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I have rarely watched it.
I like the one that plays out in my own head.
I second this. I used to watch it some, with girls and guys, and it doesn't offend me if it's on somewhere where I am, but I can't help but hold porn responsible for so many guys having a skewed idea of how to treat women in bed.
Like I was telling a friend of mine (wink) the other day, if I had a dollar for every 'porn move' that's been attempted/performed on me and other gals I've talked to....let's just say I'd be drinking better champagne from time to time...
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although I've never had a guy treat me or any friends like they do in porns.
The sad part is that it's never malicious or a power play. A lot of guys out there just had nothing or no one else to educate them on sex, so that's their example, and they think what they see is something to aspire to.
At times, it's just frustrating and I've been able to *redirect* my partner appropriately. In a worst-case scenario, he got thrown out immediately(if you knew what he did, you would understand why. Perhaps you can already guess...).
Not all, or even most, guys are like this. But, I would assert that a wide knowledge of positions and 'kinky' maneuvers does not a sensual partner's education make.
Lia
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Porn is just fantasy...meant to whet the sexual appetite in my opinion. It is sad that many boys out there think these are "how-to" videos. Good thing the real men know the difference between fact/fiction.
Cookies And Lemonade - a short story about a reporter who gets an unforgettable story when he interviews a 1940s actor.
Titty, Clitty Gangbang - a microfiction with a restriction...lol.
The Party Line - a naive college grad in the '60s stumbles upon an erotic conversation.
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Porn is just fantasy...meant to whet the sexual appetite in my opinion. It is sad that many boys out there think these are "how-to" videos. Good thing the real men know the difference between fact/fiction.
Here here!!....Real men Spank!......lol
"Love all, trust a few, and do wrong to none."
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Porn is just fantasy...meant to whet the sexual appetite in my opinion. It is sad that many boys out there think these are "how-to" videos. Good thing the real men know the difference between fact/fiction.
Here here!!....Real men Spank!......lol
Mmmm-hmmm!
Cookies And Lemonade - a short story about a reporter who gets an unforgettable story when he interviews a 1940s actor.
Titty, Clitty Gangbang - a microfiction with a restriction...lol.
The Party Line - a naive college grad in the '60s stumbles upon an erotic conversation.
I see a lot of porn, including vids. Any kinkiness that's taken from it is discussed with Tech. If we both like something, we'll try it. It comes right back to communication between the partners. Yes, some moves are crazy and are only done for the benefit of the camera. I'm wondering what kind of "porn moves" you're talking about, julia. Just curious.
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I'm wondering what kind of "porn moves" you're talking about, julia. Just curious.
Let me preface all of this with the fact that any or all of this is perfectly appropriate and erotic if a guy has a conversation, permission, or anything resembling a good feeling that it will go over well with his partner. Also, one's trash is another's treasure; there may be things I mention here that some women love the most. To each his/her own.
When I talk about 'porn moves', it's not just about the physical positions they attempt, but also the attitude. A lot of guys, who otherwise aren't overly macho at all, suddenly start going aggro, ordering girls around like they're....well...directing a video, trying to martial us through a series of moves. It's very wierd, rote, and inconsiderate.
Then there's the issue of 'talk'. This one's a little more nuanced, because there are really no hard/fast rules, but I can say this: the best partners I've had didn't need any encouragement to 'talk' during sex, nor did they just start talking dirty out of nowhere when the vibe just wasn't conducive to that. When it comes out of nowhere, as if it's an expected prerequisite for sex, it's awkward and a major turnoff. I'll say again, talk during sex, no matter how 'dirty' is damn sexy when it fits the mood, but when it doesn't...yikes.
Which brings us to 'the moves' themselves. For starters, there's the position (and I admit ignorance to the actual name) where we're both standing, he's thrusting into me from behind. Then suddenly he tries to lift one of my legs (like I'm a peeing dog...) and then continues thrusting like that....it's not more pleasurable from me, it threatens to knock me off balance (and has in one case), in fact sometimes it's a bad angle and hurts, and smacks of a vivid video education.
