Active Ink Slinger
I have never had this experience, but reading all responses makes me want to try it!
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Candy Connoisseur
My wife and I used to do it all the time before we met face to face. We have been married almost 12 years, but have never done it since we met the first time all those years ago (no need to). Now she is overseas and not due back for a couple months. She thinks that kind of thing these days is lame or just awkward. Im not one to pressure her or make her do anything she does not want to do sexually, but ladies, how do I go about getting her interested in it again for the time she is away from me?? She has a vibrator, and Im not sure she even uses it all that often anyway. I loved phone sex, and even sexting her, but is hard to get her engaged in it these days.
Internet Philosopher
Phone sex is one of the things that led me to start writing erotica. I had been told by many partners that I was really good at getting them off so it seemed a natural next step to write.
I don't usually masturbate hard when talking as that distracts me from weaving the images. At least until I hear them cum. That's all the stimulation I need.
I don't usually masturbate hard when talking as that distracts me from weaving the images. At least until I hear them cum. That's all the stimulation I need.
Alpha Blonde
Quote by SydneySider
My wife and I used to do it all the time before we met face to face. We have been married almost 12 years, but have never done it since we met the first time all those years ago (no need to). Now she is overseas and not due back for a couple months. She thinks that kind of thing these days is lame or just awkward. Im not one to pressure her or make her do anything she does not want to do sexually, but ladies, how do I go about getting her interested in it again for the time she is away from me?? She has a vibrator, and Im not sure she even uses it all that often anyway. I loved phone sex, and even sexting her, but is hard to get her engaged in it these days.
Good phone sex really depends on a person's level of comfort with dirty-talk. If a person tends to be kind of "silent" during sex, then they will probably find phone sex a little more difficult to loosen up with.
You could try finding a story that you think is a turn on, or a sexual segment of a story that plays into a few of her kinks and do "bedtime story" reading on the phone. Sometimes it's easier to have a script to fall back on and then you can take pauses or talk about what part of the story made you hot... what you wish you could experience... how you imagine it... and go from there.
The phone sex I've had has always been really wild and raunchy and would probably drop a few jaws if they were listening in, but if the person isn't a natural dirty talker or used to writing erotica, then I'd definitely dial it down a few notches. The more you do it and once you get the right rhythm going, the more natural and intense it can be... it gets better the more you experiment with it, so if the first time is somewhat awkward, rest assured things will start to gel the more you try it. For a beginner or to set the right mood, I'd definitely go with a 'naughty-story' reading or maybe you can each pre-write a short little fantasy to read to each other... just to break the ice and get in the mood.
Purveyor of Sweetness
i have done it and it was awesome....... but i think i won't anymore.... it is just too emotional....
Candy Connoisseur
Quote by Dancing_Doll
Good phone sex really depends on a person's level of comfort with dirty-talk. If a person tends to be kind of "silent" during sex, then they will probably find phone sex a little more difficult to loosen up with.
You could try finding a story that you think is a turn on, or a sexual segment of a story that plays into a few of her kinks and do "bedtime story" reading on the phone. Sometimes it's easier to have a script to fall back on and then you can take pauses or talk about what part of the story made you hot... what you wish you could experience... how you imagine it... and go from there.
The phone sex I've had has always been really wild and raunchy and would probably drop a few jaws if they were listening in, but if the person isn't a natural dirty talker or used to writing erotica, then I'd definitely dial it down a few notches. The more you do it and once you get the right rhythm going, the more natural and intense it can be... it gets better the more you experiment with it, so if the first time is somewhat awkward, rest assured things will start to gel the more you try it. For a beginner or to set the right mood, I'd definitely go with a 'naughty-story' reading or maybe you can each pre-write a short little fantasy to read to each other... just to break the ice and get in the mood.
Thanks DD. I appreciate the input. I think you have hit the nail on the head about the comfort thing. Not with me, but the dirty talk thing. She usually has to be a little wasted before she starts telling me what she wants. Usually, I just watch her body language and gauge whats working and whats not other times. Like I said, I dont want to make her uncomfortable. She does have a few insecurity issues. All I'll do is push her away from what Id like. I like the story idea. She has a Kindle. Maybe I could find a short story and email it to her. Thanks again for the advice..a ladies perspective is always good on these kinds of things. Cheers..
Rookie Scribe
I would have to agree with most of the other ladies that have posted.. 
Phone sex can be amazing -- with the right partner.. If you already have a connection with them, then you can easily imagine them there with you... I love hearing a guy moaning, and breathing heavy.. especially when they respond well to my moans and whispers.. If they can get you hot during cyber, chances are they can finish you off with some phone sex.. I'm pretty choosy though.. If you get phone sex with me, congratulations...
Phone sex can be amazing -- with the right partner.. If you already have a connection with them, then you can easily imagine them there with you... I love hearing a guy moaning, and breathing heavy.. especially when they respond well to my moans and whispers.. If they can get you hot during cyber, chances are they can finish you off with some phone sex.. I'm pretty choosy though.. If you get phone sex with me, congratulations... 
