I would rather he enjoy me... But in reality, we all have needs. I know for me... I enjoy the play time alone so how I can deny my man that..
"I'd much rather be a woman than a man. Women can cry, they can wear cute clothes, and they are the first to be rescued off of sinking ships."
— Gilda Radner
If I'm not there it doesn't matter as I wouldn't know. If I was there it would bother me because I would expect him to want my participation in one form or another.
The only way I would have a problem with it is if it became something that was super secretive and the porn became a replacement for me. Otherwise, I'm fine with it to a healthy degree as I certainly have my own needs that sometimes can't be met by partner for one reason or another. Having said, I have always and would always do my best to be as available to my man as I possibly can be so resorting to porn would be more of a couple thing than a solo act ;-)
I don't see why it should bother me when I will watch it sometimes myself.
My boyfriends ex apparently hated him watching it, I really don't see why some ppl make a big deal out of it personally