Can a GUY hitch-hike on THIS THREAD???
CONFIDENCE is a weird concept...
It's CERTAINLY a CORE-ELEMENT in any kind of ATTRACTION in the way we're discussing. (I'd go so far as to say it's the most important element. I'm talking about SELF-CONFIDENCE. Now, self-confidence IS NOT the ability to walk into a room accompanied by FLASH BANGS AND FIREWORKS AND PAPER STREAMERS FALLING FROM THE ROOF!!!) If it WAS, cocaine would be not only legal but MANDATORY...
Self-Confidence is SOMETHING ELSE.
It's a QUIET DIGNIFIED ASSURANCE. It's KNOWING that you are comfortable with yourself and realizing that some people might CONNECT with that while some simply won't. It's about not being particularly bothered by that. It's ELEGANT.
Confidence is COOL in the very essence of that word. (Don't be over-heated!!!)
Confidence is something you can't learn or can't teach. (You can only EARN it.) Confidence CANNOT be faked!!! (Unless you work in The Media. Or use cocaine. Same thing, really...)
Confidence makes you like yourself more, it makes you sexier, it makes your interest in other people excite them.
What makes YOU FEEL CONFIDENT is a certain pride in what you know you can SPECIALLY do, other people's appreciation of that fact, the regard and love of those who tell you that you are amazing, being loved, thinking that given what you've got you look good, taking pride in your appearance, being creative in a way that ONLY YOU CAN DO AND KNOWING THAT, acknowledging the different gifts of others and respecting that, NEVER THINKING YOU ARE BETTER THAN ANYONE ELSE, knowing that you are not worse than anyone else, being as honest as you can be with yourself and everyone you deal with, knowing that you are not perfect, knowing you're doing the best you can. Daring to be perhaps A LITTLE different in your own way. Being proud of yourself no matter the trials. NOT LETTING THE SHIT GET TO YOU! Not giving other people any shit. (Even the nasty ones. Let it go. THEY are beneath you, God Love Them.)
Confidence is about doing the difficult thing NOW instead of putting it off. (It'll hurt less than you think.) Confidence is about UNDERSTANDING what you did and WHY. (And fixing that if necessary.)
(Confidence is, rather oddly, saying ALL OF THAT and then admitting that I'm NOWHERE EVEN CLOSE!!!)
But... I'm confident enough to admit that to you beautiful fuckers... (And I'm getting there with your help...)
xx SF