If you have a boyfriend or husband, do you mind that he masturbates? How is it possible to convince my partner to accept this habit of mine...or do I just accept doing it in secret, even though she does know?
I knew long before we dated that my boyfriend masturbated and looked at porn often. doesn't bother me.
what does bother me is when he says "oh I don't do that anymore, you're all I need"... and then I find something on his computer that proves otherwise.
so I would say don't sneak around. the masturbation is fine, it's the lying that pisses me off.
Hmm that one's not one I can really give advice over. I manage to bring up masturbation on the first date at least, more so because I do it so often, not because I'm worried about whether or not they do it.
I agree with the comments that have been said. You are wasting your time with him.
I would have cut and run a long time back..
You deserver better than to be his maid
I had a boyfriend who i caught masturbating. I just sat with him and told him I wanted to watch him finish. He would do it from time to time in front of me. I thought it was very sexy.
Its fine by me as I'm not going to stop doing it either!
As you long as you dont lie about it, or prefer masturbation to being with her then its all good.
And, Ling, I agree with everybody else, you deserve better from a partner
For me the only time that masturbation is a problem is when it gets in the way of your sex life. If your satisfying yourself and then dont feel the need for sex, thats an issue
I love watching a guy get off, as long as I'm getting mine then I could care less about him jerking it. If he tries to hide the fact that would piss me off...
not a problem as long as it doesn't interfere with our sex life. i masturbate often and both of enjoy watching the other .... it's exciting to see the other caught up in the joy of sexual pleasure - just being able to watch is exciting. i love cleaning his cock after he's climaxed just as he enjoys cleaning my pussy.
I either, or both want to masturbate, then make it a part of your foreplay/afterplay! The only time I can see flying solo is when there is a significant separation, due to travel/illness. By making part of your total sex life can add spice to it. I love to masturbate for my girlfriend as well as watch her. I think there is nothing more beautiful than watching a woman masturbate and cumming! ((Hopefully, it will be about me))!
What the heck guy doesn't masturbate? If a woman expects a guy not to masturbate she's kidding herself. Funny when I catch the hubby he still jumps even though he gets the same offer from me every time: Would you like to be sucked off or like a little privacy? I love watching him jerk that thing and sometimes he likes me to put on a little show for him too! Ask her if she wants to watch and ask to watch her till you're both comfortable.
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Bunny Rabbits cute and fuzzy they want to love you but they have razor sharp teeth - don't piss them off! If he's masturbating instead of having sex with me, that would bother me a lot. I don't want to be neglected in favor of his imagination or porn.
I have a pretty high sex drive. I'd rather want him feeding me that cum than wasting it. Every woman (and man) is different regarding their sex drives. I would say in general terms however, men have sex drives (especially younger) that are stronger than most women. Myself, it isn't just the sex drive (first thing in the morning, before work! LOVE IT!!), but also the quality which for me, is more than just the physical aspects of sex. Just me spouting off...