frank, is having a few minutes of sex worth your life. A big mistake commonly made is he will wear a condem. Condoms only REDUCE the risk. You can still get herpes (hpv) which causes CANCER. I worked on a floor and I seen the deviation it can cause. A 14 old wished someone would have told her the truth about condemns. She is now fighting for her life.
Am I preaching no. I'm trying to get you to look at your marriage. Communication is the biggest way to win this battle. Tell your husband about your desire. Role play. Pretend to be strangers. I also think you are naive like me. I believed in a guy here and got a bit smitten with him. It didn't end well. We no longer speak and if I'm in a chat room he leaves. A few are here, NOT. ALL, People on here are completely different from what they truely are. We are free here not to be judged. I bet if you talked with your hubby he might be into it. We all in lows in our sex lives and 90 percent it's either communication or a physical problem. Some Guys on here Tell you what you want to hear. Don't fall for it. I make a rule never to make a "connection" with someone close to where i live.
What if this dude could be a criminal or worse. Is it worth your life. Here is some things I done. I left lush for a while. I might read a story but stopped talking. I took a hard look at my life. My husband cheated on me. It hurts like hell. It's not something I can forgive him for. The simple fact is we didnt communicate. Marriage is 50/50. If you ate here talking to this guy you aren't giving your marriage enough attention. I came here for answers. I found some wonderful men to help me and answer my questions. My husband regrets what he done because he sees that I wanted to work things out but he crossed the line. Marriages are fragile. And no it's not ok to seek a man to fuck. Cheating is cheating. Once you cross that line you can never go back. Please take my advice and learn from my mistakes. Talk to your husband. Share stories on here that you like. It can give you some ideas to help you to get creative. Let me give you something that I done. I told my husband I like to have my hair tugged and gently spanked. He really awakened him but then I found out he cheated. He said if he had known that things may never had to end between us. I miss him alot. I loved him for 21 years and still do. Please don't cheat. I hope this helped.
Am I preaching no. I'm trying to get you to look at your marriage. Communication is the biggest way to win this battle. Tell your husband about your desire. Role play. Pretend to be strangers. I also think you are naive like me. I believed in a guy here and got a bit smitten with him. It didn't end well. We no longer speak and if I'm in a chat room he leaves. A few are here, NOT. ALL, People on here are completely different from what they truely are. We are free here not to be judged. I bet if you talked with your hubby he might be into it. We all in lows in our sex lives and 90 percent it's either communication or a physical problem. Some Guys on here Tell you what you want to hear. Don't fall for it. I make a rule never to make a "connection" with someone close to where i live.
What if this dude could be a criminal or worse. Is it worth your life. Here is some things I done. I left lush for a while. I might read a story but stopped talking. I took a hard look at my life. My husband cheated on me. It hurts like hell. It's not something I can forgive him for. The simple fact is we didnt communicate. Marriage is 50/50. If you ate here talking to this guy you aren't giving your marriage enough attention. I came here for answers. I found some wonderful men to help me and answer my questions. My husband regrets what he done because he sees that I wanted to work things out but he crossed the line. Marriages are fragile. And no it's not ok to seek a man to fuck. Cheating is cheating. Once you cross that line you can never go back. Please take my advice and learn from my mistakes. Talk to your husband. Share stories on here that you like. It can give you some ideas to help you to get creative. Let me give you something that I done. I told my husband I like to have my hair tugged and gently spanked. He really awakened him but then I found out he cheated. He said if he had known that things may never had to end between us. I miss him alot. I loved him for 21 years and still do. Please don't cheat. I hope this helped.
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Talk to your husband. You never know he may be feeling the same way and wondering why you don't want sex all the time. Introduce him to lush. Let him read some of the stories you've discovered that arose you and see if there is anyway of maybe role playing them if he's up to it.
If you still feel the need to be 'fucked' and cheat on him then make sure your concious can live with the consequences of you know and he doesn't or if you decide to fuck and tell you're prepared for him to be outraged or even leave you. Is that something you want? Or are you really looking to do ths as an out to your marriage as you feel its over and don't know how to get out? In which case you definitely need to talk to your husband.
If you still feel the need to be 'fucked' and cheat on him then make sure your concious can live with the consequences of you know and he doesn't or if you decide to fuck and tell you're prepared for him to be outraged or even leave you. Is that something you want? Or are you really looking to do ths as an out to your marriage as you feel its over and don't know how to get out? In which case you definitely need to talk to your husband.
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Please read this I too had only been with my hubby. You are headed down the same road I was going. I think your question is more asking is it ok to cheat. I was cheated on and let me tell you it just isn't something to take lightly. You have been fuck. You said you go through the motions. That is fucking. I think what you want to be taking charge of and have sex like you did years ago. Well dear unless you can talk to hubby your in a rut. Let me be frank, is having a few minutes of sex worth your life. A big mistake commonly made is he will wear a condem. Condoms only REDUCE the risk. You can still get herpes (hpv) which causes CANCER. I worked on a floor and I seen the deviation it can cause. A 14 old wished someone would have told her the truth about condemns. She is now fighting for her life.
Am I preaching no. I'm trying to get you to look at your marriage. Communication is the biggest way to win this battle. Tell your husband about your desire. Role play. Pretend to be strangers. I also think you are naive like me. I believed in a guy here and got a bit smitten with him. It didn't end well. We no longer speak and if I'm in a chat room he leaves. A few are here, NOT. ALL, People on here are completely different from what they truely are. We are free here not to be judged. I bet if you talked with your hubby he might be into it. We all in lows in our sex lives and 90 percent it's either communication or a physical problem. Some Guys on here Tell you what you want to hear. Don't fall for it. I make a rule never to make a "connection" with someone close to where i live.
What if this dude could be a criminal or worse. Is it worth your life. Here is some things I done. I left lush for a while. I might read a story but stopped talking. I took a hard look at my life. My husband cheated on me. It hurts like hell. It's not something I can forgive him for. The simple fact is we didnt communicate. Marriage is 50/50. If you ate here talking to this guy you aren't giving your marriage enough attention. I came here for answers. I found some wonderful men to help me and answer my questions. My husband regrets what he done because he sees that I wanted to work things out but he crossed the line. Marriages are fragile. And no it's not ok to seek a man to fuck. Cheating is cheating. Once you cross that line you can never go back. Please take my advice and learn from my mistakes. Talk to your husband. Share stories on here that you like. It can give you some ideas to help you to get creative. Let me give you something that I done. I told my husband I like to have my hair tugged and gently spanked. He really awakened him but then I found out he cheated. He said if he had known that things may never had to end between us. I miss him alot. I loved him for 21 years and still do. Please don't cheat. I hope this helped.
thank u so much for the advice it is something I will take into account
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