Imagine one day you get a new message on facebook or any social network from a guy you haven´t seen in many years, even decades. (a former school/highschool mate, or somebody who lived close to you, or something like that). Somebody who was just an aquaintance, he never showed romantic interest in you, he was just part of the background of your past.
He says he just wanted to say hello, see how you doing, so he searched you on the internet and came up with your facebook address.
And then, at the end of the massage, at the PD (post signed) line he says "you were my platonic love, I always loved you but I was afraid to tell you".
What would you think about it? Would you answer or just ignore it?
I guess it would depend on what did you think about the guy in particular at that time, but I mean in general.
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Active Ink Slinger
depends on how you felt about them back then.....if u liked them....then why wouldnt you meet up again?
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depends on how you felt about them back then.....if u liked them....then why wouldnt you meet up again?
I agree with that completely. However, if you weren't really interested, this person has just opened up to you about some feelings that they've clearly had for a very long time. They'd be feeling a bit vulnerable so you would have to let them down gently.
This post comes to you from the original and highly disorganised mind of mine...be scared, I certainly am, lol
Alpha Blonde
I would think "aww, that's cute" and then I'd probably write him back a pleasant "hope you're doing well, happy new year etc." message and get back to my day.
Well... unless he was *hot*, however the types of guys that send these messages almost never are.
Well... unless he was *hot*, however the types of guys that send these messages almost never are.
Active Ink Slinger
Depends where you are in your life now I guess. If you have an interest in re-kindling old friendships then return contact, if you don't have that interest, then I would just ignore the message. Random messages are so very commonplace afterall, aren't they ?
Active Ink Slinger
It depends how charitable you are. I think someone who tries to re-connect with an old flame from the past isn't necessarily someone who never ceased to have these feelings for you. That could be troubling and creepy. I wouldn't be surprised if that person just recently went through a break-up or a loss, feels generally lonely and is rather hopeless for the future, so instead turn towards the past. As I said, if you're charitable, maybe strike a conversation, because that person probably needs someone to talk to. If you don't have the time, patience or general personality to take on what could become a burden, then don't do it. Just ignore the message and move on. If you have the time and character, proceed with care, setting clear boundaries.
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I actually had this happen to me once and i also had a HUGE crush on him on high school, so we went out on a date and i remembered why most people dont end up marrying their high school crushes LOL
We had a good time remembering the stupid things we did back then and had a good meal, but in general we had nothing in common. We still talk from time to time.
We had a good time remembering the stupid things we did back then and had a good meal, but in general we had nothing in common. We still talk from time to time.
I did have something similar like this happen to me. He was a guy who sat next to me in English class. I remember him as being a stoner. I was one of the first people he found and sent a friend request to when he joined FB. "I always had a crush on you in HS." "Do you remember the last time I saw you?"
Long creepy story short, he's now blocked on FB.
Addendum: A followup message from him was the first time I ever heard the phrase BDSM.
Long creepy story short, he's now blocked on FB.
Addendum: A followup message from him was the first time I ever heard the phrase BDSM.
Thanks for your answers, it's good to know this actually happens. I sent her this in a bit of an experimental mood, just to see what happened. (no answer so far)
I didn´t want to sound creepy or desperate, just the big "what if" going on. But I guess it's better let the past be past and move on.
I didn´t want to sound creepy or desperate, just the big "what if" going on. But I guess it's better let the past be past and move on.
Constant Gardener
If their greeting comes at the end of the massage, I'd say that you have answered your own question!
That's the cool and uncool thing about these social networks which offer email services to their members. I've had old girlfriends contact me (just to say Hi) and I've answered all of them back, (adopting DDs philosophy...since I'm always on the lookout for the unexpected hottie to drop out of the sky and bean me).
I wrote what I considered to be a friendly 'Hey, how are you, nice to see you again' note to an old girlfriend (from 30 years ago) and sent it to her...hell, seems over a year ago...and she never replied. Probably it a) creeped her out or b) she never checked her FB email? I didn't follow it up with another email or a series of pokes, etc...
What flipped my noodle on MySpace a few years ago, was an email reply from an old college bud I'd shared a dormitory with for a few years (again over 30 years ago). He replied back with a nice note and ended it with:
"Hey...you make 48 look GREAT, and you still have a nice ass...I'd love to see the rest of your package up close and personal, some time."
I knew when I read his profile and saw his photos he'd posted, that Byron was gay. Hell, I suspected as much in 1978-1981.
So, I flirted back, and this time included a photo of myself and my then girlfriend with the assurance that I was flattered, but...strictly hetero.
. Byron was not offended and merely replied cordially. He and I have renewed our tenuous friendship from when we were both young adults.
Have fun with life and technology I say. Friendships are about sharing and easing burdens (at least that's a part of them, imo).
That's the cool and uncool thing about these social networks which offer email services to their members. I've had old girlfriends contact me (just to say Hi) and I've answered all of them back, (adopting DDs philosophy...since I'm always on the lookout for the unexpected hottie to drop out of the sky and bean me).
I wrote what I considered to be a friendly 'Hey, how are you, nice to see you again' note to an old girlfriend (from 30 years ago) and sent it to her...hell, seems over a year ago...and she never replied. Probably it a) creeped her out or b) she never checked her FB email? I didn't follow it up with another email or a series of pokes, etc...
What flipped my noodle on MySpace a few years ago, was an email reply from an old college bud I'd shared a dormitory with for a few years (again over 30 years ago). He replied back with a nice note and ended it with:
"Hey...you make 48 look GREAT, and you still have a nice ass...I'd love to see the rest of your package up close and personal, some time."
I knew when I read his profile and saw his photos he'd posted, that Byron was gay. Hell, I suspected as much in 1978-1981.
So, I flirted back, and this time included a photo of myself and my then girlfriend with the assurance that I was flattered, but...strictly hetero.
. Byron was not offended and merely replied cordially. He and I have renewed our tenuous friendship from when we were both young adults.Have fun with life and technology I say. Friendships are about sharing and easing burdens (at least that's a part of them, imo).
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
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