WellMadeMale -
Without going into too much detail.... it's getting rather late and my brain is beginning to turn to mush (more so than it usually is anyway!)
I simply meant that I don't need someone with money, I understand money playing more of a part in one's choice of a partner if you are looking to build a life with someone - but, and forgive me for sounding immature and naive about it, I'm 18....I'm not looking to settle down, I don't need someone who I can rely on to pay the bills, all I want is nice, easy going company with a bit of bedroom skills.
I guess I find it a bit...I don't know exactly what the word is...but us women seem to spend an awful lot of time complaining about how the world is biased towards men, how we're seen as the weaker sex....and indeed, women in the recent past have put a hell of a lot of work in to try and balance the scales with regards to the equality of sexes.. of course, they have separate sport events for men and women - I don't mean on that sort of level..
But I mean, for instance, where cokeheadbarbie describes how she feels it would be 'embarrassing' to be seen reaching for her own purse....I wouldn't personally see it that way, I wouldn't find anything embarrassing about being with a guy for his personality and being successful enough (financially) to be able to dip into my own purse in the first place.
I don't like it when you have men that are 'stingey'....ie, they have money but won't spend a bit of it - no, not on presents and the likes...but on things like I mentioned earlier: splitting the travelling costs of seeing each other, etc etc. That's the sort of thing I won't stand for.
An ex of mine wasn't particularly well off, newly moved out of home, finding it a little bit difficult to juggle all the bills and responsibilities...there were times when I'd done a fair bit of work and had enough money to buy us both dinner when he was a bit skint, and times when I was a bit skint that he'd have enough to buy us both dinner (or whatever).
...Personally I don't see anything wrong with that. I don't consider myself to have 'low standards' for choosing to be with a guy I really get on with who isn't rolling in money.
Plain old growing pains or plain survival, be it emotional or physically important is whoring?
For me, the word whore describes a person who chooses to get through whatever without scruples and who is immoral without concern for anything but themselves. Whore does not describe a man stuck in a dead end job to take care of his own or a woman selling the only thing she believes is of worth to do ultimately the same.
It's important for me to know that I am not a whore even though I've made a lot of mistakes in my life to survive and because I was ignorant. The things that I and others have learned in this struggle are precious to me and not whoredom.
Some are not born with nobility but earn this and die with it. I believe LadyX and I and most are those people.
For the subject, I've thought about selling my body more times than I'd like to admit but could not bring myself to do it even though I was desperate. I did not do it I'm sure because I was selfish and couldn't bring myself to it even to feed my children. I did beg, steal and lie.
Torture the data long enough and they will confess to anything.
I haven't done it nor been in a situation to be offered. But I think that it should be legalized here in the USA. In fact escorts, etc. should pay taxes, have to get a business license, be zoned and be required to get regular medical check ups. It would just make good sense. Enough with the religious prudishness. And good heavens, our government, being in enormous debt, needs the tax revenue!!!! It would be much safer that way for all involved also!
I do, and if anyone wants to judge then so be it...i need the money and sex does not bother me at all
I never have and no way I ever could. What people do is their business but I just would not be able to do something like that.
OK, I know this is "ask the girls" but hey, guys get offers to have sex for money, too. I've had several in my life, if you count things that aren't necessarily "sex" but are very sexual.
The first was I was offered $50 from my male choir teacher (who was openly gay - as if he could have hidden it) to mow his lawn shirtless. I'm sure he had more in mind afterward. He got a big no from me, but other guys I know at least mowed the lawn.
The second time I was offered money for sex was kind of weird. The girl was an ex-girlfriend who needed a ride to go see a new boyfriend, and offered to pay me for the ride in sex. I declined, I was done with her, so she offered me money. I still declined, so she offered me money and sex. I still declined, and told her never to call me again (I was really, really done and not wanting to go back). So then she offered me money and sex, and sex when she got back, whenever I wanted it, no strings attached. I told her she was pathetic and hung up on her. Surprisingly, we did become friends again years later, but she had matured by then, and we were co-workers so we had to get along.
