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So yes I'm a Virgin and it is quite frustrating and sometimes feels likes an albatross around my neck but I think some women can tell I'm a virgin and they call me cute which is a little annoying because it's always patronising they just see me as innocent.

The question is though everybody says that my time will come but being realistic what if it doesn't what might I be doing wrong.
Being negative over it will not help you. How do you approach women you are interested in?
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Being negative over it will not help you. How do you approach women you are interested in?


I'm usually quite positive about most things but most of the women I've been interested I've approached them we hit it off and I don't try to rush anything so I enjoy getting to know them then things either fizzle out and that's it or I just end up in the friend zone. I think part of the problem is I don't want a gf I haven't got the time to dedicate to someone it wouldn't be fair but a one night stand I don't think I could do.
That's a right rubbish situation you got there mate. I mean, if not a girlfriend or a night on the pull, are you looking for a special friend?
Being stressed about not losing your virginity is a sure way not to lose your virginity.

Just relax. Stop pressuring yourself, and let it happen naturally. Everyone has their time. Take it easy and enjoy it. The more you stress it, the more you'll end up forcing situations that don't need to be forced, and you'll never get the outcome you desire.

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That's a right rubbish situation you got there mate. I mean, if not a girlfriend or a night on the pull, are you looking for a special friend?


That would be the ideal situation to be honest.
Dani, said it pretty solidly. I haven't had any real sex in about a year(not without my fair share of sexual frustrations) but if you force it and beat yourself over the head with the idea, it'll backfire in your face. On a side note, you could try one of those friend finder sites.
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Maybe offer some cheese with your whine.
Don't stress about it. It will happen. If you were l40 or 50 I might tell you to just go get a prostitute and get it over with. But, you look young, so don't stresss. Just curious, have you ever actually asked a woman you're interested in to have sex?
Maybe its because you're a self-confessed nerd. Most nerds don't do well with the ladies. I happen to like nerds, but then I'm different. Look for nerdy girls! ;-)
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Maybe offer some cheese with your whine.
Well, aren't you just a bag of sodding helpful advice.
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Maybe its because you're a self-confessed nerd. Most nerds don't do well with the ladies. I happen to like nerds, but then I'm different. Look for nerdy girls! ;-)


What Bethany said. If it's any consolation I am a bit 'nerdy' and I was 22 before I lost mine. It will happen! My suggestion would be to arrange things so that you are in prolonged close proximity with ('nerdy') girls who are likely to have similar interests... Weekends away at film conventions, join a young persons walking group and go on their trips, things that will give you time to meet a girl and build enough of a relationship with her. (I could never do one night stands either and still wouldn't want to.)

Good luck.

[Oops, sorry, forgot this was 'Ask the girls' - I'm not one, so apologies for jumping in on this thread.]
Don't rush it.i think you have adopted that philosophy anyhow.
There will be a time and a girl that you will believe that the time has arrived and every thing is right.
Don't let the fact she may be experienced deter you. If she is the right one everything will be fine.
The first time may be great and it might be over before you realise it. Don't worry.It does get better with practice so don't concern yourself about the first time.
Lots of other ladies said it already, but hey, what's one more?

Don't rush. It will happen. The big thing is to be yourself. The right lady won't care, she'll probably be honored. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 19, and years later, at 25, I got the V-card, unknowingly, of my then-boyfriend who was your age. It's like guys freaking out about "performance anxiety"... the best way to ensure it's gonna happen is to worry about it. The time will come, and it'll be great.
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