Rookie Scribe
Phone Sex?? It's a great experience especially if the person on the other line knows how to DO it. I've done it lots of times and with different guys at that but the most memorable would have been with my ex boyfriend who talks dirtily and really knows which button to push just to get me screaming. He was so compelling I'd do whatever he tells me to do. It was as if he was there with me, actually fucking me. And to top it all off, we don't end with the usually goodbye. We stay on the phone after the deed is done and then sweet talk me into relaxation. The other guys? they just get what they want. But at least I get a thank you. LOL!
Anyhow, I prefer PS over cyber. There's more life to the fucking when you speak out than just typing it.
Anyhow, I prefer PS over cyber. There's more life to the fucking when you speak out than just typing it.
Phone sex can be amazing as long as you and the other person are emotionally connected besides there being physical attraction. When the other person is connected to you and knows what gets you off, then that's what makes it amazing.
I think being able to hear your S.O. climax is one of the sexiest things ever, and then go into general conversation is great. I'm not a fan of getting off and then saying goodbye. lol
I think being able to hear your S.O. climax is one of the sexiest things ever, and then go into general conversation is great. I'm not a fan of getting off and then saying goodbye. lol
Active Ink Slinger
I adore it. I don't masturbate alone now at all unless it's been like over 3 weeks. Alone just doesn't cut it anymore once you've discovered phone sex. Wish I knew about it 20 yrs ago. Those not into it just have no idea what they are missing, or haven't had good partners. Alone is like black and white. With another person is like technicolor. No comparison. I can't get enough.
Active Ink Slinger
I've done it and i would do it again and again... although its not as good as sex together but you focus more on the voice and the way he/she would be touching you rather than how you touching yourself
Sarcastic Coffee Aficionado
Quote by LauraLee_sugah
i have done it and it was awesome....... but i think i won't anymore.... it is just too emotional....
I was just thinking this ..... exactly!!
hard to find band-aids that fit the wounds later!
Cock Connoisseur
Phone sex with the right person, one you connect with on a deep emotional level and are attracted in all every way can be the most amazing thing in the absence of the physical. Hearing his voice as you close your eyes imagining your hands are his as you do each thing he says and hes doing the same imaging its you. The feel of the dildo or vibrator as it slides in and out of you knowing in your mind its his rock hard cock....It truly can be amazing with the right partner. The feelings and emotions can be as intense and real as the physical touch itself.
Active Ink Slinger
Quote by Ravyn
Phone sex with the right person, one you connect with on a deep emotional level and are attracted in all every way can be the most amazing thing in the absence of the physical. Hearing his voice as you close your eyes imagining your hands are his as you do each thing he says and hes doing the same imaging its you. The feel of the dildo or vibrator as it slides in and out of you knowing in your mind its his rock hard cock....It truly can be amazing with the right partner. The feelings and emotions can be as intense and real as the physical touch itself.
She nailed it and damn that made me want to pick up the phone....
The Bee's Knees
yes i do, although i haven't recently. i'm not good at role play during phone sex, lol too much concentration! i find the best phone sex either starts spontaneously or after a good round of sexting or cyber. i prefer it to just happen b/c those sessions tend to be longer and more intense. 
Say. Her. Name.
Active Ink Slinger
real hounest i never had a chanse for this one yet 
Wild at Heart
You guys are lucky. The girl I have phone sex with has trouble pronouncing words and regulating her breathing. It's part of the allure though...I suppose.
Active Ink Slinger
Quote by Magical_felix
You guys are lucky. The girl I have phone sex with has trouble pronouncing words and regulating her breathing. It's part of the allure though...I suppose.
WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Classified
When away once I called my wife. As if we were together. Both came together. Great experience.
Of all our inventions for mass communication, pictures still speak the most universally understood language.
Walt Disney
Rocker of the cocker
Quote by Ravyn
Phone sex with the right person, one you connect with on a deep emotional level and are attracted in all every way can be the most amazing thing in the absence of the physical. Hearing his voice as you close your eyes imagining your hands are his as you do each thing he says and hes doing the same imaging its you. The feel of the dildo or vibrator as it slides in and out of you knowing in your mind its his rock hard cock....It truly can be amazing with the right partner. The feelings and emotions can be as intense and real as the physical touch itself.
I second this..
Active Ink Slinger
With the guy I am dating now, it'd be awkward.
I've done it in a past relationship while I was beginning to travel abroad for disc jockey tours.
You just have to be super comfortable with that person and have not just a good relationship but good communicative one too.
He was my longest and most serious relationship so it was a given pretty much!
I've done it in a past relationship while I was beginning to travel abroad for disc jockey tours.
You just have to be super comfortable with that person and have not just a good relationship but good communicative one too.
He was my longest and most serious relationship so it was a given pretty much!
Phone sex is addictive it makes me wet! I've done it three times, the first time the guy i was phone sexing with sounded amazing but when we met up, I was urgh dissapointed didn't fancy him at all, he had moles on his face and a bunch of flower's, he could tell by the look on my face I didn't feel the same as he did... awkward moment.
The other two time, one friend was from Lush
not sayin whoo he's too lush!
And the other was a guy with an amazing uk accent swooooon.
I guess I'm a sucker for accents!
The other two time, one friend was from Lush
not sayin whoo he's too lush! And the other was a guy with an amazing uk accent swooooon.
I guess I'm a sucker for accents!