The third time was from a single mother my own age when I was in college. She made several plays on me but I always resisted because, frankly, I didn't think she was a very good mother. Too bad, too, because she was otherwise smart, fun, and very pretty. I just couldn't wrap my head around the way she almost non-parented her daughter. She came on to me many times before she finally actually offered to pay me. When I declined she even offered to bring her equally pretty girl-friend in for a 3-some, even indicating she would have to pay her as well. I felt bad, the girl was clearly in love and lust and desperate even though she really could easily have gotten other men, but I couldn't get around the idea that she could get pregnant and then it would be my child with a bad mother. So it was a no go, two women, money, and all.
The fourth time I was offered money for sex I happily accepted it because I was actually in love with her, and wanted her real bad. And she was a stripper and she had admitted to turning a few tricks, so I figured she wanted it to be professional for now and if that's what it took for her to get past the intimacy barrier so be it. I had met her at her little sister's birthday party tagging along with a friend and didn't even know she was a stripper until he, at her urging, brought me to see her at the club where she worked. I was already smitten at that point and I'm broad minded so I figured no biggie - if I was a hot girl I'd be a stripper myself. But when after months of hanging out as "friends" who make out but never went farther she out of the blue offered to pay me to do what she kept turning me down on I was surprised, but not about to say no. Months later when we were dating I asked her why she did that, and she told me to consider it a refund. I realized then that the amount was roughly equal to what I paid her for tips and lap dances the night I was taken to her club.
I have also paid for sex, and I'm not ashamed to say so. I don't have to. But sometimes I want to. By which I mean, sometimes I just want to have sex with an attractive woman as a transaction, because it frees me up to be more concerned with my own pleasure (as a paying customer) than I am with hers. And it also gets right down to business. That's not to say I haven't ever grown to like a woman I paid for sex as a person - it just means we were fucking, not making love.
The first time was when a friend's little sister came to me because I was the only guy in our circle of friends with a good job and offered herself to me for the night, no limits (she explicitly explained that she would do anything or anyone I asked that night, and that I could pass her around to my friends if I wanted - I think that was her fantasy, and I note that my friends included her brother), $50 to cover the last part of a concert ticket was all she wanted. I paid her, fucked her several times, then sent her to go fuck my brother who was hard up.
The next day she showed up on my doorstep and I was surprised, I figured we were more than even, and she said that as far as she was concerned she was still on the job. I got it, of course, her fantasy still hadn't been fulfilled. So I had another go then sent her to my Dad, who was recently divorced and while he wasn't hard up because he was a womanizer, she was a hot 18 year old and he was banging 40 year olds. Predictably, she showed back up around lunch time looking like she was on fire, living out her fantasy of being handed off to men like loaning out a tool or something, and by then I had already called my guy friends (including her brother) and told them I had a hot 18 year old who liked being passed around. One by one I sent her to their houses.
While she was with friend number 5 or 6 I think I called her brother up and invited him over for a beer, telling him I was expecting my new pass around fuck buddy any time. The look on his face when she showed up was priceless. Hers was even more so - I never saw anyone that horny before or since. She was trembling, almost vibrating, and looked ready to spontaneously combust. I just got up, told her that she knew what to do, and left the house to work in the yard. They didn't come out for several hours - and my bed was seriously messed up.
I understand she enjoyed the concert, too. ;)
The second time I paid for sex, was to a girl I knew from high school. She was complaining about money troubles when we ran into each other and I was annoyed. I hadn't seen her for a couple years and instead of a brief polite hob-nob I was listening to her bitch over her beer about money. So I told her that I was sure there were plenty of men in the bar who would help her with that if she was willing to sell some ass - which was supposed to be my way of saying "tell someone who cares" but to my surprise she looked at me dead seriously and said, "how much would you pay?" I think it was the closed ended question that got me. Instead of answering that I wouldn't pay, I automatically answered with what I could spare. She said "fine, but no butt sex." Then she got up, gathered her purse, and headed for the door. I had only a moment to decide, so I threw a 20 on the bar to pay for the drinks and went for the door. I was having second thoughts right up until she started to undress before we were even in the door of her apartment. I like to just think of that being old friends helping each other out.
