What should I do?

4 Jul 2011

Depends, obviously you know her pretty well otherwise you wouldn't be talking about marriage. How do you think she would take it? If she'd freak out no, keep it to yourself. But, maybe she's harboring some ménage fantasies, a lot of girls do. My point is if your thinking about marriage you should know her well enough that you'd know how she'd take a confession like this. Besides if she really loves you, it won't matter. A good way to break the ice, ask her sexually what's the craziest thing she's ever done.

4 Jul 2011

I wouldn't actively keep that as a secret. If the right time comes along, I suggest you tell her. Everyone is different, but that kind of info wouldn't bother me at all. As ForbiddenEden said, it could play into her own fantasies. You never know.

4 Jul 2011

i like bi guys, so yes!

4 Jul 2011

Heh, you like guys, she likes guys, what's the issue? Spill.

The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.

4 Jul 2011

Tell her but tell her gently and make it absolutely clear so she doesnt think that you're coming out of the closet to her! LOL
Just say that you love her more than anything else in the world, and tell her that you've had quite an interesting sex life in the past and have had sexual encounters with both women and a man. Tell her not to worry, that you have been checked out and are completely free from everything, and that you just wanted her to know because you love her and want her to know every part of your past!

You must give up the life that you had planned, in order to live the life that is waiting for you..

4 Jul 2011

Depends on how sexually open she is. I'm sure you know by now what her thoughts are on bisexuality or guy/guy relationships, even through random conversations on things like gay marriage or college sex-plorations.

If you don't think she can handle it, put that one into the vault and don't mention it.

IF however you feel that you might want to involve guys in the future or that you can't fully put that part of yourself into the past, then you have an obligation to let her know before marriage, in my opinion.

5 Jul 2011

Like most have said, you should try to feel her out to see how she feels about a guy being with another guy. Maybe it is something that excites her. You didnt say, was it just you and guy or as part of threesome with a girl. She may see that is being very different. I do, as part of threesome its kinda of a turn on. But she knows you have had an active sex life so maybe she can handle it, I mean if she really loves you...................!

But if you choose not to tell, be ready for the ramifications if someday your secret comes out as these things always somehow seem to do. If I was to find out something like this later on, I would not be very happy. Not about what it was, but the fact that you didnt trust me enough to tell me.

6 Jul 2011

Quote by TommyTom
Ladies,

I am with a girl I love who knows I played around a lot before we got together - should I admit to her I've been with a guy? I love this girl and want to marry her - furthermore I have had tests and am free from any STDs ...

Would you want to know?

C

Quote by TommyTom
I love my girlfriend and want to marry her but at least twice in the past she was in a relationship with a guy who had a fiancee or a wife.

FOr six months she was with a married guy although in fairness I think she was taken advantage of as she was 19 and he was 32 and her boss. SHe ended both relationships and was single for a year before meeting me ...

Am I right to trust her?

C

Quote by TommyTom
What do you guys think?

I have a girl who I love very much and wish to marry BUT before we were engaged I got drunk and a girl I used to see kissed me and sucked my cock - I left before we had full sex but wonder if I should tell my future wife?

Also - before we were officially dating, I fucked another girl as felt horny and she wasn't around.

Have now cut off all contact with both of these otheer girls. Should I keep quiet about these experiences or fess up and see what she thinks?

Chris

Reading all those posts all i can say is do you really think you have a healthy relationship? i mean you have cheated, but dont trust her because she have been with married guys and you have lie to her about been with guys... do you really think a strong marriage can come from all this mess?

6 Jul 2011

Gotta agree with Foxy, sounds like this might be something you aren't ready for.

6 Jul 2011

Superb catch, Foxy!

Trainwreck meet Chris.

The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.

6 Jul 2011

Quote by WellMadeMale
Superb catch, Foxy!

Trainwreck meet Chris.

More Like "Trainwreck, Meet Trainwreck". Personally I Think They Were Made For Each Other. Only Question Is Which One Will Cheat At The Wedding Reception!!

Maybe Single Life Is Best For You Both.......................Or Maybe Open Marriage. But Then Why Marry?

6 Jul 2011

Quote by latinfoxy
Quote by TommyTom
Ladies,

I am with a girl I love who knows I played around a lot before we got together - should I admit to her I've been with a guy? I love this girl and want to marry her - furthermore I have had tests and am free from any STDs ...

Would you want to know?

C

Quote by TommyTom
I love my girlfriend and want to marry her but at least twice in the past she was in a relationship with a guy who had a fiancee or a wife.

FOr six months she was with a married guy although in fairness I think she was taken advantage of as she was 19 and he was 32 and her boss. SHe ended both relationships and was single for a year before meeting me ...

Am I right to trust her?

C

Quote by TommyTom
What do you guys think?

I have a girl who I love very much and wish to marry BUT before we were engaged I got drunk and a girl I used to see kissed me and sucked my cock - I left before we had full sex but wonder if I should tell my future wife?

Also - before we were officially dating, I fucked another girl as felt horny and she wasn't around.

Have now cut off all contact with both of these otheer girls. Should I keep quiet about these experiences or fess up and see what she thinks?

Chris

Reading all those posts all i can say is do you really think you have a healthy relationship? i mean you have cheated, but dont trust her because she have been with married guys and you have lie to her about been with guys... do you really think a strong marriage can come from all this mess?

You know, I'd started to put this together too but didn't bother with the homework. I just answered each question as it's own. Seeing them all together I feel the need to say something.
This doesn't sound like it's healthy from your end. You sound far from ready to be married. So back that train up.
I need to ammend my previous advise. My advise was... Don't tell her about the other girls, you should tell her about the guy, and stop obsessing about her previous relationships.
You need to accept the past. You both have one. It's not like either of you were born yesterday. You have gone through things that shaped you into the people you value today. You two need to have a long talk, actually, a series of them. You need to come at this relationship as adults with care, respect, acceptance, and understanding. You two really need to grow as a couple and maybe letting all of the skeletons out will help with that.. so far it seems you lack some serious honesty here. My relationship with MK is completely honest. We know neither of us are saints. We share the bad stuff too, not just the things that make us look good or seem desireable. We are very understanding and accepting with one another. You need to have that to have a good foundation.
How can you claim to love her when it sounds like she doesn't really know you, flaws and all, and you can't seem to truely accpet her? Start with the basics and move from there.

Are you sure?