Quote by Dancing_Doll
The way I see it, people come in three varieties: Dominant, Submissive or a Switch. These roles are applicable to all sexual orientations.
The idea that a guy is "less manly" or "possibly gay" unless he is 100% dominant all the time is kind of laughable to me. Unfortunately it also perpetuates a stereotype that inhibits a lot of guys from exploring their true sexual potential or even feeling comfortable enough to be open with their partners, even just to try something once to see what it's all about.
I guess I don't really translate dom/sub/switch beyond sexual role-play (unless you're in the BDSM lifestyle, which I'm not talking about here), so I wouldn't equate any of those things with how 'manly' they were. It's just a sexual preference/stance. You just try to find a partner that complements whatever you're about.
For me, I wouldn't have any issue with it, but I consider myself a switch (leaning more towards the sub side). My ideal has also always been a very dominant/alpha male but with a very open-minded kink level. I don't see it as anything to do with being 'manly'... just more kinky.
To some, these kinds of things happen. People, right or wrong, have ideals they seek in partners. Some men may think a female with A cups and narrow non-birthing hips to be less "womanly". Society teaches us many things. Some women lose respect for a man receiving anal sex. Some men will lose respect for a woman who gets multiple cumshots on the face. It's our perceptions. Good or bad, we all have them.
Some women like to work out and become body builders. Many men and women find them to be less womanly.
A man who likes to be babied and have a "mother" change his diaper. I think many would find that less than manly, not just kinky. I'm not judging, it's just reality.
I also think this is why so many wealthy/well known men use call girls for their kinks. They don't want to share their darkest fantasies with their wives for fear of being outed and humiliated if they ever divorce.
