Swapping partners. Feelings or not?

11 Mar 2011

My wife and I have swapped partners with other couples twice before. In both situations the other woman ended up having more than just sexual feelings for one of us. The first woman had feelings for my wife and the second had feelings for me. In both cases they ended up VERY clingy. Is this pretty common among swingers? It has ruined swinging for us all together. Isn't it suppose to be a fun sexual experience?

11 Mar 2011

Human emotions are difficult if not impossible to control completely. Everyone seems to go into these things with different expectations. That's why swapping and threesomes can be dicey for an established couple.

12 Mar 2011

I can understand that, but if you go into a situation like this you should be doing it in a committed relationship and not in a failing one. We went into the situation looking for a little extra fun and fully discussed things before hand. It seemed as if both couples we were with ended up doing it for different reasons than just a care free sexual experience.

12 Mar 2011

I was into the swinging scene pretty heavily for about 3 yrs. It was always couples but never just a 3some. There were usually between 6-12 couples at any one party. It was obvious that some had developed closer relationships with certain others. I had a few issues with guys getting hung up on me but I was always able to squash it before it got too out of hand. People get involved with swapping or swinging for different reasons. It could be very easy to become emotionally drawn to someone you make love too.

12 Mar 2011

I was into the swinging scene pretty heavily for about 3 yrs. It was always couples but never just a 3some. There were usually between 6-12 couples at any one party. It was obvious that some had developed closer relationships with certain others. I had a few issues with guys getting hung up on me but I was always able to squash it before it got too out of hand. People get involved with swapping or swinging for different reasons. It could be very easy to become emotionally drawn to someone you make love too.

27 Mar 2011

My husband as been sharing me with a few of our male friends for about 4 years now. I do have a very strong emotion connection to our special friends but that connection still does not come close to the love I feel for my husband smile

28 Mar 2011

Quote by Mary69
My husband as been sharing me with a few of our male friends for about 4 years now. I do have a very strong emotion connection to our special friends but that connection still does not come close to the love I feel for my husband

That's the way to do it.....

You and your man are lucky people.....

xx SF

29 Mar 2011

I think the hardest thing with partner swapping is establishing a common understanding, and set boundaries. And even then, as said earlier, human emotions are hard to control and most certainly unpredictable.

I think it is the responsibility of those involved to monitor their emotions, and when lines begin to blur, the situation needs to be re-examined before boundaries are trampled and everything becomes a big mess.

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30 Mar 2011

no i hate swapping partners

8 May 2022

My current roommate and I each have boyfriends, and all 4 of us know that the relationships are fun and probably temporary and sort of on a day-to-day basis - no engagements, no ties, no binds. We have exchanged partners and have had 4somes (both especially during the early days of covid) and have had a blast. We all think it has kept us "young" and alive and enjoying life. But we all know that one of these days, one of us will meet someone ... and not be willing to share or be shared. All's fair -

8 May 2022

I have had similar experiences to Shawnbaby and have had to control a couple of guys who wanted more than their share at a couple of venues. You do have to be careful and control your feelings at times. Lucky for us we found two groups over time that were great to share with and nobody got too possessive. Both groups were well controlled and organised. All every body wanted was to enjoy the experience of another person with similar desires.

Since then we have formed a FWB group of 6 . It works perfectly and we have enjoyed the pleasures with each other for over two years and we are all more than happy with our arrangements.