Been married for 36 years to a great gal, I am 66 and she is 57....We had a balls to the wall sex life for years, nothing was forbidden or not tried at least once. Thennnnn----------- Due to a sister with cancer and it being in her family she had a cyst on her ovaries and the Doctor suggested removal of her ovaries, not a Hysterectomy just the ovaries ...okay it was thankfully benign and nothing to be afraid of he stated BUT she was also not a candidate for hormones due to the family history.......from that point on it has been nil to none sex. No making out, no oral, no anal, no porn, no thing and we always enjoyed all of that.
This has been 15 years and i am really trying not to just walk. She says she has no desire for sex, doesn't think about it, never fantasies about it and truthfully could care less about it....Well I am still young and active and want my wife.
I have suggested natural hormones (they were useless), I have even said if it is me not turning her on then she can be with someone else as long as i can share in her pleasure (No way). I have met up with an old fuck buddy of hers from when we were separated 18 years ago, he and I became friends shared the night they had between them, shared out own fantasies and have some of the same such as 3-somes, 4-somes-gang bangs,. She always liked back then us -drinking/dancing/cards/strip poker.
He and i have tried to arrange a night of drinking/dancing and cards to see where it might go. She was okay with it and a friend of hers from school showed up that night but we had a trial night of just drinking/dancing and she was a blast and the girlfriend ruined it so we made another plan to redo the night.......just when it was to happen she backed out with the "I am dead down there and am not interested".
Needless to say I am going nuts, don't want to cheat and will allow her to if she'll let me enjoy it also. It has caused major issues in our relationship. What do I do??????????
Is it normal for a woman to just give up on sex after removal of her ovaries never to have it reappear?
Hope someone can help me,I am tired of jacking off to Lushstories.....