I haven't had what I would call an "affair" with a married men, but I have slept with 3 married men. These were purely just sex...I never viewed them as relationships/boyfriends or anything with potential. One was a one night stand with a man who was in town on business. The other two were men I would just see every once in a while.
They were great experiences for me because they were all at times in my life when I wasn't looking for a relationship because I was too preoccupied with work and other things. It was a great way to fill my sexual needs while not taking my focus off of other parts of my life.
For the record, I didn't chase or pursue any of these men. Two I met online, and the third I met out one evening and there was just an instant mutual attraction. In all cases, the sex was fantastic...part of it may have been the whole forbidden fruit thing.
Out of curiosity, I asked two of them why they cheated. Both spoke very highly of their wives...claimed to love them. One said that after you are together for so long, you just want somebody new once in a while for excitement. The other said his wife is preoccupied with kids, etc. and they don't have sex as often as he would like.
I think it is just human nature. Most people in long term relationships eventually cheat...if not physically, then definitely mentally.
None, and I hope I never get any from either perspective,
Some people thrive on the rush, but for most women, jumping into an affair is hard. Usually it's when things become either too boring or too unbearable at home that things happen. I once sent one of my most trusted friends out of my life rather than face up to the feelings that were growing between us. I was trying to keep it from becoming an affair, but to this day, I wonder if I did the right thing ….
He was probably the only one I would have seriously thought about leaving my husband for; but sending my closest friend and advisor (who was going through a lot of the same crap I was at the time) away made life that more unbearable for both us. My first sexual adventure (more of a one time fling with a friend than an affair) happened about six months later …
It was good, but not with the person I really wished for. < sigh > That was 15 years ago, and I still wonder if we weren’t brought together at that particular place and time for a reason … The “New Life” series explores my fantasies about what might happen if we did get together again
I have a lot of fantasies, and Lush gives me an outlet to explore them without the guilt of an affair. That, and I love teasing the guys ;)
Even though most end badly, they have been well worth it for me. I have been married 3 times but my three best lovers were all affairs outside of my marriages, and I am still seeing one of those 3. You have to be willing to experience the down side and see that the upside outweighs the negative.
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Have had a number of affairs. Mainly due to the lack of sex at home. Had one with a lady 17 years younger than me. It was 7 months of good sex. The only woman that I have been with that wanted anal sex. On the downside her desire for oral sex was not as high as mine. Yes she liked oral but not really into 69 ing.
We used to fuck for hours and I managed to go a lot longer before cumming with her than any other woman that I had sex with
I have had three long term relationships (hate the word affairs) all were amazing.
and all ended mutually
The first time I fucked a married man was not my fault. A gf tied me up then let a married guy do me. I've had a couple of one night stands with guys I didn't know we're married until later. The only other married guys I've done is the guys in my office but it's just sex ... Not an affair.
do casual fucks with either sex count as an affair?? then I ve had a few
Hello. I'm Holly and was told by the welcoming lady to visit the forums and introduce myself. I picked this at random because it looked interesting.
No, I have never had an affair with a married man that I know of. Married men are off limits in my book. A vow is a vow. Simple.