Or, to keep it in the theme of doing it from behind, how about when I'm on my knees, and we're having it doggie-style. Everything's pleasurable, then suddenly he's got to shake it up, porn style. The thrusting stops, and he's now bringing himself up on his feet, crouching over my ass, trying (often in vain) to try to keep himself inserted as he crouches above me, trying to thrust down. Only, he gets tired quickly anyway, it's not hot, and again, is just something from his mental porn notes.
How about doggie-style sex, then he decides that it's a good idea to transition, without warning, discussion, or preparation, to anal sex? Because, as all you ladies know, you can just press hard into our ass and lubrication will be no problem, and it will feel great, right? wrong!
Sometimes when guys are taking me from behind, they like to slap their dick on me, like I'm going to get revved up by that. Why do guys do this? Is there any reason to do this other than that it seems macho and pornstar-like?
During a blow-job, some guys get indignant that I'm not taking their entire shaft down my throat. Now, I'm sure there are plenty of ladies out there who can do this effortlessly. However, I'm not one of them, and if that's what defines satisfactory oral sex to you, there are plenty of gals in the phone book who can make this happen for you. However, it's not comfortable or sexy to have you try to FORCE MY HEAD down on your shaft! Additional pounds of force won't solve this problem, John Holmes. If you have suggestions, let's talk about it, but I'm not going to suck you into my trachea on the spur of the moment via force of hand. Unless of course, you'd like my dinner and drinks to be deposited on your lap.
I even had a guy gesture me down to the floor, legs up, to try and do the piledriver on me. Again, with no discussion, only some many growling and force. Nothing seems more potentially less comfortable, painful even, than spur-of-the-moment, pointing your dick in the wrong direction sex, with my neck on the verge of sprain, bent forward against the floor.
Which brings us to the tour-de-force porn move, the move that got a guy thrown out of my apartment, with me screaming at him, throwing his personal items at him through the door:
The Facial.
Never, ever.....ever....do this without talking about it first! Actually, guys generally ought not unload on a woman's body without warning anywhere, but the a surprise attack on the face is completely unacceptable. Yet, some toolbox thought it would be mucho-sexy if he pulled out of me, gripped my hair, and shot his load directly onto my face. I can't describe how angry this made me. I'm getting angry again just thinking about it. A classic porn move, erotic in the pretend-sex, mom's basement porn world, but incredibly inconsiderate, degrading, and just plain unpleasant in real life.
If the partnership, communication, and moment is right, there's literally nothing that's off limits. It's all about communicating, both verbally and sensually. Guys without a lot of experience and a sexual education provided solely by their frat brothers and Hustler Video are cooking with a recipe for intimacy disaster.
But, that's just my opinion on the matter.
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I do like to watch porns don't get me wrong.....but sometimes guys as well as girls take it as real life and IMHO.....sex is not always like that.....
OMG thank you for getting all that out Julia.......and I am in total agreement with you....
"How about doggie-style sex, then he decides that it's a good idea to transition, without warning, discussion, or preparation, to anal sex? Because, as all you ladies know, you can just press hard into our ass and lubrication will be no problem, and it will feel great, right? wrong! "
Some guys just don't have a clue....I can't express enough that TALKING ABOUT IT IS KEY!!!
"However, it's not comfortable or sexy to have you try to FORCE MY HEAD down on your shaft! Additional pounds of force won't solve this problem, John Holmes. If you have suggestions, let's talk about it, but I'm not going to suck you into my trachea on the spur of the moment via force of hand. Unless of course, you'd like my dinner and drinks to be deposited on your lap. "
THANK YOU!!!!
"The Facial.
Never, ever.....ever....do this without talking about it first! Actually, guys generally ought not unload on a woman's body without warning anywhere, but the a surprise attack on the face is completely unacceptable."
This has never happened to me because I would have kicked his ass before I would of kick him out......UGH!!
"If the partnership, communication, and moment is right, there's literally nothing that's off limits. It's all about communicating, both verbally and sensually. Guys without a lot of experience and a sexual education provided solely by their frat brothers and Hustler Video are cooking with a recipe for intimacy disaster. "
THANK YOU X 10............
OMG thank you for getting all that out Julia.......and I am in total agreement with you....
