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I have never had this experience, but reading all responses makes me want to try it!
Quote by SydneySider
My wife and I used to do it all the time before we met face to face. We have been married almost 12 years, but have never done it since we met the first time all those years ago (no need to). Now she is overseas and not due back for a couple months. She thinks that kind of thing these days is lame or just awkward. Im not one to pressure her or make her do anything she does not want to do sexually, but ladies, how do I go about getting her interested in it again for the time she is away from me?? She has a vibrator, and Im not sure she even uses it all that often anyway. I loved phone sex, and even sexting her, but is hard to get her engaged in it these days.
Quote by Dancing_Doll
Good phone sex really depends on a person's level of comfort with dirty-talk. If a person tends to be kind of "silent" during sex, then they will probably find phone sex a little more difficult to loosen up with.
You could try finding a story that you think is a turn on, or a sexual segment of a story that plays into a few of her kinks and do "bedtime story" reading on the phone. Sometimes it's easier to have a script to fall back on and then you can take pauses or talk about what part of the story made you hot... what you wish you could experience... how you imagine it... and go from there.
The phone sex I've had has always been really wild and raunchy and would probably drop a few jaws if they were listening in, but if the person isn't a natural dirty talker or used to writing erotica, then I'd definitely dial it down a few notches. The more you do it and once you get the right rhythm going, the more natural and intense it can be... it gets better the more you experiment with it, so if the first time is somewhat awkward, rest assured things will start to gel the more you try it. For a beginner or to set the right mood, I'd definitely go with a 'naughty-story' reading or maybe you can each pre-write a short little fantasy to read to each other... just to break the ice and get in the mood.
Quote by LauraLee_sugah
i have done it and it was awesome....... but i think i won't anymore.... it is just too emotional....
Quote by Ravyn
Phone sex with the right person, one you connect with on a deep emotional level and are attracted in all every way can be the most amazing thing in the absence of the physical. Hearing his voice as you close your eyes imagining your hands are his as you do each thing he says and hes doing the same imaging its you. The feel of the dildo or vibrator as it slides in and out of you knowing in your mind its his rock hard cock....It truly can be amazing with the right partner. The feelings and emotions can be as intense and real as the physical touch itself.
Quote by Magical_felix
You guys are lucky. The girl I have phone sex with has trouble pronouncing words and regulating her breathing. It's part of the allure though...I suppose.
Quote by Ravyn
Phone sex with the right person, one you connect with on a deep emotional level and are attracted in all every way can be the most amazing thing in the absence of the physical. Hearing his voice as you close your eyes imagining your hands are his as you do each thing he says and hes doing the same imaging its you. The feel of the dildo or vibrator as it slides in and out of you knowing in your mind its his rock hard cock....It truly can be amazing with the right partner. The feelings and emotions can be as intense and real as the physical touch itself.