Many other times I've paid for sex have all been token payments, mostly to my sister. Yes, I fuck my sister - have for years. Which is why I was not shocked that my friend's sister wanted him, and how I was able to guess it I think. Sometimes if she's playing hard to get I will offer her a pack of cigarettes or something cheap. It's more a running joke than a payment, but I always keep up my end (she always keeps up hers).
And then there have been the few times when I just hired a prostitute. I went where it was legal to do it, I like to gamble anyhow. And I wanted some assurance of health and I know those girls get checked out. And I was able to choose a very pretty, and I must say nice friendly woman each time.
I'm a wild and Krrraaazzzy Guy!
i let a guy rub my boobs for 100
I remember one girl in my live that was what one would call a true gold digger. Putting a lot of value on being paid for, having a man that would have significant sources of money. Making very materialistic choices when choosing a partner etc.
Most judged her as a bad character some called her a whore. When I started knowing her a little better, I found out that she was the daughter of a South American woman that had 7 kids from 7 men. None of all those guys had any funds and instead of providing for their kids they came by occasionally when they needed money themselves. 4 of the kids where girls - as gorgeous as they get. And I guess this mom made sure her girls would look for a true provider and - missing any inheritance or education would bargain on their beauty as much as they could.
After I knew the whole story I looked at her differently. So I guess you get the point I am trying to make – what choices someone makes always needs to be seen in context of where they are coming from.
I have had sex for money, at a time when I really needed. I crossed a lot of boundaries that I shouldn´t have; personal limits I have set for myself and never would have crossed if I wasn´t getting paid a large sum of money. When I look back on it all, that is the only part I am ashamed of. It is something I am ashamed of. I don´t think I will ever tell my boyfriend about it, mostly because I am afraid of how he will react to it.
I have been offered money for sex, by someone on lush. I didn't accept as it was very little money for what he wanted. If i was offered a decent amount of money and spending on how my boyfriend felt about it I would probably accept!
Yes, I have been offered money and gifts on Lush, especially an ex-friend who wanted the gifts featured in my pics. WTF? Never in real life money for sex, tho. No I would NEVER fucking accept money for sex!! NEVER!!! Let me repeat NEVER FUCKING EVER!!!
i dont think i could pay for sex it just (in my opinion) takes the intimatcy out of sex and i think it would just give it a weird vibe that i wouldent be okay with. I want a girl to want me not for my money but for me. i think it turns me on more that they want to have sex with me then the actually having sex.
I have been offered, and backed out at the last minute...would be willing to entertain the idea in the future. Everyody pays for sex, some in cash some in other ways.
As to men buying drinks. If I am going to a bar and some guy is hitting on me I want him to buy my drinks, at least some of them. Not because I expect to have things given to me but it shows an appriciation of me. Additionally, I am SOOOOO tired of the first comment people make when they hear I am a RN is "o i bet u make lots of $".
Wealthy man to sexy girl: "Would you spend the night with me for a MILLION dollars(pounds)?"
Sexy girl: "For a million, of course I could do that"
Weathly man: " How about $100"
Sexy girl: "No, of course not, what do you think I am"
Wealthy man: "We already know what you are, we're just arguing over the price"
Yes I have had sex for money..
Hihi, it's getting an interesting conversation here...
About getting drink and meals etc from a guy; over here that's not common, it's quite cheap to ask that from a guy we think.
Here you mostly pay BOTH, your going out BOTH, so it's not sayd that a guy HAS to pay everything.
Of course some scenes/ girls think they should pay, but that's always a certain type of girls....the material girls....
I wouldn't accept it and never let a guy pay everything for my a whole evening; I would feel that I taka advantage of a guy. I gain my own money...
And it also gives expectations, if you share the costs, you never have to feel guilty or whatever if you don't want to have sex with him....
not really an answer to this thread but I have to admit more and more I think about maybe paying for a house call for some fun. Where I live there are definately such services available but the prices .. woah !!
I would never pay for sex. Would I accept money for it? Hmmmmm...........
I'm very lucky, and I'm not talking about just the money.... I'm talking about him loving me so much. :)