"How about doggie-style sex, then he decides that it's a good idea to transition, without warning, discussion, or preparation, to anal sex? Because, as all you ladies know, you can just press hard into our ass and lubrication will be no problem, and it will feel great, right? wrong! "
Some guys just don't have a clue....I can't express enough that TALKING ABOUT IT IS KEY!!!
"However, it's not comfortable or sexy to have you try to FORCE MY HEAD down on your shaft! Additional pounds of force won't solve this problem, John Holmes. If you have suggestions, let's talk about it, but I'm not going to suck you into my trachea on the spur of the moment via force of hand. Unless of course, you'd like my dinner and drinks to be deposited on your lap. "
THANK YOU!!!!
"The Facial.
Never, ever.....ever....do this without talking about it first! Actually, guys generally ought not unload on a woman's body without warning anywhere, but the a surprise attack on the face is completely unacceptable."
This has never happened to me because I would have kicked his ass before I would of kick him out......UGH!!
"If the partnership, communication, and moment is right, there's literally nothing that's off limits. It's all about communicating, both verbally and sensually. Guys without a lot of experience and a sexual education provided solely by their frat brothers and Hustler Video are cooking with a recipe for intimacy disaster. "
THANK YOU X 10............
"Love all, trust a few, and do wrong to none."
Really haven't been exposed so I am abstaining. (At least i showed up to vote.)
I can see why from Julia's extensive response that women would dislike porn.
And I always just thought women did not watch as it was degrading (which is what you were saying, in a lot of cases) and exploitative.
But I guess a lot more women than i ever imagined do watch.
I would follow this up to ask - do you watch it alone, of your own volition, or because he likes to and you figure it is better enjoyed together?
I can see why from Julia's extensive response that women would dislike porn.
And I always just thought women did not watch as it was degrading (which is what you were saying, in a lot of cases) and exploitative.
But I guess a lot more women than i ever imagined do watch.
I would follow this up to ask - do you watch it alone, of your own volition, or because he likes to and you figure it is better enjoyed together?
I never really found myself watching it alone, but then again it wasn't always a 'favor' to guys either. It's generally been, if not everywhere, then just 'around' ever since I got to college. Sometimes it was on ironically, and sometimes we'd look it up on the internet out of curiosity, both with girls and with guys.
By far the best, of course, is to watch it with a guy you want to be with. As long as it's an aid, not a handbook. Luckily, most guys know the difference, especially as they (and I) get older.
Lia
By far the best, of course, is to watch it with a guy you want to be with. As long as it's an aid, not a handbook. Luckily, most guys know the difference, especially as they (and I) get older.
Lia
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I think I've never watched porn with anyone. I know it's a directed movie, even the jism is sometimes fake, so I just enjoy it as a movie. At the same time points Lia brought up are valid; there are guys who learn everything about sex from porn which gets painful in the real life LOL. Especially this deepthroating after dinner and anal sex without the lube... holy shizzle!
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I want to thank everyone for their responses.
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I'm a lesbian that likes Lesbian Porn. Go figgure. LOL I mostly like very loving lesbian movies, not the raunchie kind. They inspire Melly and I. (blush) LOL
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Yes
Cookies And Lemonade - a short story about a reporter who gets an unforgettable story when he interviews a 1940s actor.
Titty, Clitty Gangbang - a microfiction with a restriction...lol.
The Party Line - a naive college grad in the '60s stumbles upon an erotic conversation.
Advanced Wordsmith
Yes. If I can't relate to what is going on it looses me. I consider mself submissive, but I don't like mean. It is very hard to find submisive lesbian movies that arn't way over the top. 
At the risk of losing a potential fan-in-fantasy someday, if I ever had one.....I will confess that I see no fun, arousal or interest in hurtig someone, or playing at it. I don't know how men force themselves on women (lots of anger that I have obviously never felt) and are erect....and if i tried to play the dom in a BDSM role I would ruin it with cracking up, or asking how I was doing.
Then again, I was never an actor or a succesful liar, so with me, what you see is what you get.....and I ain't sayin'!
Then again, I was never an actor or a succesful liar, so with me, what you see is what you get.....and I ain't sayin'!
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