I think in many cases it will depend on the partner. submission takes an incredible amount of trust. I am a very dominate person, both at work and in my personal life. Until I met my Master. Everything changed for me. He controls me and my actions, and my intent is always to please him. He can drop me to my knees in a second. But i do want to say submitting is not all about rough sex. Your Dom can be gentle and loving with you. Dont confuse that D/s is only about pain and roughness. Is it instinctive? I think the instinct is for the man to protect the female and the female to want that protection.
Now I've got this nice warm cave and a big club.
I believe it really does depend on the people. Before I dated my now husband; I was always in control when it came to relationships due to a bf that... lets say was extremely volatile to me. Needless to say for personality I am very docile. But then when I met my Sir, I learned what it is to trust and be loved to the point of complete acceptance, love and protection. He can control everything and I don't even realize because He does it in a manner that I accept. He's gentle and instinctively Dominate. So am I instinctively submissive?...possibly if that is also just not aggressive.
As for the sex part...I can only say He likes when I do put up resistance cause that is not normally me..its hot and exciting to roll around and growl XD
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Possibly it is has always been in my nature, I just thought I was naive and wanted to be protected. It seems that is the essence of submission...
By nature no, to some.... fuck yes.
I'm not convinced it has anything to do with instinct but rather the right partner.
I've wondered this myself, but I think for me, it was just the way I lost my virginity and all my early experiences were with someone more dominant than me so I think I prefer it because it reminds me of that time in my life. It's what I'm used to, it's what turns me on, so I don't think I could be the dominant. I've fucked men and women with a strap-on but I still like them to tell me what to do and some role-play that implies I'm being made to do it!
